The urban family ethics drama "Heart Residence" that took over "The World of Man" was released only a few days ago, but the wind direction of the whole network changed again and again, and the contradiction between the two women in the play reached a climax after Gu Lei's death.
Borrowing money to buy a house is the introduction to Gu Lei's accident and the awakening of Feng Xiaoqin's independent consciousness.
To tell the truth, the two women in "Heart Residence" are not very well-equipped.
Feng Xiaoqin was full of fireworks, but with the calculation of a small citizen, Gu Qingyu was smart and knowledgeable, but divided people into three, six, nine, and so on, and the arrogance and prejudice in his bones were also unpleasant.
However, most netizens, while feeling helpless for Feng Xiaoqin's shrewd calculations and unreasonable troublemaking, feel very powerless and sympathetic to her situation.
Compared with Gu Qingyu, who is not grounded, it is obvious that Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, has more shadows of ordinary people, that is, our shadows.
Hai Qing was so skilled that he filled this sympathetic mood with just three scenes.
So, which three scenes?
01, in the future, the person who will accompany him to drink the northwest wind is me
When Feng Xiaoqin ignored the faces of the two families of the great uncle and aunt and said, "You can take it slowly, don't worry, I can't, the person who will accompany him to drink the northwest wind in the future is me, not you", my eye sockets suddenly became moist.
The reason why this sentence will be said is that Gu Lei is not motivated, and the whole family is a conniving attitude.
Many parents will have a concept: the child is still young and does not understand things, wait for the family to start a business, get married and have children.
It is as if, when married, a person will grow and transform from heart to body.
Feng Xiaoqin did know what kind of person Gu Lei was, but like all her parents, she had expectations for Gu Lei after marriage.
Many of us are not ashamed that Feng Xiaoqin obviously does not have much savings, but he borrows money in the name of buying a house.
In the eyes of outsiders, she is not a "loan" that has been borrowed and repaid, but a "want" that "has borrowed and not repaid".
Because Gu Lei had no ability to repay at all.
But in fact, Feng Xiaoqin is looking forward to Gu Lei's examination, she feels that Gu Lei has taken the certificate, the salary will rise, the days will be better, and the money can be repaid, so she has the courage to borrow money.
This is very similar to the concept of early consumption: I thought I was still starting, so I went to swipe my credit card.
Borrowing money from the eldest sister-in-law, Feng Xiaoqin was straight and strong.
But turn around and think about it, why didn't Gu Qingyu justifiably want Feng Xiaoqin to live at home and take care of the family?
In particular, Gu Qingyu's "pension table theory" is even more hypocritical.
"I know that she has not been easy in these years, taking care of the family is very hard, changing a little girl in Shanghai is definitely not going to be able to do it, then I think you make some small requests, knock on the small bamboo bar, I can accept it, then you can't move out and leave it alone." 」
The meaning of this sentence is almost directly said: "You can knock me out of the bamboo bar, but you are not allowed to move out and live alone, you must take care of your grandmother, father, brother and nephew."
But why?
Why can you move out and live alone, I can't? Just because you have money and I'm poor?
This undoubtedly reminds us of Feng Huacheng's remarks in "The World of Man" that "filial piety is divided into two kinds, one is to nourish the mouth and the body, and the other is to cultivate the mind".
Why can Zhou Rong and Zhou Bingyi not retire outside?
Just because Zhou Bingkun is dumber than them, reading is not as good as them?
Feng Xiaoqin's empty mouth and white teeth, it is indeed wrong to ask for money to buy a house, but what about Gu Qingyu himself?
Is she right?
Even her girlfriend can mention it to the point: "She may also feel that you also have the responsibility to take care of the elderly, and it is true that you can't push her alone, right?" ”
But Gu Qingyu's words were beautiful.
From the verbal analysis, the former affirmed the girlfriend's statement: "I know that she is right in this idea, why can the daughter-in-law take care of the elderly, but the eldest sister-in-law can't do it."
Immediately after that, the "table truth" began to be said.
"Under the heavens, there are two kinds of truths, there is one, you can put it on the table to say, just like you just said, taking care of the elderly everyone is responsible, if anyone says no, it will definitely be scolded." 」 But there is another kind of it, it may not be able to be put on the table to talk about, everyone also recognizes, it is ugly to say it. ”
Feng Xiaoqin bought a house with her own small abacus that could not be on the table, in order to live alone with her husband, for the sake of her children's degree, for the sake of security, in order to bring her family to Shanghai.
Gu Qingyu didn't have it?
There are also, in her private heart, that she wants Feng Xiaoqin to be a full-time nanny in the Gu family and does not pay a salary.
But here, there is another fact that we can easily ignore, that is, the direct obligation of Feng Xiaoqin and his wife should be Gu Shihong, not the old lady.
The three brothers and sisters of the previous generation of the Gu family have the eldest son Gu Shihai and the younger daughter Gu Shilian.
The second wife died at the age of 36, which is the kind of widow who lost his wife in the early years, although Gu Qingyu consciously assumed the responsibility of "mother" in front of Gu Lei, but she was not the daughter-in-law of the previous generation of the Gu family after all.
Why doesn't the old lady live with the elder of the sound family, do not live with the third elder of the sound family, and follow the second elder?
Feng Xiaoqin married to the Gu family for 8 years, according to age, when he got married, Gu Shihong did not retire, and it was not yet the time when he really needed to be taken care of.
But the old lady was following the other children, and the burden on Feng Xiaoqin's body was a small tiger.
Asking a nanny to take care of the children is completely solvable, but Gu Lei asks her to take care of the two old and the young at home, and even the whole Gu family tacitly accepts that she should take care of the two old and the young at home.
Feng Xiaoqin, who angrily shouted that "it is himself who accompanies him to drink the northwest wind", what stimuli were he stimulated at that time?
Her husband went to the Internet café, did not go to class, her eldest sister-in-law transferred the scarf she knitted to the nanny, and the Gu family's great aunt and aunt joined her husband to act, in order not to let her buy a house and move out.
You can indulge your son and indulge your brother from being unmotivated, but you can't stop me from making my husband motivated, after all, I am the one who accompanies him all his life.
For 8 years, you can't give me a sense of belonging, and you still don't allow me to find a way to find a sense of belonging?
Supporting the old lady is the obligation of the second and third elders of the Gu family, and now it has become feng Xiaoqin's responsibility, and supporting Gu Shihong is Gu Lei's obligation and Gu Qingyu's obligation, and now it has also become Feng Xiaoqin's shackles.
In 8 years, according to the salary of the nanny in Shanghai, the second and third elders of the Gu family sent a copy to Feng Xiaoqin, and Gu Lei Andu Qingyu sent a copy to Feng Xiaoqin, which is more than hundreds of thousands, right?
Gu Qingyu himself also said that "changing a Little Girl in Shanghai must not be able to do it", why reject girls from other places?
Do you think that if a Shanghai girl can't do it, she can ask a nanny to help, and the foreign girl will only be assigned to her Gu family as a nanny?
To exchange people's hearts for people's hearts, Gu Qingyu is not wrong with guarding Feng Xiaoqin, Feng Xiaoqin does have a previous crime, her original intention of marrying into the Feng family is not lei, but it cannot be denied that she wants to live a good life with Gu Lei.
Buying a house, Feng Xiaoqin did not say from beginning to end not to write Gu Lei's name, it was Gu Qingyu's own analysis and speculation, she did not have half trust in Feng Xiaoqin, only full-hearted defense.
After Gu Lei's death, the little tiger once asked Feng Xiaoqin: "Will we really be driven away?" ”
Feng Xiaoqin mentioned a sentence "Your surname is Gu, here is your home..." In fact, this is also Feng Xiaoqin's psychological self-compromise, she finally accepted the fact that she "does not have the surname Gu, and has never been included in the scope of the Gu family".
02、Can I go?
One of the scenes where Feng Xiaoqin's acting skills exploded was a big quarrel with Gu Qingyu about who killed Gu Lei.
The eyes of netizens are bright, and they all see the drama that Tong Yao can't catch Haiqing.
They also saw Feng Xiaoqin in this scene, obviously in a disadvantageous situation, many netizens are very disgusted by her actions, but she has turned the audience's perception of her.
In this confrontation, almost the whole network understands a fact, that is, Gu Lei's death is directly related to Feng Xiaoqin, but she pushed the responsibility on Gu Qingyu's body, which is very unreasonable and unreasonable.
But in the face of life and death, how many family members can maintain sanity among several responsible parties?
Feng Xiaoqin was Gu Lei who was directly killed, but Gu Qingyu was not completely irresponsible.
When the Gu family unanimously put the responsibility on Feng Xiaoqin, wasn't their family also unreasonable and not generous enough?
The old lady's sentence "that woman" overturned all her 8 years, which is the Gu family's kindness?
On the Internet, there was once a message: "There is nothing wrong with the eldest sister-in-law not borrowing money, but it is really wrong to provoke the feelings of husband and wife and instigate the whole family to pay attention to Feng!" Many accidents are composed of many coincidences, if you have to say that it is Feng's reason, then if Gu Lei does not catch up, will he not fall down? You will say that if Feng does not run, Gu Lei will not catch up. Looking further ahead, if the eldest sister-in-law did not hold a private family meeting in front of others, and said that, Feng would not be angry and wanted to leave. Plus if there is no glass in the corridor, falling down will not cause death! Therefore, Gu Lei's death is a combination of all these things, and indeed it cannot be simply counted on one person. ”
This is one of the most pertinent messages I have ever read.
Gu Lei's death, from a certain point of view, Gu Qingyu is the cause, Feng Xiaoqin is the effect; it is necessary to push forward, Feng Xiaoqin bought a house is the cause, Gu Qingyu opened a small meeting is the effect; further forward, the Gu family treats Feng Xiaoqin as a nanny is the cause, And Feng Xiaoqin buying a house is the effect...
This is a process of continuous development of cause and effect, and the most serious consequence is the death of Gu Lei.
Just think, Feng Xiaoqin, as a member of the Gu family, has not been able to get more understanding and pity from their parents for 8 years, can not get a sense of belonging, and has been excluded, whose fault should it be?
For up to 8 years, Gu Qingyu speculated about Feng Xiaoqin with the worst thoughts, which is right?
As far as Feng Xiaoqin's complaint to the neighbors is concerned, the first reaction of the entire Gu family is "I can't afford to lose this person" and "You don't blackmail others", not "Gu Lei's death, they are also responsible."
Gu Lei's death itself is difficult to define whose fault is greater, but is it unfair for everyone to regard Feng Xiaoqin as the only murderer?
No one wanted to seek justice for Gu Lei, and no one said a word for Feng Xiaoqin.
After Gu Lei's incident, the only one who gave Feng Xiaoqin a little warmth was his newly married cousin-in-law Ge Yue.
The human heart is complex, who does something, and there is no personal selfishness in the beginning?
Feng Xiaoqin's original intention of marrying Gu Lei is not simple, can it cover up the fact that she has worked hard for the Gu family for 8 years? Gu Qingyu clung to this original intention of 8 years ago, but forgot that his brother was the one who lived with Feng Xiaoqin.
Whether the day is good or not, should this wife score a few points, and see her original intention at the beginning?
Feng Xiaoqin wants to live a good life with Gu Lei, even if she wants to support her mother's family, she cannot deny that she has really done her best for the Gu family and fulfilled her filial piety.
"If you hadn't come that day, would I have been able to leave?" Can I go? Can I go? We were all reconciled, Gu Lei had already learned to call a pig, it was you who came over, talked nonsense,, provoked the feelings between our husband and wife, and it was you who made this matter unmanageable. ”
The three questions that were repeated, not to mention that Gu Qingyu was stunned, but also stunned the audience.
Feng Xiaoqin obviously tried to attribute it to Gu Qingyu and reduce his inner sense of guilt and guilt, but there was some truth in what he said, didn't he?
Gu Qingyu intervened too much between Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei.
She said that her mother died at the age of 36, and after that, she took care of her like Gu Lei's mother, so between her and Feng Xiaoqin, for a full 8 years, she lived into a mother-in-law and a discordant mother-in-law.
Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei have their own mode of getting along with each other, even if they are incompetent and cowardly, he will be spoiled, he will learn to bark pigs, he will be afraid of his wife, and he will also coax his wife.
People have been like this for 8 years, how did they get to Gu Qingyu here, there is only calculation?
This was originally an unreasonable drama, but Feng Xiaoqin's words and sentences, Gu Qingyu had no room to refute at all, it was precisely because there was no way to refute, so we understood in Feng Xiaoqin's madness that she was crazy, but still sharp.
03, my husband is gone
Many netizens scolded Feng Xiaoqin for being a craftsman, and had no money to let the eldest sister-in-law buy a house, which led to an accident for Gu Lei, but everyone forgot a fact, Gu Qingyu did not pay from beginning to end.
Not only did she not pay for it, she also asked her father not to pay for it, and let her brother guard against Feng Xiaoqin.
From a close point of view, Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei are a family, Gu Qingyu is a relative of the in-laws' family, you can not lend me money, but you cut off my way to borrow money, and provoked my husband to start a different mind with me.
Gu Qingyu, as an older sister, circled herself with her brother, and always had the attitude of "Feng Xiaoqin is an outsider", which is itself wrong.
And she recognized in the persuasion of her girlfriend that she also has the responsibility to take care of the elderly, but the whole film does not mention whether she has supported the elderly, only a sentence "You make some small requests, knock on the small bamboo bar, I can accept it, then you can't move out and leave it alone", so she really fulfilled her responsibility for the two old people?
There is a saying: there is money to pay, no money to contribute.
Feng Xiaoqin has no money, she contributed, Gu Qingyu has money, did she pay for it?
Is this a question mark?
She subsidized her brother, how to subsidize, the play does not mention, according to the original to guess, there is not much sense, but Feng Xiaoqin has a sentence in the play, but also hinted at what?
She said that the couple did not have much savings, and most of Gu Lei's salary was given to the children in cram schools.
The salary is given to the children, and the couple does not have much savings, which means that their foreign wealth is not much.
This foreign wealth, which directly corresponds to Gu Qingyu's pension subsidy, is it also hinting that Gu Qingyu did not pay much in terms of pension, or did not reach the hands of his brother and daughter-in-law?
In fact, in the matter of borrowing money to buy a house, Feng Xiaoqin is really excessive.
But in pulling the family, using various analyses, paralyzing the family, making the family's defense against Feng Xiaoqin increasingly strong, and too much mixing with the brother's family, Gu Qingyu is also excessive.
"My man is gone... I don't have much savings with Gu Lei, and all the money Gu Lei earns is used on the little tiger... Originally wanted to find a reliable person, a lifetime, safe and stable, do not ask for anything else, happy, and then I met Gu Lei, I thought, how can I make Gu Lei more prominent, and then later, there are small tigers, small tigers grow up, I thought, to buy a suite ... Men are gone, saying no is gone, like a nightmare... If Gu Lei were alive, I would be willing to exchange anything for anything. ”
What kind of emotions did Feng Xiaoqin have for Gu Lei?
More love, or more affection?
Obviously, it is the latter.
What she wants is Gu Lei, a man who is reliable and can accompany himself for a lifetime.
Many netizens feel that Feng Xiaoqin has a plan to marry into the Gu family, and it is also too much to borrow money to buy a house with empty mouth and white teeth, and what is even more excessive is to take over the mother's family.
But I can really understand Feng Xiaoqin, that is, a full-time wife like her.
In modern society, who marries without a little personal selfishness?
Isn't the high dowry also the product of this selfishness?
Feng Xiaoqin's original sin was not to marry into the Gu family, but to lose her measure in supporting her mother's family and borrowing money from her eldest sister-in-law.
People today always flaunt women's independence, from ideological to financial, but for a woman who has to work as a full-time wife at home, their life patterns are actually conservative.
It is still similar to the ancient "husband for heaven" model.
Everything about her comes from her husband, including the support for her mother's family, whether she is married or not, women's support for her mother's family has always been the norm, and taking this accusation against Feng Xiaoqin is obviously not convincing enough.
Why is it that my husband can work outside with peace of mind? That's because there is a woman behind him, for him to take care of the family, the family, the housework, but also to take care of the husband's body and mind, to ensure the harmony of the husband and wife relationship.
This is a balance between husband and wife in a family, and this balance naturally has an economic balance.
The full-time wife is not a man's silk flower, but a collaborator with a clear division of labor.
Feng Xiaoqin used her share to exchange for support for her mother's family, there was nothing wrong, what was wrong was that she did not grasp the measure of her mother's family.
What she has lost is the sense of proportion of supporting her mother's family, not that she should not support her mother's family.
Why does the married full-time wife never have much status in the in-laws' family, nor does she have much confidence? That's what the husband caused.
Watching Feng Xiaoqin complain to her friends, she choked up and said "My man is gone" while saying it, and across the screen, I could feel her collapse of the sky.
Feng Xiaoqin, too much like every grandmother at home to take care of the elderly, do housework to buy vegetables and cook, but still excluded, and even accused of supporting the full-time wife of the mother's family.
A lot of stay-at-home wives look at her like they're looking in a mirror, and the person in the mirror is us.
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Feng Xiaoqin, this woman, is pitiful and pathetic.
She has no culture, early on Gu Lei, although the purpose is not very simple, but she is not the kind of cheating marriage, she has the heart to live a good life with her husband, but she has always wandered outside the Gu family.
In her mother's house, she was a guest, and in her in-laws' house, she was not even a guest.
In that long 8 years, I don't know how many stupid things Feng Xiaoqin has done, so that Gu Qingyu's defense against her has gone deep into the bone marrow, but whenever she does something, Gu Qingyu can immediately think of her calculating her own home.
Then there was a lot of analysis and persuasion.
The set of rules and logic in the workplace is clear, and it is all used for the family and the sister-in-law.
Feng Xiaoqin did not love Gu Lei, but she did not want to cross the river and tear down the bridge, Gu Qingyu guarded against Feng Xiaoqin, stunned that she had become an "evil mother-in-law", two people, face and heart discord for 8 years.
The definition of family shattered completely in front of both of them.
As soon as Gu Lei died, Feng Xiaoqin only had one son left in his family, shrewd all his life, calculated a lot, and finally still had nothing, but lost the person closest to him.