In "Heavenly Dao", Rui Xiaodan and Ding Yuanying have a dialogue that can be called the classic of the love between men and women.
Rui Xiaodan looked at Ding Yuanying and said, "There are only two ways for men and women to talk, either lying down or standing.
So I'm always willing to think of you as a drunkard on the street who wants to take you in, but I can't imagine how high the threshold for taking you in is.
You said that you could just throw you a piece of steamed bun, but the steamed bun you wanted was too big for me, a poor family, to feed you. ”
After that, Ding Yuanying stared at me and said, "Why do you want to feed me?" ”
Xiao Dan quickly replied without thinking: "Psychology, the psychological needs of women." With you, I'm not yet confident enough to stand and talk to you without proof. ”
Immediately after that, Ding Yuanying stared at Xiao Dan with a face of three points of surprise and seven points of admiration and even obsessive eyes, and even when he went to take the wine bottle in his hand, he was stunned that he had never left her eyes.
This profound dialogue in the TV series "Heavenly Path" is a deep lesson for us in the relationship between men and women.
In all the relationships that exist in this world, men and women must have a certain prerequisite for their dialogue: class reciprocity, wealth reciprocity, needed reciprocity, and so on.
The so-called love is also an emotion that can never be detached from the material basis, and it is precisely because of this that men and women in this world seem to be rarely able to escape this limitation.
Why is Ding Yuanying obviously a mobile cash machine in the play, but Rui Xiaodan insists on always thinking of throwing steamed buns at him, and he has to be used as a stray dog to feed, and he has to take him out for a walk...
Because true love is based on respect and equality, any suppression and trampling in the name of love is a lie about love between each other.
In the dialogue between Rui Xiaodan and Ding Yuanying, he pointed out the way men and women get along.
There are only two ways for women to talk to men, either standing or lying down.
Women need material independence and more spiritual independence to be able to stand and talk to men, rather than surrendering their fate to each other as soon as they fall in love.
At this time, I finally understood what Ding Yuanying once said to Ouyang Xue: "It is precisely because of Xiao Dan's ability that her future did not let me participate." ”
True love stems from the fact that I love you, and of course, I don't love you.
One cannot just talk about "love" in love and ignore the most important thing---- me.
In love, first of all, you must be you, you must have an ego; secondly, you should love the other person.
And this is rui xiaodan's so-called standing dialogue, women have to lie down and talk to men, but lying down is not going to bed, lying in the eyes of the original Rui Xiaodan is a kind of soul and body fit, a mutual attraction and harmony.
Lying down and talking to men is also conditional, that is, not only has a hue, but also has a soul, otherwise even if you sleep for thousands of soulless people, it will end up being just a pile of fat meat.
The satisfaction of material conditions has given women more capital to stand and talk, Rui Xiaodan is with Ding Yuanying, and she is not yet confident enough to stand and talk with him without proof.
Therefore, her plan needs to be combined with Ding Yuanying's plan to establish a structure, so that it is possible to stand and talk for a long time.
But the mere material satisfaction is by no means something that ordinary women can easily carry, not to mention the meaning of standing and talking, which is far beyond the narrow scope of economic independence.
Spiritual equality and deep personality independence are magnificent unknown areas, and equal love requires spiritual mutual support, and even more needs mutual comfort in the soul.
In the play, Ding Yuanying lives a rich lifestyle under the condition of having money, and under the condition of no money, even if he cooks instant noodles every day for the New Year, he will eat it correctly.
There is a way from simplicity to luxury, from luxury to thrift...
Ding Yuanying's character background in the play is home in Chengdu, Sichuan, saying that the taste of Sichuan hot pot has a variety of, I believe that everyone knows such dietary conditions, Ding can also eat water boiled instant noodles every day, what a realm this is...
To be honest, is Ding Yuanying in the original really unable to make himself eat delicious meals?
In fact, this is the result of its cultural attributes, and it is also the essential reason why its strong culture defeats its weak culture.
Here I can give a very realistic example from our lives to illustrate:
We can see the new crown epidemic, because the national and cultural attributes of our country determine that we will unite and fight the epidemic together, and the cultural attributes of foreign countries determine what fate results in this matter?
I believe that this point is also obvious to all.
Therefore, as small as a person, as large as a country, its inherent cultural attributes are so important, and the five thousand years of Chinese civilization that have survived to this day are also the result of the action of this cultural attribute.
How to shape this cultural attribute is where the wisdom, the soul, and the truth of our ancestors lie, and each of us Chinese because it is Chinese and the heart of the child is located.
The original novel of the "Heavenly Path" film and television drama "Distant Savior", which is a masterpiece that summarizes philosophy, economy, love, officialdom, people's hearts and so on.
Many people see the actor Wang Zhiwen and think of Ding Yuanying's classic and profound lines, in fact, these lines are only part of the original work.
The description of more real content, the direct dialogue that debunks reality, is difficult to really shoot.
The author Doudou is also a mysterious figure, she has only written three books so far: "Distant Savior", "Heavenly Red Dust", "Betrayal", and its trilogy corresponds to the three stages of life, and it also contains Tao, Zen, Yi and other contents.
The magic of it is really not something that can be summarized in three or two sentences in words, and interested friends can go to see it and feel the classics and life wisdom in the original work.
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