Introduction: Inappropriate people, no matter how to run into how to accommodate, can not go together, let go is also a kind of love.
The easiest way to judge whether a relationship is reliable is to quarrel, do not say hurtful words when quarreling, and after calming down, both parties are willing to jointly find a way to solve the problem in order to solve the problem in the long run.
Every woman longs for love, every man also wants to have a happy marriage, in a relationship, if a woman does not take the initiative to contact her boyfriend, nor blackout, do not delete, most are hurt by love, trapped by love.
If the current relationship is not smooth, dilemma, feel played around by women, then be sure to see clearly whether this relationship is love or a waste of time, perhaps how the two run into each other is a body injury.
Women encounter problems in the relationship, if the boyfriend does not solve in time, it is likely to make the feelings of two people turn over, women love to pursue details, in many cases, men feel that no one mentions this matter, that is, the past, often become a thorn, thorn in the woman's heart, the next time the same thing happens, this thorn will be rooted again, time is long, things can not be solved, feelings will become worse.
If a woman always uses the cold war method, deliberately ignores each other and discourages men, if the man does not take the initiative, perhaps two people are not suitable.
01. The girlfriend does not take the initiative to contact or remove the block
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Gu Rui and his girlfriend are cold again, the usual tactic of the girlfriend is the cold war, do not take the initiative to contact or black, do not delete, at first the boyfriend will find a girlfriend, will apologize to the girlfriend, but then the boyfriend always feels that Mianmian is enjoying the feeling of being loved, enjoying the feeling of being surrounded by love, perhaps using himself as a spare tire, there have been repeated quarrels, both of them have become exhausted and have no energy to maintain this relationship.
Gu Rui's apology looks pale and weak in the eyes of his girlfriend, no matter how sincere he thinks he is, but it seems that his apology is just a random kneading dough in his girlfriend's hands, Gu Rui is very uncomfortable, and his girlfriend's silence is not solving the problem, always exhausting his enthusiasm.
The girlfriend does not eat coriander, Gu Rui accidentally forgot to put the coriander in the porridge, but also broke out the longest cold war in their history, the girlfriend shook her head and left, they have not been in contact for three months.
Gu Rui knew that he was wrong, did not remember the details of his girlfriend, Mianmian thought that her boyfriend always put coriander in his soup, there was no serious love at all, this matter has not been said to go down ten times. To be honest, the girlfriend doesn't want to continue the relationship anymore. This Cold War is actually an opportunity to break up!
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The boyfriend's helplessness
Gu Rui, who has never bought flowers for his girlfriend on Valentine's Day, specially ordered a bouquet of flowers to give to his girlfriend on Valentine's Day, but on the same day he was found to be thrown in the garbage can downstairs, he felt that his girlfriend was particularly stingy, a little thing to quarrel, always put too much time and energy on his girlfriend, and finally got only an empty.
Looking at the flowers in the trash can, the man feels that he is too tired, this relationship can no longer last, remembering the girlfriend's usually sad look, the heart is very painful, do not want to make her sad, and can not do high emotional intelligence to coax her to be happy, countless times of apology, the girlfriend is always an impatient attitude, a few months of cold war is to make each other strangers, maybe should not have worked a person who does not understand love, spend brains, spend energy, to cool it!
Gu Rui thought: Just put coriander in the soup once, don't be so angry! I have never seen such a big anger before, so big and small, before the big and small add up to a dozen times, but how delicious the coriander is, indeed they have their own mistakes, just together when they are very careful, and then forgot, can not do as details as before, but her attitude makes people feel that this relationship can not support at all, this time so cold, a total of two words have been said, why can't two people be together sincerely? Do you have to add each other like a game, quarrel because of one thing, change this time, change another thing quarrel, or this attitude, no matter how big things have to be cold war? Why do you have to coax her every time you quarrel? She still doesn't think so, love to ignore, mature love, is not two people to maintain well? Love is a matter for two people, not a one-sided effort.
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Girlfriend's heartache: inappropriate feelings stop loss in time
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Mian Mian also felt very aggrieved and did not know how to maintain this relationship.
She cried to her roommate
"I don't eat coriander, everyone knows, as a result, I've been with him for ten months, only in the first month, he knows, every time he gives me takeaway, or when we eat together, he will deliberately avoid coriander, and then he doesn't seem to care so much about me.
He likes coriander, and I can't stop him, but he always imposes what he likes on me, always puts coriander in my soup, in my porridge... Time and time again, this kind of thing doesn't come down
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repeatedly...... The difference in the three views refers to the fact that I don't eat coriander but he eats it, and if I don't eat it, I will scold me and say how about coriander... Then forced me to eat, and he thought there was nothing wrong with what he said. I also feel very tired
Why would such a small thing drive me crazy? Why did it change me from being such a gentle woman to what I am now? I don't want to continue to be in love with him,
But when I mention the breakup, he always feels that I am stingy, he always feels that I am doing, I have mentioned too many times, I do not want to mention it again, every time I seriously mention the breakup, I will be accused by him again, my heart is too soft, it is easy to be moved by him again, so again and again compound, again and again hurt us,
This kind of love may not make any sense at all, this Valentine's Day to buy flowers for me,
It was the first time he bought flowers for me, I remember I once said to him, I am allergic to roses, he sent roses, his carelessness always can't remember, yes, I threw the rose away, I know he is downstairs, I hope he doesn't come to keep me again, don't come to keep this relationship, well, he is also exactly what I want, he is doing well, he is downstairs, he did not keep me. Leave it at that
！ Inappropriate feelings or timely stop loss, these words are too much, there is no point at all, maybe we ourselves are not suitable, my little belly chicken intestines can only find a person who pays attention to details as much as me, his thick branches, and can only find a person who does not care about details like him to be happy."
A lot of things with gentle ways to solve the results are really different, especially enjoy the gentle people.... Indeed, the three views do not fit together is very tired, the three views can cultivate personality can be run-in, temper can be changed, but people are indifferent, it is difficult to go on.
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The Cold War is mostly about: calm down, and then think about the end or continuation of love.
Your girlfriend doesn't take the initiative to contact you, nor does she remove and block you, mostly because she wants to do it to you
: Calm down and consider the end or continuation of love.
Maybe the current taciturn indifference is because of love, because the heart is struggling with whether to give up? Delay in making a decision, because there is still love, not completely put down, the reason why do not return the message, is afraid that after returning the message, the two people will be entangled again, but also because of some trivial small things entangled, because things have not really been properly resolved, let people feel exhausted in this relationship, afraid of arguing for this trivial matter in the future, causing impact and trouble to later life, the heart is very tormented, but also do not know how to do it.
It is said that women have become very desperate, do not delete or black, is to ignore people, in fact, because of love, let people feel reluctant to put down, this is a way of expression of people's inner emotional struggle! At this stage, when men use stalking and seeking perfection to cope with women's cold violence, it is actually useless, and the more they challenge her bottom line, the more people feel disgusted.
But patience is also limited, to a certain limit people will let go, once let go, will not turn back, this is not easy to grasp, because patience to the limit, let go of the feelings are too much, in a relationship both parties must know how to raise your hands high will have a way to live. Because you don't feel love, the person who loves you will love you the way you want, without exception. The love that suffers from gain and loss is more confident in each other's achievements, and do not insist on insisting on it in order to persist, and do not consume it because it is unwilling
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I think the mistake of both of them is that they are inherently inappropriate people
That's why the contradiction between them is created
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