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The hardest thing to break through is the parents
Parents are the starting point for everyone and the ceiling for most people. Most of the recent generation in China is better than their parents, because their parents have been delayed, and in the next few generations, you can see the power of my words, the mature society in the United States, Britain, Germany, this is very obvious, most children can not surpass their parents.
I often see some parents who have achieved nothing themselves, educating their children to lead the Way, but the children seem to be deliberately working against them, it is very interesting, because most parents do not realize that the child is imitating you, what you do, he will do what he will do, of course, when he grows up, he will also educate his son, and the head is the Tao, but the child still can't hear, and then what to do, what to do, what to do.
That is to say, excluding the low probability of genetic mutation, the child inherits two sets of genes from the parents, one is a set of genes in the physiological sense, and your baby looks like you, and has the same pupil color and earlobe shape as you, which is a physiological gene. The other set is genetics in the sociological sense, and your way of doing things is also very similar to you, and the way of thinking is also very similar to you. If there is no compulsory education, your baby is most likely a copy of you, which is called social gene.
With compulsory education, it is better, after all, you can learn some basic common sense with Newton, learn some swear words with Lu Xun, and if you learn more deeply, you can also know what is Schrödinger's cat. It is no longer limited to all knowledge coming from the parents, but the influence of the parents on the child is undoubtedly almost decisive.
That is to say, the rich will pass on some of their experiences to their children, and the poor will pass on all kinds of their own things to the next generation, although many things he himself knows is not right, but unconsciously passed on, such a result is often what kind of parents and children, what a pessimistic and disturbing news.
For the vast majority of people, there is not much useful survival skill to be learned from their parents, because the parents themselves do not understand much, and this state will always be inherited through the "social gene".
This was particularly evident in the agricultural age, when reading was a luxury and knowledge could not be received as casually as it is now, and the average family did not think about reading and literacy at all, and the experience was almost always from their parents. Only Zeng Guofan and their kind of small landlord family, the eldest son honestly farms the land at home, and the remaining children choose a brain to circle up and grasp learning, this generation can test a show talent, the next generation can take the test for a soldier or something.
Waiting for this baby to come out, he also took the other brothers in the family out, such as later Zeng Guofan was bullish, so he brought out his two brothers Zeng Guohua and Zeng Guoquan, and fought with him outside to make meritorious contributions, and later that Zeng Guohua died in Sanhe Town, and another younger brother, Zeng Guoquan, was later mixed up, and Zeng Guofan's son Zeng Jize was not bad.
You can see it, the ancient whole follows an "evolutionary algorithm", step by step, each generation to select the best cultivation, if a person developed, everyone developed together.
One of the biggest breakthroughs in modern society compared with ancient times is compulsory education.
Compulsory education originated in Germany at the earliest, is considered to be the killer skill of Germany and the United States to quickly catch up with the United Kingdom, Britain after the first industrial revolution focused on coal mining and textile well, the technical content is not high, britain at that time to the workers as cattle, with a dead batch of replacement, there is no human resources at all.
Germany first began to popularize compulsory education, in the electric power era needs a large number of skilled workers, must have relevant knowledge to do, the British kind of "livestock education" model is outdated, because illiterate people can not operate power equipment, pay attention to education, the high quality of the whole people Germany and the United States came later, this trick later became the killer of Japan, China and other late-developing countries.
Compulsory education forcibly sends children to school, on the one hand, you can engage in patriotic education, this does not laugh, it is true, the United States is such a melting pot country, every morning children have to recite the oath, that is, the well-known "under God, inseparable", a long time, the national consciousness came out, there was no compulsory education in the Republic of China period, many people did not know that they were Chinese, this is not a joke, Ma Supervisor said before, the concept of "Chinese" is completely and completely popularized, less than seventy years.
Another advantage of compulsory education is to break the "social gene", parents know that the thing is so little, and may be a god stick, this is not blind, our article mentioned a lot of this matter, South Korea everywhere god stick, developed countries, such as the United States there are many god sticks, at home to tell the child that God used seven days to create the world, the school has compulsory education, the child was dragged to the school to forcibly instill the big bang, evolution, molecular biology or whatever, the proportion of American religious beliefs in the past two hundred years has dropped sharply, Strongly related to the universal compulsory education, the proportion of religious believers in the United States should now be about half.
In China, too, many miracles have been created over the years, and the poor and slagged villages can actually take dozens of college students, change their destiny, break through the ceiling of their parents, and have to say that the merits of compulsory education are immeasurable.
But after all, this is a minority, in the world, there is a situation, found that people at all levels get together, things are clustered, people are grouped, excellent people will come together, this is not their deliberate exclusion, but a mathematical proof of the "homogeneous stratification" mechanism, this thing across species, across civilizations, all exist.
That is to say, if you are a poor person, you leave the family, try not to be affected by the family, but your social class determines that the people around you are generally not particularly good, you can't learn too much from them, and you have to break through this circle if you want to be bullish.
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Terrible homogenization of stratification
In general, in the early days of society, they are more equal, a bit like shaking water and oil vigorously, mixing together for a period of time, but standing for a while, slowly returning to the state of separation of water and oil, and the various classes will form obvious boundaries. Don't feel unreasonable, this is the case all over the world, and it is also true in ancient and modern times.
For example, China was not like now, when I was in college, we "earth cannons" went to the big city to study for college, and found that the people in the big city were not too different from us, and it was not fashionable, at that time, the city people in our class lived in the kind of unit dormitories that were very common in the big city, and I went to see it and felt that it was not as cool as the small bungalows in our small county. It feels like around 2008 was a watershed, with urban and rural areas rapidly diverging, and young people in big cities becoming more and more fashionable, unlike those in the villages.
My former college classmate, who was now teaching at the university, once lamented to me, saying that when he stood on the podium, he could see at a glance which of the students belonged to the big city and which, like himself, came from the village.
And he found that in recent years, it has become more and more obvious, there are fewer and fewer people like him in the university, and the grand situation that the whole school is full of earth cannons when he goes to college has no longer recurred.
In fact, if you look at Europe and the United States, you can find that Europe and the United States have been developing under a stable system for hundreds of years, and society has become very stable. Unlike the mainland, which has only been through the revolution for seventy years, and the stable development of the Eight Classics of Zheng'er has only been thirty or forty years, now everyone has begun to discuss the rich class, the middle class, the middle class can spend hundreds of thousands of dollars a year on children, education has evolved into an arms race, and everyone feels that there is still hope for hard work.
In the future, this state will only become more and more serious, and it will show "circle", all kinds of different circles play happily together, some circles only need to maintain the status quo and not fall, and some circles need to constantly break through upwards.
It's a bit like some people live on high floors, as long as they don't fall off. Some need to climb up breathlessly. The problem is that people on the high floor maintain a high advantage in the competition, and the lower the level of people, the worse the resources and conditions, the harder it is to get up. This is not to say that the continent, the whole world, and the more mature the society, the more so. The chart below is a case in Germany where 5% own nearly half of the houses in Germany:
Most of the rest rent.
Only 5% of the people in Leipzig have a house, and the rest rent their houses.
Before there was a saying on the Internet, it was said that Germans are not in a hurry to buy a house, so the house price is not high, and then I am not resident in Germany for a period of time, and i went to a trip a few days ago, I asked a few of our company's German partners, I said that you Germans really have such an open-minded view of real estate consumption? He said that only stupid people don't like houses, they can't save money, and the impact on life after buying a house is too big, generally can't afford to buy a house, the German government is very encouraged to buy a house, the down payment is very low, but everyone is still not able to afford it.
If the development continues according to the current model, there will soon be a kind of obvious stratification effect in Europe and the United States, the bullish family bought a good school district house from the beginning, and then through a good primary school to a good junior high school, and then the key middle school, the path of the key university will go up, of course, here is not to say that entering a good primary school will definitely be able to go to a famous school, europe and the United States top private also has this effect, but the probability will increase greatly.
Correspondingly, the probability of ordinary people is greatly reduced, and the right to education is moved up little by little, can it be reversed? It's not impossible, but it's not easy.
For example, in the Ming and Qing dynasties, the imperial court found a big problem, the south was much more powerful than the north in the examination of the imperial examination, for many reasons, such as the south was less affected by the scourge of war, many knowledge families had enough foundation, these knowledge families often collected tens of thousands of books, and even had library buildings, and there were people in the imperial court who were officials in the past, familiar with the imperial examination routine, and the children in the family naturally had bonuses under counseling.
More importantly, from the Song Dynasty onwards, the economy of the south began to surpass that of the north, and the south could devote more resources to the cause of raising children, and the proportion and number of children studying in the south far exceeded that of the north.
Fujian and Zhejiang provinces have more colleges than the other provinces combined, and the advantages of economic strength are fed back to all levels, including education. Therefore, since the Beginning of the Ming Dynasty, China has been a bit like the current admission model, each province will have to take care of, rather than simply the whole country to admit together, but within the provinces, there are still some places that occupy most of the places in the province, and now it is more like ah, now is not the provincial key schools to learn to take away more than half of the quota.
So, don't doubt that as the economy continues to develop, society evolves for a few more years, and everywhere it evolves into circles, and if you can't get into this circle, you can't do certain things.
For example, if a child can't get into some good school, you can't get into 211 and 985, or it's difficult to get into, if you can't go to such a university, you won't be able to enter those Internet companies in the future, and the blogger says that this is not to sell anxiety and sell something, but an upcoming objective reality, or it has come.
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The shackles of consumption
In "Poor Dad Rich Dad", there is a sentence that particularly touched me:
Both the poor and the rich buy luxury goods, and the poor often buy them with their monthly hard-earned money, the wealth that should be invested in or left to their children. The rich buy it with the capital they generate. The poor did make them look rich after buying luxury goods, but they immediately entered a debt crisis. Monthly wages are used to pay off debts and continue to take out loans, and they enter a vicious circle.
That is to say, ordinary people spend their own wages, and some people with the vision of the rich will save money, buy the kind of things that can bring flowing water, and the things that can bring flowing water are called assets, and then spend the money brought by assets, because that income is passive income.
And there is a big gap between the consumption of the poor and the consumption of the rich. Before a top real estate developer in Germany had a particularly interesting remark, he said that wealth accumulation to a certain time, money can not be spent, you buy a luxury car, the car appreciates, you buy a watch, the watch appreciates, you buy gold, gold appreciates, you can not eliminate money through consumption, this may be the boring part of the life of rich people.
But here is a problem, this kind of asset consumption of what things, easy to say, but it is difficult to do to die, the most basic point, these years slowly everyone began to realize that if you buy a few houses, and then sit as a chartered public, it should be cool, but the problem is that the reason is understood, how to operate?
The first and most difficult problem is the need for a large amount of start-up capital, where to find? If you slowly save money to spend, it is estimated that you have to save until you are old enough to save the down payment of the house, but the problem is that you don't make enough money, for most of the poor, the most difficult thing is that there is not enough money to spend, how to save money to buy assets? Some people say that it is possible to borrow money, but in the case of less flow, the big leverage is almost dead.
What is even more depressing is that the poor are not creditworthy, cannot borrow money, or the cost of borrowing money is too high. The credit mentioned here is not the credit that is said in life, but the credit rating of the bank to you, the poor have no collateral, the rating is low, the bank either does not lend you money, or the interest rate is high or death.
But we know that more than 90% of the money in this world is loaned out of the bank, yes, yes, more than 90% of the money in the market is a loan, you can't borrow money, a lot of games don't take you to play.
So, this is a very good inspiration for those who have the conditions but have problems with their consumption concepts, but for the real poor, there is almost no solution, knowing that the current way of life is getting narrower and narrower, but still can only go this way, which may be the most depressing thing in the world.
Of course, some people belong to the "reason understand, objective conditions lead to unable to operate", but there are still many people in the brain really lack of roots, I have classmates after graduating from graduate school to become a village official, he said that the state to poor households are allocated, but many poor households did not make good use of this part of the money, many people after the hand is blind, he lamented that some people are poor is a lack of opportunities, some people really deserve to be poor, can not help up.
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Learned helplessness
The following paragraph is seen from the Weibo "Silicon Valley Wang Chuan", very enlightening, I actually have similar feelings, but has not been able to summarize in words, until he sent a post out, I do not have to summarize, directly copied over:
If a person is in a state of lack of choice for a long time, the subconscious mind of the brain will slowly think that doing anything cannot change the status quo and change its own destiny, so it will enter a state called learned helplessness and become more negative. Even if the situation changes, when the opportunity is available, it will not act. When this condition is severe, it can lead to a decrease in immunity and even depression. When there are many options, the sense of self-control is very strong, so that people can maintain a positive and aggressive posture for a long time, which is very good for physical and mental health. Of course, there are three problems when there are too many choices: decision-making requires more energy, and the possibility of making mistakes after choosing is greater, because the psychological frustration caused by making mistakes is stronger.
Barry Schwartz, Paradox of Choice
You see, if you don't make a choice for a long time, the brain will become very negative, many people say that they feel that they are about to get depressed, in fact, they can completely reflect on whether they usually have almost nothing to choose, it is completely life that forces you to move forward? In this state, the long time does produce a stronger and stronger negative state.
I don't want to change, and I don't want to think about changing things.
This is also the biggest difference between the strong and the poor that I have witnessed over the years, most of the normal people seem to have a "sense of recognition" for life, feel that it is like this, make it up, and it is not impossible to live, but strong people always have a kind of problem to take the initiative to solve, solve the problem and optimize, optimize the habit of solidification, these two kinds of thinking may not be very obvious at the beginning, lasting ten years, very terrible.
Speaking of which, we have to sacrifice this picture:
A lot of things are that you have to do for a long time and have no improvement at all, and the last small period of time is soaring, such as learning English, rising fans, spreading cultural concepts, accumulating wealth, and even the outbreak curve of the epidemic in various countries during this time. At first, it was very slow and progressless, like a turtle, and suddenly the eagle spread its wings and soared into the sky. But before it came that day, most people had given up.
Of course, the more powerful people can do more things, the poorer people can do less, the lack of resources in their hands will naturally be poor, and nothing will go well, which will hit confidence particularly hard. Trying to yourself will naturally collapse, this thing is a channel of positive feedback or negative feedback.
The bull is confident, and self-confidence helps him to go through the painful cycle and become more confident after achieving his goals. People who are not awesome are just the opposite.
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So what to do?
Just go in the opposite direction we said above:
1) How to break through the restrictions of parents?
There is no way but to read more, why is the Chinese college entrance examination so tragic, because almost everyone can see that this is the cheapest way to break through upwards, this is the first opportunity. The trend in Europe and the United States is that university tuition fees are becoming more and more expensive, and countries such as the Commonwealth simply use universities as an income-generating tool.
2) How to break through the differentiation of the homogeneous layer?
When you are young, try to go to the big city, and then immerse yourself in hard work, the smaller the place, the more the plate solidifies.
3) How to overcome the shackles of consumption?
Diligent and thrifty family, even if you have not saved money in your life, you will leave a good habit for the next generation, one generation will use several generations, the East and the West are the same, the rise of each giant, it takes several generations, and the previous generation is the foundation of the next generation.
4) How to overcome learned helplessness?
To choose to do what you dare not do, this is both to everyone and to myself, and I must always do this in the future, only in this way can I always stay young.
And sociology has a conclusion: the income of people in the middle and lower classes of society often does not depend on luck, and the income of such people is determined, all of which are fixed wages; the higher they go, the greater the proportion of luck, such as a certain Sicong, the proportion of luck accounts for more than 99%. Doing business and doing business is highly dependent on luck.
The richer the person, the higher the proportion of luck in their income.
Overall, if you are very busy at work, generally speaking, work first, if you have leisure time, don't be idle to fight landlords, you can develop some "luck industry".
My choice is to start operating something, can be Weibo, can be headlines, and even cut some sand sculpture small videos every day, I said this many times before, a small partner sent me a message a few days ago, saying that he last time I read my post after a deep reflection on the next, found that he has no strengths, will only play games, recently began to play live games, and uploaded some game tips, such as PUBG how to press the gun, such as how to get started with the P society game, there was a wave of attention, in the future to do part-time UP master, Finally know what to do in my spare time.
This is what I said before in the Little Red Circle, to change from consumer to producer, because the production is the big brother, the consumption is the dick, if you have been a consumer, spend your own time and money, play other people's games, eat other people's dishes, instead of turning to the production end, then you have been in a pit, never want to turn over, you have to let others consume your things.
Why is the Internet era good, because the threshold of "producers" has dropped again and again, the marginal cost of dissemination has also dropped again and again, and the era when Di Si does not need to advertise to promote its own products has come, and this thing is the really big era.
The consumption mentioned here is not necessarily spending money, and spending time now is also consumption. A decision today may be useless to a poor person with few resources and hands-on abilities, but it is likely that five years from now it will completely change your life.
If you have done something and it has not been done, there may be many reasons, you may not be that piece of material, or bad luck, but if you have not done anything, you feel that you can't do it well, this is a disease, get electricity, use high voltage.