Many girls only vaguely and surely believe that they need to find someone to marry, but they don't have much idea of why they need marriage and the correct understanding of marriage.
Today, I would like to talk to you about at least a few questions you need to figure out before you officially enter a marriage or start looking for someone.
It is said that marriage is a safe haven, but who will avoid the wind and who will be the harbor?
Many people think that they have found a lifelong reliance and a safe haven when they get married, and when they get married, they suddenly find that her husband cannot always protect her, and he is also an ordinary person with extremely limited ability.
And when you have a child, your child needs your protection all the time.
The so-called marriage is that the husband and wife pay together in order to run a family.
This kind of giving, in addition to time and money, also includes sacrificing a part of the self for marriage.
Marriage is not about fulfilling you, on the contrary, marriage requires you to sacrifice a part of yourself to fulfill it.
Love is enduring patience and kindness.
Many people inexplicably feel that as long as they find the right person and get married, life will be on the right track smoothly.
If you have this childish intention, think twice.
Zhang Defen said: "Many people get married because they want to find someone to shield themselves from the wind and rain, but they have ushered in the biggest storm. ”
There is no unconditional love in the world, and marriage cannot save your original failed life.
No one has that obligation.
Marriage is a huge test for anyone.
You must continue to pay a lot of energy, to introspect, to run in, to grow, in order to achieve "stable happiness" is possible.
Without such enlightenment, there is often disappointment and pain after marriage.
A girl, if before marriage, takes the boy's kindness to her as a matter of course, as if he owes himself, then there is often a price to pay after marriage.
A man, but who gives up self-esteem before marriage to please you, once married will often make you pay the price.
If you don't want to fall into that routine, you should keep a little more sanity.
While taking, we must learn to give, learn to compromise for love, is the way to long-term marriage.
You may think it's natural for him to stand in the cold wind waiting for you for an hour on a date;
But when he asks you to watch a ball game with him, you show an impatient look, which is a manifestation of immaturity.
Men are born to be good to women!
Girlfriends/wives are for petting!
Only unconditional love is true love!
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The only function of these love poison chicken soups is to make you never get love.
Because the most basic premise of love is always to treat each other as equals.
There is no perfect good thing in the world, and marriage is the same.
When looking for a job, people know how to weigh their own conditions, including education, experience, skills, etc., to find a job that is relatively matching their own value.
If you're just a college student, you won't be chattering all day about not getting paid at the graduate level.
However, when people face love and marriage, they often lose this ability to think calmly.
What kind of person would you like to find?
Or what are the strengths you most wish this had?
Take out a blank piece of paper and write down the answers you can think of one by one.
Then mark all the options in order.
Those who are at the top of the list are preferred; those who are at the bottom of the list can be considered for abandonment.
In this way, when you choose a mate, you can make a calm and objective choice.
If you always try to find a perfect ideal object in your mind, take the advantages of the other party for granted, take the advantages that the other party does not have, see the regrets, and even keep complaining...
In this case, it is difficult for you to find a suitable candidate.
Causes of relationship breakdown include:
The other party cheats, empathizes with each other, can't run in, three years of itching and so on.
Except that the sun rises every day from the east and sets from the west, nothing in the world is certain, including feelings.
Therefore, you must do a good job of "risk control" in advance.
Ask yourself, no matter what the reason for the emotional failure, can you independently bear the corresponding consequences?
In the unlikely event of a divorce in the future, will you be able to retain the ability to live independently?
A woman, if she is in love, thinks that she has gained the whole world, loses love and collapses completely, and puts her life all in a man and a relationship, which is immature.
This shows that she has not yet done a good job of thinking about love and marriage.