I have heard such a sentence: silence is golden, less to say less wrong. More people keep their mouths shut, and fewer people keep their hearts.
Indeed it is. As a social animal, whether it is dealing with interpersonal relationships or communicating between feelings, people must learn to think rationally and be indifferent to money.
Especially for men, they are rational most of the time, but there are not many people who are rational and intelligent and have a pattern. And Ding Yuanying in "Heavenly Dao" can be regarded as a high person.
He can always maintain a calm in money and interpersonal relationships, accustomed to looking down on money, and accustomed to not bothering others, living a minimalist life.
Just by looking at the two things of underestimating money and not bothering others, we can see that he is really not simple, but such a person is like Xiao Yawen, who has been his secretary for more than a year, who said, "is a ghost, a demon, and is not a person anyway."
People who look down on money are not simple
Ding Yuanying has talent and foresight, but the requirements for life are very low, and it is very satisfying to have a bowl of rice to eat, especially in terms of money.
When Ding Yuanying dissolved the company, he had no money on him at all, because his money was frozen for 3 years. Even more excessive was the time when the partner signed a pledge not to work in the same industry for 5 years and offered to compensate him for 180,000 marks.
Ding Yuanying did not ask for a penny of compensation, and signed the pledge directly, but only asked for a fraction of 136,000 marks from the frozen funds to save some money for his meal.
In this era when everyone is fighting for money and profit, people like Ding Yuanying who do not love money are really not simple. To say that it is not greedy in the small place, and to say that there is a pattern in the large place, do not lose yourself for the small profits of the fly in front of you.
What is even more simple is that Ding Yuanying lent some of the money he had to his friend Han Chufeng's wife, which was written in the original book of "Heavenly Dao":
Ding Yuanying's existing money does not exceed 180,000, which is the living expenses he prepared for the next few years, he carefully calculated and said: Sorry sister-in-law, I can only give you 150,000.
If there is nothing to borrow money in the emergency, and Han Chufeng's wife came to borrow money from Ding Yuanying, it is not that Han Chufeng is short of money, but he only "cleans up the aftermath" after the trouble for his brother, and does not want her husband to know, so he looks for Ding Yuanying to help.
Of course, Ding Yuanying knew that Han Chufeng's family was not short of money at all, and it was really unreasonable to let such a "poor person" as him use living expenses to "deal with trouble" for the rich.
However, in the face of his friend's wife borrowing money, Ding Yuanying preferred to be bitter himself, and did not say a word, but only left a little money to rent and eat.
From Ding Yuanying's attitude toward money, we can also see the profoundness of this person's thinking, he does not think about helping people who are richer than him, nor does he want to lend money out how he should live.
Such a person never considers how he is living, but does not reject anything he can do for his friends, and the man is reliable and worthy of cooperation, because he always adheres to the mentality that it is a blessing to suffer.
People who live minimally, very deeply
Nietzsche once said that when a more advanced philosopher is alone, it is not because he wants to be alone, but because he cannot find his kind around him.
Ding Yuanying is such a person, he is willing to be alone, but also enjoy alone. Use a minimalist life to face the disturbing world.
In the house he rented in the old city, there was only gray cement floor, white door paint, and no cooking utensils. The furniture is only a bed, a water heater, a TV, a sofa and a coffee table, the most conspicuous of which are two computers and a set of stereos.
Ding Yuanying's friend thought that this room was too simple, but he said with satisfaction:
Eat, wash, listen, see, have it all, very good.
For Ding Yuanying, who has experienced the most luxurious life, drinking tens of thousands of yuan a bottle of red wine, and can live a simple and ascetic life, this is the minimalism of life.
Only a minimalist lifestyle like Ding Yuanying can be comfortable in prosperity and be at ease in a hard life.
The minimalism of the material and the minimalism of life have given him more choices in life, increased more precipitation, and also allowed him to have better cultivation.
In the face of the earthly world, he is not unable to fight, but unwilling to fight, in the face of interests, not not to want, but to take only the most basic needs.
It seems silly, but it is actually wise. In his view, gains and losses, requests and needs, all have specific cultural attributes, and if you want to live to understand, you must stay away from things outside your body.
Minimalist people will take the initiative to break away, spend more time, and make more correct choices.
The more powerful people are, the more they have to keep their distance
Although Ding Yuanying did not argue and did not rob, he was not easy to provoke, and his body was full of murderous and leprosy, which was a deeply hidden trait of a powerful person.
In the face of people who look down on money and minimalism, maintaining a proper distance is the smartest choice.
Take Liu Bing, who deals with Ding Yuanying a lot, for example, at the beginning, when Ding Yuanying was at his most difficult time, he recycled his records at a low price and sold them at a high price.
Later, Liu Bing put a very thick face on Ding Yuanying, wanting to follow him to get rich, and when the company encountered risks, he withdrew his shares regardless of the situation, but he wanted to find a position in the company.
All this Ding Yuanying saw in his eyes, so before Ding Yuanying left, he deliberately told Liu Bing some "trade secrets" to test Liu Bing's loyalty.
Sure enough, Liu Bing was blinded by the desire to smoke his heart, took the so-called "trade secrets" to blackmail the company, and finally the bamboo basket was empty, and the desperate Liu Bing ended the farce directed by himself by jumping off the building.
I have to say that a powerful person like Ding Yuanying has the ability to strategize and can also foresee the future through the greed and anger of human nature.
Once the motive is impure or the mind is wavering, it is easy to be picked up by him very badly, so that the mind of such a powerful person can never be guessed by most ordinary people.
Keeping a certain distance is safe. Human nature will inevitably have greed and selfishness, but it will not last a lifetime.
Powerful people must have his superiority, but the distance is too close to be able to figure it out thoroughly, and it is easy to be smart but mistaken by smart, but it is better to go back to maintain a considerable distance, and you can also move forward and backward freely.