Many families who have a second child expect to have both children, and one son and one daughter just make up a "good" word.
In the mainstream thinking, children are equal to winners in life, both sons inherit family incense, and can enjoy the daughter's intimacy and filial piety, the best of both worlds, but is the truth really so ideal?
Three families, three different endings
Is the whole family really so happy? Not necessarily, the results of different families can be very different.
Family A:
Mommy previously saw a post online in which a pair of parents accused their biological daughter of blocking the old couple. The old man has a son and a daughter, the son works in Beijing, and the daughter lives with the old man.
Later, when his son wanted to get married, the old man took out all his savings and borrowed some money to buy a house for his son in Beijing. After lending money to his son to buy a house, the old man asked his daughter to help him pay off the debt together, and he also wanted to help the old couple to retire in the future.
As a result, the daughter moved out of her parents' house in a fit of rage and "blacked out" her parents.
Family B:
Some time ago, the second-born mother Sun Li shared a period of parenting routine on the Internet, she said that her son and so on said to her that they did not want to be an older brother, wanted to be a younger brother or sister, because the pressure of being an older brother is very high, everyone feels that because he is old, so it is natural to let the sister take it for granted, and doing good things will not be praised.
Family C:
Among the many celebrity families, Mommy likes the Wu Zun family, and the picture of mutual help and love between their families makes people feel very warm.
The sister neinei and the younger brother Max have a deep affection, which is simply a template in the two-child family.
Children and daughters look beautiful, but in fact, a family with one son and one daughter may also have many problems such as brotherhood, parents and children turning against each other, and frequent maintenance contradictions.
There is no need to dwell on the gender of the child
Although it is a happy event for children to be complete, whether the family is happy or not, whether life is happy or not, in fact, is not necessarily related to the gender of the child.
Just like family A, parents themselves do not have a bowl of water in front of their children, prefer sons to daughters, leave all their savings to their sons, but require their daughters to pay off debts and pensions together.
As the saying goes, if you do not suffer from widowhood but from inequality, even if your daughter is filial piety, she will inevitably have complaints in her heart.
In the same way, the preference for daughters over men is the same, and now there are many "daughter slaves" in society, who are extremely fond of their daughters and very strict with their sons.
Whether it is patriarchal or female preference, it is actually a deformed family education, which affects the relationship between family members and may affect the physical and mental health of children.
Deciding what kind of person a child will be in the future is never gender, but education.
If a daughter is arrogant from an early age, how can she learn to be intimate and filial when she grows up? If a boy is favored and protected from an early age, how can he understand responsibility and responsibility when he grows up?
In the past, gender was given too much meaning by people, so it also caused everyone's prejudice and inherent cognition of gender today.
But we should understand that it is never gender that determines the happiness index of a family, but the responsibility, responsibility, and mutual love between family members.
If the children are as caring and filial as Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Bingkun, why bother with the two sons?
There is really no need to be too entangled in giving birth to boys and girls, every child has unlimited possibilities, and every child should also be born under the love and expectation of parents.