The original work of "Heavenly Dao": When people are in distress, do not try to ask for these two kinds of people, especially realistic

Milan Kundera has such a sentence in "Life Outside": Meeting is a matter of two people, but leaving is a decision of one person. Meeting is the beginning, but leaving is to meet the next departure.

It's both heart-wrenching and makes sense. Yes, in this world where we are not good at saying goodbye, we are saying goodbye every day. Say goodbye to the joys and sorrows of the past, say goodbye to friends, and partners who fight side by side.

Especially when the farewell when the victim is even more heartbreaking, but even if the wise person is in distress, he will not save these two kinds of people, just like Ouyang Xue in the original novel "The Distant Savior" of "Heavenly Dao", even if it is difficult for him, he will not seek profit and short-sighted people.

This is the choice of smart people, just as Ouyang Xue understands that there is no one to ask for, but it is better to save himself. It is precisely because of Ouyang Xue's transparency and strength, in the face of difficulties, she never asks for people, so her luck is getting better and better in the end.

True to that sentence: a fool has a foolish blessing.

Short-sighted people, don't beg them

In the book "Distant Savior", Ouyang Xue, the largest shareholder of Grace, encountered a very tricky matter, and Lin Yufeng of the sound industry boss Le Sheng Company sued their company, claiming 6 million yuan as soon as he opened his mouth.

This frightened the two partners besides Ouyang Xue, Ye Xiaoming, Liu Bing and Feng Shijie. I really responded to that big disaster and flew separately.

Ye Xiaoming's first reaction was that his brain was blinded and he felt finished. Originally, I wanted to make some money with Ding Yuanying, but I didn't expect to hit tens of thousands of yuan of capital, not to mention, but also to get into trouble.

Similar to Ye Xiaoming's reaction is Liu Bing, he only said one sentence: 6 million, is this not a whole death? Le Sheng is not good, sooner or later there is such a day, can not hide.

They all think that Ding Yuanying is the wrong person, and they also dislike Ding Yuanying for not investing money himself, of course, it is not painful to take other people's money, accusing him of standing and talking without waist pain.

You see, this is a short-sighted person, when he first wanted to rely on Ding Yuanying's wisdom to get rich, it was a rhetoric, thinking that Ding Yuanying was a good person.

Once there is a slight trouble in interests, they immediately turn their faces and have all kinds of complaints and distrust of Ding Yuanying, they have long forgotten that Ding Yuanying did not share a penny of benefits, it was completely an act of poverty alleviation.

And when Liu Bing wanted to ask Ding Yuanying for advice on this matter in advance, Ye Xiaoming directly refused, thinking that he thought that they were poor eggs and won the battle.

Therefore, they resolutely decided not to listen to Ding Yuanying anymore, nor to seek his opinion anymore, and decided to take 100,000 yuan alone to find Lin Yufeng for peace.

Don't say that Ding Yuanying doesn't know, with his minimalist personality, he won't ask them to stay. Because short-sightedness is the weakness of human nature, but also a cultural attribute.

For Ding Yuanying, who sees through everything, he will not ask for people, especially short-sighted people. Otherwise he wouldn't have been so poor as to sell records or make a phone call to borrow money from a friend.

This is Ding Yuanying's independent personality, and it is also his minimalist attitude towards life. Deeply aware of the rules of human nature, you will never force others or ask others to make choices.

Those whose interests are supreme, it is useless to ask

Of course, In addition to being short-sighted, Ye Xiaoming, Liu Bing and Feng Shijie are also people with supreme interests. That is to say, what is beneficial to them will be scrambled to do, and once they feel that they have no interest in themselves or pose a threat, they will immediately turn their faces and not recognize people.

Even Ding Yuanying, who does not ask for returns to help them, will be regarded as a stumbling block once they do not get the benefits of benefits. Here's what they said:

Feng Shijie felt for a cigarette, took a few sips silently, and then said worriedly: If you lose the case, it will be miserable. Not to mention the bankruptcy of the company, it still owes Ouyang Xue a debt.

Ye Xiaoming said: If I lose the lawsuit, I have lost 70,000 yuan of investment, not to mention, I still owe Ouyang Xue 180,000 yuan of advance funds, 180,000, what year and month can I earn back? What year and month can it be paid off?

Liu Bing said: If I lose the case, I have to owe Ouyang Xue 130,000 yuan, jump off the building! The world is a little better than us, only Ouyang Xue owes thirty thousand, and he can still pay it back with his teeth.

You see, once the threat of interests is involved, Ding Yuanying, who originally helped them, has become a bad person at this time. These people completely forgot that they had spent so much effort to get close to Rui Xiaodan, and let Rui Xiaodan beg Ding Yuanying to help them get rid of poverty.

Only one sentence was left: We are a small business, we can't afford to play a big card like Ding Ge, and we can't afford to play it.

It's chilling. He cried foul for Ding Yuanying and was also resentful of the interests of these people. It is true that these three people are not rich people, but they forget that when there is a benefit, they go up to the pole to beg Ding Yuanying, and when there is a little wind and grass, they feel that Ding Yuanying is not reliable at all.

In other words, there is no relationship of trust, of course, the cooperation will come to an end. Therefore, neither Ouyang Xue nor Ding Yuanying will keep them, and if they want to withdraw their shares, they will withdraw their shares, and if they want to return the money, they will return the money, and they will not hinder them at all.

When a person is in distress, self-salvation is more important than his salvation

In the end, Ye Xiaoming and Liu Bing insisted on withdrawing their shares, that is, these shares were all bought by Ouyang Xue, only Feng Shijie was a little embarrassed, feeling that at this time, the three people retreated, which was equivalent to pitting Ouyang Xue.

But Ye Xiaoming believed that the person who pit her was Ding Yuanying, and had nothing to do with them. If she is not happy, then go to Ding Yuanying theory.

As the old saying goes: When people are in trouble, they can see human nature clearly.

It is true that Ge Lushi is facing a lawsuit, but the three small shareholders have run away, leaving the mess to a woman and pushing the responsibility to Ding Yuanying, who helped them.

Ouyang Xue was not prepared to make much money from Ge Lushi, it was entirely out of trust in Ding Yuanying, coupled with the request of his friend Rui Xiaodan, that he became a legal person of Ge Lushi.

She is not good at managing the company, but also unfamiliar with the business, in her opinion she only pays for it, but she did not expect that the three men completely rejected and distrusted Ding Yuanying, and directly chose to return the money and shares when the company was in trouble.

Ouyang Xue only said coldly: Yes.

Then she refunded the three people's contributions in full, and at this time, Ouyang Xue already felt that she could not bear it, but she still had to endure the panic in her heart.

Years of business experience have taught her that the more she falls into trouble, the more she must save herself, rather than saving people. I am willing to gamble and lose, and I don't blame others at all.

And she is full of trust in Ding Yuanying, it is because of trust, she did not hesitate to take out all her money to invest in Ge Lushi, and Liu Bing, Ye Xiaoming and Feng Shijie did not have much risk, but these people are only people who can share the rich and noble, can not share the hardships.

For this reason, Ouyang Xue was so sad that she wanted to cry, not only for money, but also to preserve her trust in Ding Yuanying, she was even more angry that the original company was won by the three of them, she became an investor, and now that something happened, she could only carry it herself.

But fortunately, this matter is not complicated, and it is also within the control of Ding Yuanying, and in the end, Ge Lushi also turned the crisis into safety, and Ouyang Xue became the biggest winner.

But the reason why Ouyang Xue can become the biggest winner, in addition to luck, but also courage, when encountering difficulties, she will not take the initiative to ask for help, but take the initiative to save herself.

Although it is difficult, she also bravely faces it, which is the necessary quality for a person to become a big thing, and if he can afford to lose, he can win it, if he just stares at the little profit in front of him, he cannot become a big thing.

The book "The Distant Savior" also tells us a truth: don't overestimate human nature, and don't underestimate yourself. Even if life is difficult, even if people are old and difficult, do not expect those who are short-sighted and self-interest-oriented, rather than beg them, but ask for themselves.