Introduction: In our current fertility and obstetric examination process, we will pay special attention to the early screening of Tang's children, and try to avoid the birth of Tang's baby, because this is undoubtedly a heavy economic burden for a family, and Tang's children are also accompanied by many congenital diseases, and the life expectancy is generally relatively short, so the birth of a child is also a heavy blow to family emotions.
However, the screening of Tang's children in the obstetric examination also has a certain probability of misdiagnosis, which means that there is a certain probability that there will be a birth of a Tang baby, but many parents are not aware of such a problem, thinking that their baby is born as a normal baby. But if we find out in real life that our friends' children are Tang's children, should we tell them?
Such a question is indeed very tangled, and the biggest reason for this is that on the one hand, we are not professionals ourselves, and all the words and prompts may be our own wrong speculations and doubts; on the other hand, such news is a blow to the other party, and a vicious "curse" is difficult to accept whether it is true or false.
Therefore, if such a thing is not handled well, it is easy to lead to the friendship relationship between each other becoming awkward, deteriorating, and even a situation of relationship rupture. Xiaobian has encountered a similar case around him, colleagues found that one of his distant cousin's children is likely to have autism, so he wanted to persuade his cousin to take the child to see, did not expect to be scolded.
The other party has been saying that colleagues are uneasy and kind, how can their children have autism, and that they may leave a bad assessment certificate for the child. The colleague tried to make the cousin face up to the seriousness of the problem, but the other party has always been a taboo attitude, so the relationship between the two is very stiff, and the cousin has been saying in the family group that the colleague's is not.
This matter was also resolved because of the unpleasantness of both sides, the child's examination was delayed for two years, and then the cousin found that her child was really different from other children, so she remembered to take the child to the hospital for a test. And the result is also as xiaobian's colleague said that there is autism, and the optimal age of intervention has passed.
Therefore, in these things, there is still such a family relationship, let alone a friend relationship, but Xiaobian still believes that no matter what the final result will be. If we have doubts in this regard and some conclusive evidence, we still have the obligation to give the other party our own discoveries and suggestions, after all, such a thing should be discovered as early as possible.
This can also give friends as parents some time to prepare, otherwise it is the most unexpected when the hidden problems really occur. But at the same time, when we inform our friends, in addition to the tone and tone of the tone to be euphemistic, we also need to consider a few issues:
1, be prepared to be scolded: if you have always thought that your child is a normal child, no matter how euphemistic we are, it is likely to cause the other party's denial and scolding. Therefore, it is best not to have too many expectations at the beginning, as long as we can do the obligation to inform in detail, there is no need to be too entangled in other emotions.
2, whether the other party already knows: sometimes when we find out, the other party already knows, but has not told the people around them. Therefore, when telling the other party this problem, you can also knock on the side of the side to see if the other party already knows, so that we don't have to worry about it anymore.
3, give the corresponding treatment methods: while telling each other the problem, we can also give some relevant suggestions and treatment methods, such as going to the hospital to do an examination can know the specific results more clearly, what can be done in the follow-up, specifically talk about various interests and stakes, etc., so that we can also express that we are really good intentions, not malicious slander.
Important: When we find that our friend's child has a problem, in fact, no matter what kind of position, it may cause the other party to be unhappy, but in this matter, we have the obligation to inform. But we can use euphemisms to show it, but we must also be prepared to be scolded in advance, to understand whether the other party already knows, and to give some methods and suggestions for handling by the way.
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