There are often parents who are very distressed:
My baby was robbed of the toy by another child and will not be snatched back, what should I do?
My child has been bullied in kindergarten, what should I do?
What should I do if my classmates isolate my child?
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Many parents wait until their children encounter difficulties before they begin to worry about it, which seems to be a bit passive. The more children do not know how to resist and protect themselves, the more vulnerable they are to be bullied, and they have become the "soft persimmons" in everyone's mouth.
In fact, children are not born to protect themselves, and only when parents teach their children some defensive methods in advance can they try to stay away from "being bullied".
Parents should take the initiative to teach their children 3 ways to take the initiative to defend.
The first trick: say "no" out loud
This trick seems simple, but it is very effective in the children's group, and it can be very effective in deterring the other party.
For young children, especially kindergarten children, even if there will be "bullying" behavior, most of them are not really "bad minds", but they just don't realize that what they are doing is wrong.
Tell your child that when you encounter something unhappy, say "no" out loud and tell others that "you are doing this wrongly." No one wants to be a "bad boy" and stops when they realize that what they're doing isn't right.
Second trick: be sure to ask adults for help
As children get older, some children learn to deliberately "bully people", and even warn the weak side: do not sue the teacher, do not sue the parents.
You know, if the child really listens to these words and does not seek help from adults, he will only be bullied more.
Here's an inappropriate example:
Many salespeople retain a lot of customer information in their hands, which customer likes to complain, which customer never complains, which customer will ask for small gifts, etc., and salespeople will make different responses according to different customer personalities.
Most people, out of the idea of "why offend people", never complain, even if they encounter a little problem, they choose to forget it. However, this sends a message to the salesperson that the customer doesn't need to be particularly well maintained.
This truth also has commonalities in children: the more children who will not sue their parents, the better they will bully; the children who will sue their parents will look "not good".
The third trick: make more friends can effectively resist "bullying"
I asked the boys around me before: Did you experience "robbery" when you were a child?
Of the 10 boys, 11 answered yes.
Some unlearned teenagers will wander at the school gates, threatening some children to find them "pocket money" and beat them if they don't. These targeted targets are usually children who are alone or left alone.
The situation is similar in the classroom, where most of the bullied children are relatively "withdrawn" and have few or no friends.
To put it bluntly, man is a social animal. It is important to cultivate children's social skills from an early age, even if the introverted child does not need to have a lot of friends, but as long as there are a few friends who have a lot of fun and let others look like the child "has a companion", it will not be easy to bully.
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