After watching the ins and outs of "28 years of wrong life", perhaps many people, like me, have inexplicably more sympathy and pity for Yao Ce's adoptive mother Xu Min, Who, like many mothers, has poured all his energy and love into Yao Ce in the past 28 years.
Because before Yao Ce fell ill this time, she did not know that the son she had devoted herself to loving and caring for was not her own son, and when she found out that her son was not her own son, she broke through various obstacles to find her own son Guo Wei, and Yao Ce and her mother and son had a previous disagreement.
Yao Ce once blackened his adoptive mother Xu Min, only because of whether to return the house he lived in after marriage to his adoptive mother Xu Min, Yao Ce's move also made netizens question his "not knowing gratitude", although Xu Min was not his birth mother, but he did everything to raise him, buy a house, get married and have children, and is a qualified adoptive mother.
01, the grace of nurturing is greater than the sky
The ancients said this sentence very well: "The grace of birth is greater than that of man, the grace of nurturing is greater than that of heaven, and the filial piety of all virtues is the first." This sentence tells us that even if the parents do not give birth to themselves, as long as they raise themselves, the parents' kindness to themselves is greater than the sky, and the children should know how to be grateful and should be filial to them.
Looking back at Yao Ce from birth, his adoptive mother Xu Min and his wife regarded Yao Ce as a treasure in the family, and the whole family took care of him "like the stars and the moon".
After Yao Ce was diagnosed with Da Sanyang at the age of about 3, his adoptive mother Xu Min and his wife took him to see a doctor all over the country, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars in these twenty years, and finally turned into Xiao Sanyang, and at the age of 28, he was diagnosed with liver cancer.
Xu Min, who regarded Yao Ce as heavier than his own life, learned that his immediate family members donated liver Yao Ce still had a glimmer of life, and did not hesitate to kneel down to the attending doctor to ask for liver donation to save Yao Ce. When her own matching was unsuccessful, Xu Min's husband planned to match her son, but when it was discovered that Yao Ce was not their biological son, they were like five thunderbolts.
Even so, Xu Min and his wife did not give up, but tried to find Yao Ce's biological parents, wanted Yao Ce's biological parents to donate liver for Yao Ce, after painstaking search, did not expect that Yao Ce's biological mother Du Xinzhi refused to let the family donate liver for their own son Yao Ce.
From this series of events, we found that Yao Ce's adoptive mother Xu Min really devoted herself to him, in fact, anyone else, maybe it will be so, after all, from the swaddling baby to start raising, seeing him as the hope of the whole family, from teeth and teeth to toddlers, from studying and working, getting married and having children, etc., all poured all of Xu Min's family affection and money.
"The grace of nurturing is greater than heaven" is most appropriate to use here, so from these aspects alone, Yao Ce should be grateful to Xu Min and his wife.
However, with the "wrong change of life" to be questioned about "stealing a life", everyone in the incident has become the focus of attention on the cusp of the storm, and the attitude of the wife of the parties Guo Wei and Yao Ce has also become the focus of our attention.
02, Yao Ce's wife Xiong Lei's attitude towards his mother-in-law Xu Min
With the public's attention to the "28 years of wrong life" incident, as Yao Ce's adoptive mother Xu Min is getting closer and closer to the truth of the matter, although she also has love for Yao Ce, but after seeing her own son Guo Wei's 28 years from birth to the present, life is not easy, feelings will be more inclined to her own son Guo Wei.
Maybe as any mother, seeing that her own son was not loved by his adoptive mother Du Xinzhi's family since he was a child, after the age was changed to 3 years younger, he was three years late in the first grade of primary school, and he was always ridiculed by his classmates, and then he dropped out of junior high school and began to work to support his family. Even though her adoptive mother, Du Xinzhi, had several houses in her family, none of them were in Guo Wei's name.
It is precisely because of this that Xu Min wants to return the house where she invested all her money, that is, the house where Yao Ce's name is written, and therefore, Yao Ce's wife stands up, because she is unwilling to return this house, perhaps in her mind, even if Yao Ce is gone in the future, this house should be her and her children.
Netizens also feel that Yao Ce should return the house to Xu Min, after all, he has been raising for 28 years, has been seeking medical treatment, has spent too much money on Xu Min's family, Yao Ce's married house down payment is Xu Min's monthly payment, the house should naturally return to Xu Min, after all, for Yao Ce, Xu Min and his wife are still renting a house.
Driven by huge economic interests, even though Yao Ce initially agreed to return the house to Xu Min, it was obvious that his wife Xiong Lei did not agree, and Xiong Lei began to shell his mother-in-law Xu Min on the Internet:
When you give birth to a child, you have an obligation to take good care of it, and if you make a mistake, your own children can't look at it, who is to blame? Saying how much money Yao Ce used you is also your willingness, now you know that it is not biological, do you want to settle the account? Then you first return Yao Ce's life to him!
And Yao Ce's wife Xiong Lei said on the Internet that the house should maintain the status quo and is unwilling to transfer, from a series of video screenshots of Xiong Lei, we can see that she is not appreciative of her mother-in-law Xu Min's efforts to Yao Ce for so many years, and even for Xu Min to pay them a marriage house and pay monthly payments, she also feels that Xu Min is voluntary.
03, Guo Wei's wife Tian Jing's gentle attitude towards her mother-in-law Du Xinzhi and Xu Min
Compared with Yao Ce's wife Xiong Lei, Guo Wei's wife Tian Jing, like her name, has always behaved relatively quietly, rarely speaking, knowing that someone said that she was the niece of her mother-in-law Du Xinzhi, she only happened to clarify.
And later, she posted:
I apologize for taking up public resources for such a long time, thank you for your concern. Mama Du and I are not related, just mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And we got along very well with Jiangxi parents! My mother has been helping with the children, there is no salary problem, I hope you don't spread false rumors, thank you!
Guo Wei's wife Tian Jing has no complaints about the two mothers-in-law, and the attitude has been relatively peaceful, although her husband Guo Wei's experience is painful, they have no house and no car, and her husband Guo Wei has no formal job, even the two children, guo Wei's wife Tian Jing, brought up by herself, because her mother-in-law Du Xinzhi is not in good health.
However, she did not speak out on the Internet like Yao Ce's wife, did not say anything to her mother-in-law Xu Min, and was full of complaints, and she did not mention anything about Yao Ce's biological mother, Du Xinzhi, the mother-in-law.
Maybe it has to be done, Guo Wei's wife Tian Jing will not go to the Internet to speak out, let alone say who is not good.
04, Yao Ce and Guo Wei's wife's completely different attitude towards their mother-in-law is related to their husband's disposition
Generally speaking, the attitude of a daughter-in-law to her in-laws is partly related to her husband's disposition. At this point we can look around us.
If the son respects, is grateful, and is very filial to his parents, generally speaking, the daughter-in-law will also be filial and respectful to her in-laws because of her husband.
On the contrary, if their sons are not respectful enough and filial to their parents, most daughters-in-law will have the same attitude as their husbands.
Judging from the performance of Yao Ce's wife and Guo Wei's wife we saw above, the personalities of the two people are also very different, one is more stubborn, and the other is quieter.
The attitude of the two of them can be found in the disposition of their respective husbands: Yao Ce has been spoiled since childhood, and he has become accustomed to the efforts of his adoptive parents, and even feels that he deserves it. Guo Wei has borne the burden of the family since he was a child, and should be more responsible, more concerned about his family, and filial to his parents.
It is precisely because of this difference in disposition that the attitude of their wives towards their mother-in-law is also very different.
Looking at the gap between the attitudes of the two wives who were involved in this "wrong change of life for 28 years", we also saw some bitterness and helplessness.
However, as Yao Ce announced on social platforms that he had entered the stage of palliative care, he said that "it is useless to talk more about the dispute of words, wait for the truth, and be safe!" "In the foreground of life, maybe the truth is no longer important.
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