one.
People are less accustomed to rejection because rejection means harm. Relatives borrow money from you, and you can't bear to refuse. If you refuse, people will blame you for not talking about family affection. Friends ask you for help, and you can't bear to refuse. If you refuse, you will not be embarrassed to ask for help in the future. As long as you can, there is not much problem in not rejecting. Death is to face the guilt, just have enough.
Only love, you can't bear to refuse it is easy to have problems. People who don't like it, can't force themselves together. You don't refuse, and the next thing that follows is the beginning of the pain. Do you still have to be intolerable? You don't have to.
two.
In "Spring Day Delays Departure", David made the decision to "reject Lu Ying". It's love affair, and it's unrealistic hope that every couple can successfully hold hands. That inappropriateness means the need to refuse, and it doesn't matter whether the man rejects the woman or the woman rejects the man. But the man's rejection of the woman always makes people feel too cruel.
In the traditional consciousness, men chase women across the mountain, and women chase men in layers of yarn. Even the "yarn" can block two people, which should be so unappropriated. Do you want to think about it again? Maybe give the other party a chance, but also give yourself a chance?
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From another perspective, are you giving the other party a wrong hint? The other party thinks that he still has a play, so he is more involved in this relationship. But for you, the mind is no longer on this person. From the perspective of a bystander, is this very unfair to others? Wait until someone gets deeper and deeper, and then you say "no" – does it hurt her more?
At this moment, it is impossible to use the pretext of "not accepting rejection" as a pretext. The two are really inappropriate and need to make a "polite refusal" choice. Are you going around without saying anything clear and letting the other person guess? Or tell the other person directly, "You are not my cup of tea." (You're not the one I like)?
shop.
As the "heartbeat detective" of "Spring Day Late Departure", Wu Xin said: "When I saw David reject Lu Ying, I was really a little sad for Lu Ying. After all, in the relationship, the rejected party will be hurt to some extent, but in fact, it is more responsible to stop the loss in time than ambiguous ambiguity.
I hope that everyone in "Spring Day Delays And Departures" can not only bravely express their love, but also soberly face the problems encountered in their feelings. ”
Politely reject each other, do not play ambiguous. You express it directly, and this is the greatest protection for that person.
five.
I still remember when I was in college, my roommate Xiaoya especially liked that senior. The senior was personable and gentle, and Xiao Ya bravely confessed on the day of 214. In full view of everyone, the senior was very embarrassed. But he politely accepted the roses sent by Xiao Ya, and Xiao Ya thought he had succeeded. She was eager to tell the world that the relationship was trying to bear fruit.
As everyone knows, the senior just doesn't want Xiao Ya to be embarrassed in public. I thought that in time, Xiao Ya would no longer make this decision on impulse. Dragging and dragging, dragging until the senior is about to graduate. During this period, the senior and Xiao Ya have maintained a relationship of imminent separation.
At the time of graduation, the senior confessed. Xiao Ya was devastated, but what else could he do? The senior returned to his town and had no contact with Xiao Ya...
END。
Wu Xin said: Not only can you bravely express your love, but also be able to soberly face the problems encountered in your feelings.
Xiao Ya couldn't do it, and the senior was not like this. Such injuries are often terrifying beyond imagination.
Face it sincerely, even if you refuse, don't avoid the problem. In this way, the harm to people is the lowest!
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