I often listen to the elderly around me ask their grandchildren, "Do you think it is good for grandparents, or are grandparents good", such a question of competition for favors is believed to be familiar to many people. Out of love for the grandchildren, grandparents, grandparents always want to let the children by their side, there are many families in order to balance the time between grandparents and grandparents and grandchildren, the implementation of the way of taking turns with the baby, the two families of the elderly each for a week, not only can reduce the burden of the children, and the grandchildren get along well, there are some time to rest. In fact, it sounds fair and feasible, but it may not be feasible, in my opinion, there are several major problems with taking turns with the baby.
First, parenting concepts are different
Because the living environment of the elderly on both sides is different, there will also be some different experiences in parenting, so there are always some different methods when taking grandchildren. As far as the most common problem is concerned, perhaps grandparents advocate the use of diapers, while grandparents advocate using diapers, the old people here advocate taking the baby in a traditional way, and the old man on the other side takes the baby in the way of scientific parenting. For adults, they may think that there are drawbacks in each other's way, and they will be more or less unhappy in their hearts, but the most important thing is that frequent alternating parenting methods will bring great discomfort to children, and I believe that no old man is willing to let grandchildren be wronged, so the appropriate way to unify children may be better.
Second, the elders compete with each other
Out of the love for children and the psychology of the elderly competing for favors, "grandparents" and "grandparents" seem to have become competitors, each hoping that children will like themselves more and their psychology will be more satisfied. In fact, after all, it is their own grandchildren, every elderly person in the process of taking children will naturally do their best, although it is inevitable that there will be a contrast, but this is not conducive to the growth of children, if you often ask children "grandparents and grandparents who is better in the end" This question, it is very easy to make children feel insecure. Children's hearts are very simple, and if they are tempted by profit, it is easy for them to form the concept of mercenary interests, which is very detrimental to their growth.
Third, it has an impact on the child's personality
When children are young, their three views are largely influenced by their elders. And because we grow up and live in different environments, there will be many differences in our thinking and concepts. In the process of taking children, such a problem has the most obvious impact on grandchildren is that they are easily confused in the process of imitating adults to do things, and do not know whether grandparents are right or grandparents are right, so it is easy for them to become hesitant and dare not try. Therefore, even if you help your children with your children, you must also focus on your children, do some simple care on your own, and avoid some unnecessary problems in the process of learning and growth because of your own influence.
Fourth, the child's inner sense of security is lost
Security is very important for children, children are insecure in their hearts, which will make them prone to large or small character defects in personality. So children are always going back and forth to the growth environment is not conducive to their growth, if you help your children with babies, it is best to be in their own home, and only provide help, the education problems of the grandchildren still have to be handed over to their parents, do not let them lack the education and love from their parents in early childhood.