One thing we often overlook in a relationship: emotions. How important is emotional stability? In the last issue, I talked about how a man would marry because of what qualities are in a woman? I said a very important point: emotional stability! And then a lot of people will think, is this thing important? Girls have a little temper and small emotions, isn't it normal?
In fact, men are not the same as women, men are rational thinking, women are emotional thinking, perceptual thinking will bring a lot, emotional fluctuations, including tantrums, making trouble, but for men, these may not be very liked.
First: we look at emotionally unstable things from a man's perspective
What is emotional stability? It's not easy to lose your temper, it's not easy to be real, to make a fuss and say harsh things, and so on, for example, we have some cases, some girls find me when they consult, and then tell me, teacher, you don't ask too much, I've completely put it down, I won't go to him again, I'm going to completely delete him and block him, I'm looking for him, I'm not a person, I'm with your surname, just this kind of harsh talk.
The next day, I came to me again and said, teacher, I sent him a message yesterday, and he didn't reply to me, what should I do? This is an emotional instability. Talk harshly to this man: "I will never look for you again, look for you again, I am not a person"! The next day I woke up and went looking for someone.
So what is the other person's feelings? Are you so pretentious? It will make him think that in the future, if we get married together, if you often make trouble like this, because some small things will lose your temper with me, I will go to coax you, once or twice is fine, I want to be so coaxed every day, who can eat it? I also have my own business, so in the hearts of men, emotional stability is very important!
Second: We have to look at it from our own perspective
Don't you think that since you love someone, you must tolerate my little temper and tolerate my unreasonable teasing? But have you ever wondered why you lose your temper easily and why your emotions are so restless? I tell you that in fact, tantrums are often a cover up our inner vulnerability, in terms of psychology, the greater a person's temper, the more insecure she is in her heart, do you understand what I mean?
Let me give you an example, everyone will have a vulnerable side in their minds, such as your original family, your parents are divorced, your heart will be fragile because of your parents' problems, and then one day, your partner may mention a sentence, how is your mother? When you mention your mother, your vulnerable side suddenly opens up, and your emotions come up.
You may ask, what are these for, you ask? Be all abroad! The other party does not know, and then you have a big temper, from your point of view, you can understand your behavior, but from his point of view is inexplicable, so sometimes, we have emotions are normal, but if we vent our emotions to the other party, then it may be a little difficult for him.
Including the teachers themselves, I have always believed that emotional stability is the biggest cultivation in our lives, we often lose our temper because of something that others don't know, and our emotions are very tight and so on. So if we expose these emotions, for the other party will feel very speechless.
We can sometimes vent outwards to some irrelevant things, for example, we can go to exercise, even if we talk to the teacher, relieve your psychological pressure, or find a tree hole, to talk about your grievances can be, but if you often lose your temper, use the temper to protect yourself, give others the feeling that people are not close!
If you also feel that you often lose your temper, I hope that from today onwards, you can be self-aware, and whenever you want to lose your temper, think about whether I am angry about this? Slowly learn to be an emotionally stable woman!