1. Who you are, you will meet
Love is so beautiful, however, if you are not careful, it will hurt people. Those who are lonely and sad, often introspecting in the middle of the night, suddenly find out, why, I always meet the same person?
It's not just accidental. In psychology, this phenomenon is related to "personality".
How to Embrace a Hedgehog: Personality Recognition, Acceptance and Giving in Love and Marriage is a psychology book related to "personality". In a very humorous and novel way, it shows us nine types of personalities, each of which presents its own typical characteristics in the process of dealing with intimate relationships.
Good love must be based on excellent personality. Personality is about the quality of love, and at the same time, love can also correct some of the flaws in personality.
Before we embrace what we love, there are already countless excellent models in this world. The reason why everyone's love situation is different is not only because of the difference in personality between each other, but more importantly, after falling in love, whether we can use the way the other person likes to show our own love.
Who you are, you will meet, as fate would have it.
Study this book "How to Embrace a Hedgehog", it can inspire us to have a better "love quotient".
2. "How to Hug a Hedgehog"
Over the years, I have also read a lot of books on psychology, but none of them can capture my heart as deeply as How to Hug a Hedgehog. Not only because of its peculiar psychological perspective, but also because of its humorous novelty and ease of understanding.
Reading psychology books, we do not want to prove that we are "sick", reading psychology books, more often, we are to know ourselves, to find ourselves, at the same time, to learn to love ourselves better.
Having a love that nourishes oneself is also a big thing to love oneself. Who doesn't crave a soul mate? But the arrival of a truly compatible soul mate does not mean the complete disappearance of contradictions. No, life is trivial, even if it is people who love each other, we will still have contradictions.
However, with more understanding of ourselves and our lovers, we will be more tolerant. Only by truly understanding each other's true emotional needs can we be better cared for and given the most genuine care to our loved ones.
3. The so-called personality
The definition of personality, in the book How to Embrace a Hedgehog, is discussed in detail. I love this concept and would like to share it with you here.
Personality stems from the individual's own stable behavior and internal psychological processes.
A stable way of behaving means that our personality does not change for no reason. It is influenced by factors such as the family of origin, as well as environmental and socio-cultural factors. Personality is a steady pattern of behavior and internal mental processes that are gradually formed. Because of this, because of the instability of behavior and psychological level of adolescents, that love is mostly impulsive.
We need to be able to present our stable selves rationally before we can truly have the ability to love others.
Regarding personality, there are many academic insights into psychology in How to Embrace a Hedgehog. In addition to the psychoanalytic school represented by Freud, the humanistic school and the behaviorist school also have their own analytical perspectives. Regardless of these theories, we need only know that different personalities, their manifestations in intimate relationships, always follow the corresponding laws. Although the nine types of personality division cannot be summarized, the nine types of personality are already very representative.
Usually, we will not be the embodiment of a simple personality type, but a collection of multiple personality types.
As stated in How to Hug a Hedgehog – personality is a mirror, the lovers we meet are often a projection of the mirror of the self, the lovers we choose reflect our needs, and the fear within us: "Who you are, you will meet whom", it is our personality that makes each other attracted to each other.
4. It is easy to fall in love, but it is difficult to get along
Love is easy to get along with, "How to hug a hedgehog" is for different personality types, in the form of cases to show the reader one by one, we understand different love schemas, and then understand the different problems to face in love with different people. Love portraits, the sharing of their love feelings, the analysis of each mode of getting along, and each personality, this book has made a full interpretation of it. The most interesting thing about this book is that it also recommends the corresponding film and television dramas. This kind of recommendation, in other psychology books, is very rare.
For example, in our popular "All Is Good" in recent years, in this TV series, we can well understand the love representation of dependent personality. For example, "The Life of the Rejected Pine Nuts" is also very famous. After reading This Book of How to Embrace a Hedgehog, we will understand the pathetic love of this borderline personality.
In short, "How to Embrace a Hedgehog: Personality Recognition, Acceptance and Giving in Love and Marriage" is a very rare and valuable psychology popular science book. Such an interesting, informative, and easy-to-read popular science work in psychology, what reason can you refuse?