Not Lao Wang is 35 years old this year, and there are almost no leisure activities on weekdays. The only pleasure is to buy two pounds of pork beef yourself, then open your own small wine glass and drink it yourself at home.
I often go to his house to visit, so whenever I see this, I have advised him, let's go out and play basketball.
After saying this, Lao Wang burst into tears, and then told me that he didn't want to go out to play, and every day he just wanted to drink a little wine at home, just such a hobby, begging me not to persuade him again.
Some people may have realized that at this stage, some middle-aged men have the greatest pleasure after their holidays, or in non-working hours, to buy a little meat and small dishes, open a small wine glass in their own home, and pour themselves a drink.
Why? Why are they reluctant to attend social events? Why don't you want to run outside, or even play basketball, but like to be alone at home drinking wine?
If you are interested in this or happen to have such friends around you, or you are such a person, you may wish to take a look at this article, let's analyze why they have become like this?
Point 1, tell us a real situation.
I will still talk about my colleague, Lao Wang, this person is very concerned about I have hardly seen him participate in any social activities, so-called social activities.
For example, our company team building, such as a dinner party at night, or a basketball together, there is a basketball court next to our company, young lads and even some fifty or sixty-year-old uncles, are willing to come here to play basketball.
But Lao Wang has never been there, he not only does not go, but also every day is very regular, to what extent, go to work at 8 o'clock in the morning, he goes to the company at 7:55, leaves work at 6 o'clock at night, goes home directly after 6 o'clock, and does not go anywhere.
Once, out of kindness, we invited Lao Wang to play basketball together, and we should pay attention to the fact that our basketball team is very strong.
It's not that anyone who wants to play basketball can play basketball, a few of us are very demanding, and play basketball with a sharp mind.
The reason why Lao Wang was invited is because he was too tired to see Lao Wang in recent times, because of work reasons, plus he is more wooden, and he does not say anything all day, we are afraid that if we continue like this, Lao Wang will not have autism again.
But I didn't expect that we didn't invite Lao Wang, and after the invitation, Lao Wang's head shook like a wavy dog, and finally he rode his bicycle back home.
The relationship between me and Lao Wang is also very good, and the reason why the relationship is good is because our family lives on the upper floor of Lao Wang's house, and we can also go to Lao Wang's house to chat on weekdays.
On the same day, I went to Lao Wang's house and found that Lao Wang was just drinking his own small wine glass, and the whole person's expression was very wooden.
He was very happy to see me coming, and he also brought me a small wine glass, but the small wine glass belonged to the small wine glass, and we asked Lao Wang to play basketball, and Lao Wang was stunned and did not agree.
So I had to raise the biggest doubt in my mind, you said that you didn't have anything else to hang out with us after work.
You say we're young, so what are you afraid of when you play with us and someone older than you?
Usually you are at home drinking a little wine how depressed it is, at least you don't even have a friend, how to live this day, then it is better to accompany us to play, do you know what Lao Wang said?
Point 2, Lao Wang's true thoughts.
After hearing this, Lao Wang smiled bitterly and said that where there is such a simple thing, this matter is essentially a very serious problem.
You said that as a person who has come over, I am so old, and I have eaten the Lord that if I am playing with you young people, I always feel that I can't play.
Although the friendship between us is good, but it is not good enough, I am not saying that I did not treat you as a brother, but as a confidant is still slightly less distant, in addition to three key reasons.
First of all, people like our age are more willing to communicate with their own hearts, and their hearts are empty, lonely and lonely.
And this part of emptiness, loneliness and loneliness chatting with outsiders can not be effectively alleviated, and even without the capital to alleviate it, it is just a small thought wandering in the heart.
We don't want to open up to young people, not even to anyone.
This is not aimed at young people or that we are old, it's just that our inner thoughts are not very possible to express, and these thoughts may accompany us all the way to the end of life.
Secondly, the more people reach middle age, the fewer friends they have, when we are young, we always like to make friends, we will know all kinds of friends, and the relationship with this person is good, and the relationship with that person is also very good.
But be careful, it's just that we are still passionate about friendship when we are young, but as we get older, the threshold for us to make friends is getting higher and higher, and we can meet more and more people.
But at the same time there are fewer and fewer people who can be our friends, and there is no way, because we have eaten and seen what we have experienced.
So it is difficult for us to compare with the previous kind of friendship, and what people are afraid of in this life is to compare and compare, and they will find that the more they reach middle age, the fewer friends they make.
Finally, and most importantly, go out and play basketball, you young people have this energy, after playing basketball, you can take a shower, you can also talk together, and you can go to the road to eat a lamb kebab on the big night.
I'm older, exhausted after playing basketball, and having to push my car back to my home is a very painful thing to do so far.
The older people get, the lazier they get, and laziness is, to some extent, the main reason why I'm stopping me from having fun with you.
This is also why middle-aged men prefer to pour themselves a drink at home rather than participate in the focus of effective socializing.
But words can not be said to die or a hammer to buy and sell, under normal circumstances, there are also some middle-aged men who like to go out to play, but also like to hang out with young people.
But it depends on how to distinguish, after all, from the perspective of probability, there is indeed a part, middle-aged people are not willing to play with young people after they are older, and the only pleasure every day may be to go back to their own homes to rest.