On the issue of children's education, because the parents have different concepts, there will always be quarrels between husband and wife, especially in life, most fathers have more time at work, and mothers are more concerned about the daily life of their children, because the distribution of time is uneven, coupled with the different thinking logic between the two parents, so it is easy for parents to disagree because of their children's problems.
For example, because the children of the Big Zhou family are particularly serious because of procrastination, in order for the children to get to school quickly, they take the initiative to help the children get dressed and pack things in the morning; but because the child's father is not accustomed to the child's behavior of reaching out for food to open his mouth, he has always asked the child to do his own things, so there is a scene where the father is anxious to urge the child to act quickly.
Unexpectedly, because the father urged the child to become more and more anxious, and finally the child collapsed and cried, seeing that it was time to go to school, the mother was also very anxious at this time, so she staged a scene of the couple arguing in front of the child because of this matter.
In fact, such a family education phenomenon is quite common in many cases. Because the personalities and educational methods of the two people are different, there will always be differences in the education of children, so how should parents educate their children the best?
First, if there is a disagreement in the education process, the husband and wife should not set off a dispute, but should communicate and discuss
In fact, no matter which party has what kind of educational philosophy, the educational purpose of both husband and wife is to make the child better. Since our goals are the same, we can seek common ground while reserving differences in methods and learn from each other.
By considering the reasons for the other party's actions through empathy, it can be combined into the optimal choice in the education style of two people, which is more conducive to the relationship between husband and wife and the education of children.
And educating children is the main task of the whole family, if parents put too much time on the dispute, it will not only be detrimental to the relationship between the husband and wife between the family, but also not conducive to the education of children.
Second, actively learn scientific and authoritative parenting methods, so that the concept between husband and wife to achieve unity
Since the concept of parenting between the husband and wife is different, if the husband and wife really have a dispute, they can refer to those more authoritative, professional parenting knowledge and books, etc., related professional knowledge, and both husband and wife can also consult the parenting teacher.
In this way, through the cultivation of scientific parenting concepts, the parenting concept between two people will naturally become similar. Even with new disagreements in the future, scientific parenting methods will still solve the problems for both parents.
This method of unifying the concept of parenting can make the concepts and methods between husband and wife more and more similar, and it is also very influential on the education of children. Moreover, this harmonious learning between husband and wife, the atmosphere of common progress can also affect the child, so that the child will become more and more excellent, which is conducive to the growth of the child.
Third, take other people's cases as an example to discuss between husband and wife
If there is a difference in thinking concepts between husband and wife, there will naturally be differences in the education of children, and at this time, if the husband and wife just rely on the mouth to estimate, it is difficult to get the optimal solution in a short period of time.
This requires parents to discuss and learn whether in their daily lives or when they see successful parenting cases on TV, and only by clarifying what is really right can two people be truly convinced.
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