Every child is a seed

Every child is a seed

"How the New Family Shapes People" is being studied.

The author Satya has a metaphor, "Every child is the same thing as the seed of a plant."

Why do seeds grow into trees?

There must be spirituality and vitality here, and only with spirituality can it grow into a tree with thousands of postures.

Why did that little human seed grow into a completely different person?

People have ideas, creativity, aesthetic ability icons, etc., and they must also have spiritual existence.

So how can you stimulate the spirituality of your child?

This simple one, just one, is called "give him as much environment as possible."

That is, the most important thing we can give to the child is to have as rich an environment as possible, and it is enough to take him to see and experience more, and to explain more to him.

Parents are the best tour guide for children in the world, let him understand the world, the rest of the people will take a self-guided tour, and when he grows up to sixteen or seventeen years old, he does not need you to take a group tour every day.

This is a reasonable way to respect the environment that the child has created. ”

Among the 7.6 billion sentient beings in the world, there is no exact same fingerprint, and everyone is a unique existence, which I think is a particularly magical existence in itself.

So why do so many parents have to be enthusiastic about reinventing their children and focusing on modifying their children to the way they want them to be, or similar to themselves?

Gibran icon is a poem that is always worth reading more for parents now and in the future, that is, the golden rule of raising children:

"Your child, in fact, is not your child,

They are the children born of life's desire for itself.

They came into this world through you,

But it is not because of you,

They are around you, but they don't belong to you.

What you can give them is your love,

But it's not what you think.

Because they have their own thoughts.

What you can shelter is their body,

But it is not their soul,

For their souls belong to tomorrow,

It belongs to tomorrow that you can't dream of.

You can do your best and become like them,

But don't let them become like you,

Because life does not go backwards, nor does it stay in the past.

You are the bow, and the children are the arrows that shoot from you.

The archer looks at the arrow target on the road to the future,

He pulls you away with all his might,

Make his arrows shoot fast and far.

With a happy heart, bend in the hands of an archer,

Because he loves arrows that fly all the way,

I also love the incomparably stable bow. ”

I often think that children are born with the most perfect existence, full of spirituality.

You see the clear eyes of every little baby, full of love, love of the whole world, love of parents, love of everything. Curious and exploratory.

The little baby is fully alive in the moment, living in the moment, maintaining mindfulness, carefree, carefree, free, free. Eat when you are hungry, sleep when you are sleepy, and cry when you are unhappy. The past and the future are a fart in their eyes.

Little children try very hard to learn everything: eating, climbing, standing, walking, jumping, learning to talk... Anything can be learned, anything can be learned. What are you afraid of failure, what are you afraid of ridicule? Not once, again until mastery.

Speaking of which, what is the later mathematical physics and chemistry? It's just that children and parents who have lost their normal hearts are powerless.

Because at this time, the child has lacked the original spirituality, is surrounded by negative emotions such as pain and frustration, and has lost the courage and confidence to face difficulties, not to fear difficulties, and to actively cope, and to concentrate on it and practice repeatedly.

At this time, parents are also very critical, so anxious and afraid, losing their normal heart, patience and tolerance. When children learn to walk, "children can learn sooner or later, don't worry." Do not scold the child for walking slower than other children, wrestling more, or let the child sleep less to practice, will always smile and squint, full of love to encourage and help.

The spirituality of children, like the blood bar in the game, from the very beginning of the full grid, after more than ten years of life whipping and critical blows, has become less and less, and even unable to cope with the daily life.

I often wonder if the wrong parenting methods of parents consume the spirituality of their children, and if they just love unconditionally, let the child follow the guidance of his own spirituality in life, and grow wildly, will it be better?

I think so.

Therefore, on the one hand, because the authority of parents is invalid, passive compromise is now. On the other hand, based on the trust in the child's spirituality and conscience, I choose for the rest of my life:

Smile, shut up, let go, live yourself, and love your children unconditionally.

I allow myself to be my truest self, to be my best self. Children are also allowed.

I allow myself to be the director and screenwriter of my own life, and I allow children. Live your own life and illuminate each other.

No one wants to be a puppet, including myself, my daughter. Moreover, even if my daughter was willing to be that puppet, I really didn't have the strength to lift the thread as I grew older.

No matter how long a parent lives, you will not live two lives. It is better to let go as soon as possible, let the child wrestle under your eyes, you still have the strength to support, and the energy to the bottom.

Believe that the child is a spiritual seed, let go of anxiety, let go of the shackles, give him sunshine, water, nourishment, let him grow savagely. In time, it will eventually become a towering tree for you to look up to.