Everyone's impression of boys and girls is nothing more than one, that is, boys are more naughty and difficult to discipline, while girls are well-behaved and sensible images, and parents do not have to worry too much about education. In fact, are girls really so relaxed when they grow up? Not exactly, we look at the families with girls around us, and many girls don't let their parents worry when they grow up. It is often said that boys are not well disciplined and easy to raise, and although girls are not as naughty as boys, the excessive indulgence of parents will also spoil them.
Spoiling her daughter from an early age leads to an obedient personality, going out to study is ostracized, and her parents are worried but unable to solve it
After 00, Youyou is the only daughter in the family, and her parents have loved her since she was a child, no matter what she wants, she can be satisfied, because there is only one child in the family, so it is inevitable that she will be more pampered in daily life, which also makes her develop the personality of a little princess, more domineering.
At first, this personality did not expose any drawbacks, and your parents still felt that it was very cute and not to be bullied outside, but when she was in high school, she began to go to boarding school, and as a result, a conflict broke out with her roommate within a few days, resulting in the dormitory group isolating her, and she also began to reject school.
Youyou's parents went to the school to understand the situation, the director of teaching and the teacher also called the students in the dormitory to talk, and the students were very consistent that Youyou was too self-centered, and the common table in the dormitory was filled with personal belongings by her alone, and she didn't always let others help her, and as a result, there was no thank you, and the dormitory hygiene was never engaged, as if everyone owed her.
The problem was found, it was because Youyou was usually used to being at home, so she felt that all this was deserved when she went out, and the teacher and her parents took turns to persuade her not to be willful, but she did not listen at all, insisting on dropping out of school, and the dormitory roommates also collectively opposed living with her, but her parents were sad.
In fact, the education of girls is not easier than that of boys, but boys are stronger and more extroverted personalities are better educated, and in the process of girls' growth, parents tend to indulge in several aspects, which eventually leads to their development in the direction of bad personalities, and once this personality is characterized, it is basically impossible to change it.
Nowadays, it is very popular to say that "my daughter will face the society independently when she grows up, get married and have children, and experience chai rice oil and salt, so while she is still young, I must love her more and more." "It is true that there are no parents who do not love their children, and girls seem to be more soft and sensitive than boys, so families with girls will redouble their care and pamper them."
But if this kind of pampering is unprincipled and excessively indulgent, it is easy for the child to develop a cruel and willful character, knowing that at home parents can unconditionally tolerate everything about their daughters, but she will eventually have to contact the outside world, she must make friends, she must go to school, if she continues to maintain this wayward self-character in her interactions with the outside world, it is difficult to integrate into the collective.
Then there is the parents' economic indulgence of girls, in fact, rich girls do not only refer to economic wealth, spiritual wealth is equally important. If you only pay attention to material saturation, it is so easy for girls to develop a personality of vanity, and when they grow up, they will take material as the most important thing in all things, and it is easier to use material as the standard for measuring things. Therefore, it is more important not only to focus on economic prosperity, but to cultivate their rich and upright spiritual world and help them establish the correct three views.
Finally, in the process of educating girls, we must not indulge their "lazy" consciousness, and cultivate children's sense of autonomy. Autonomy is different from the self, it is to exercise children to help children to better deal with their own things, and everyone has a lazy psychology, like to "sit back and enjoy", parents are more distressed about their daughters, help them take care of everything, but when they need to face life by themselves, they will be momentarily confused, because they will not do anything. Many girls don't even know how to wash their clothes when they go out to school or work when they grow up, which is the consequence of their parents being too doting. Teach them autonomy from an early age, and when they grow up, they can take better care of themselves, and no one can rely on their parents for a lifetime, and they always have to bear it to face it.
Childhood is the best time to establish children's three-dimensional cognition and various behavioral abilities, if these aspects of education are ignored at this stage and children are too indulgent, then a series of adverse effects will accompany them throughout their lives.
Especially for families with daughters, it is precisely because girls are in a relatively weak position in this society, they should pay more attention to their education, and the women's standards in the new era are correct in the three views and have the character of self-reliance and self-reliance, which requires the guidance of parents from an early age. Excessive coddling and indulgence may bring children a happy time only in the past few years, and once they grow up and enter society, they will largely receive the reaction of the original bad way of education.