There are many things in life that must not be done, and feelings are no exception. It's just that all the "effects" are contained in the "causes."
In short, whatever cause is planted, what result will be obtained.
For women who fall in love, happiness is just a beat of pursuing with all their strength, just like in the original "Heavenly Dao", at first Rui Xiaodan used all her strength in order to pursue Ding Yuanying, but what she got was Ding Yuanying's indifference to her.
Honesty to pay for love is very touching, but if you want to get more love and favor from men, the most important thing is not to pay frequently in the feelings, but to create two feelings.
The more a woman does in a relationship, the less loved she is
Rui Xiaodan, she is extremely beautiful, and she is a rich second generation, and her work is also very good, so when she heard her friend Xiao Yawen mention Ding Yuanying, she had a bad impression of Ding Yuanying's best and had already done a good job of dissuading Ding Yuanying to harass herself.
However, Xiao Yawen gave Rui Xiaodan a little advice, and she advised Rui Xiaodan not to develop feelings for Ding Yuanying:
When you think this person is very special, don't think about this kind of person, once you do, you will open the gates of hell. There will be no second result other than being tortured yourself.
At that time, Rui Xiaodan was very dismissive, in her opinion, someone like Ding Yuanying, she could not look at it, so she said that sentence: Don't worry, don't let me here.
The implication is that xiao Yawen believes in her, but she does misunderstand the advice of her girlfriend, Xiao Yawen has no love for Ding Yuanying, but just wants to treat him as a person who can be used in the future.
Remind Rui Xiaodan because Ding Yuanying had a short marriage, but only married for half a year before ending in divorce. The reason why I reminded Xiao Dan was just that I didn't want to watch Xiao Dan get hurt.
It's just that feelings are not expected by anyone. Especially for women's love, it is impossible to predict when it comes, especially when the proud Rui Xiaodan meets Ding Yuanying, who is more proud than her, the sense of conquest in her heart is stimulated.
Indeed, Ding Yuanying is a talent, his personal life is very simple, the desire for money is very low, but he attaches great importance to spiritual enjoyment, loves to buy records, and chooses a position at the peak of his career, giving only one reason: I want to clean up for a while.
Such a special man, who had not contacted Rui Xiaodan for eight months, surprised her too much, and also made her re-examine Xiao Yawen's sentence "I can't understand this kind of person with my intelligence."
After Rui Xiaodan had a good feeling for Ding Yuanying, she began to run to his side to ask for warmth, obviously Ding Yuanying did not need her to send food, drink, install air conditioning and find a house, she still took the initiative to help again and again.
However, Ding Yuanying's response has always been polite and distant, never refusing, but never accepting. This is the case between men and women, and the harder a woman behaves, the more cramped men feel cramped.
Because not all good can be exchanged for empathy, and not all love can be exchanged for the same frequency resonance.
Create two feelings, will be cherished
At this time, Rui Xiaodan loved very bitterly, very tired, and even a little sad, and the light of love in her eyes even saw that her friend Ouyang Xue could see it, and she was hugging her unevenly.
Rui Xiaodan is beautiful and rich, and charming, only men chase her share, but when she is bent on throwing herself at Ding Yuanying, there is no love of "peach in return", only neglect and ignored.
It wasn't until Rui Xiaodan created two feelings that their feelings quickly warmed up:
The first feeling created is weakness. Before Rui Xiaodan helped Ding Yuanying to be very high, sending him food, drink, and caring about his life.
However, all these booing and warming got was that Ding Yuanying continued to keep a long distance and did not give her a chance to get closer. Until Rui Xiaodan once almost died, she subconsciously called Ding Yuanying, and then she cried out:
I was almost killed just now, and the muzzle of the gun was on my head, it was a rotten egg, and I was afraid that I would never see you again when I died.
After Rui Xiaodan, who has always been strong, showed weakness, Ding Yuanying was greatly touched and said: In this life, you have a red face and confidant, which is enough.
The second feeling created is feminine. When Rui Xiaodan wore a moon-white silk nightgown and slowly slid down, the beautiful curves and delicate skin were like perfect and holy works of art.
At this time, Rui Xiaodan is a goddess, a ubiquitous femininity, and what man can refuse such a beautiful woman? Even if the heart is hard, the heart has long since become soft.
Therefore, women's tears and weakness, as well as femininity and tenderness like water, are the best "means" to impress men and eat men.
As it is said in the psalms: A lady, a gentleman.
Scarcity makes it easier to get love
Scarcity also means rare, rare and hard-to-get things that are more cherished. Friendship is like this, relationships are like this, love is like this.
The reason why Ding Yuanying got Rui Xiaodan's liking was because of his specialness, obviously a very powerful person, but he was particularly low-key and indisputable.
He doesn't like to disturb others, but he also does his best to help others. Such a capable and reliable man can naturally win the likes of Rui Xiaodan.
In the same way, Ding Yuanying was originally afraid of women and avoided women, but he met Rui Xiaodan, who ignored it for love, and was finally moved.
This is the power of scarcity, like Ding Yuanying, who has the ability not to pursue money too much, so that his life is minimal, but the spiritual life is very rich, can be described as the ultimate in scarcity.
Rui Xiaodanming is very good and rich, but she is not material at all, let alone pay attention, she only pursues freedom and individuality, and only pursues to live according to her own wishes.
So two people with the same personality naturally came together.
It is worth noting that when Ding Yuanying did not fall in love with Rui Xiaodan at the beginning, she did a lot for him and did not get favor, until finally when she stopped blindly paying, she captured love with only gentleness and weakness.
The feelings of men and women, in the final analysis, are like a "cultural attribute", not based on human will, but only on emotion and resonance as the standard.
In the relationship, it is not that the more you give, the more you can get love, but if you love right, you will get love, even if you pay very little, it will also play the role of four or two pounds.
When the heart is touched, love is loved, and when love overflows the atrium, the man is naturally eaten by the woman.