Reading is a gradual process, with input at one end and output at the other, and sometimes output is more important than input.
In parent-child reading, who is the protagonist? Parents or children? Kids, of course!
In this reading process, parents only play the role of a leader, and the child does not know a few words, and can only read the pictures on the book. What the guide has to do is to explain the words in the picture book and guide the children how to read it with relish.
Children's observation power can not be underestimated, they can often capture the details that adults do not notice, adults read books, mostly read words, and children have their own world, their perspective is very unique, sometimes more acute than adults.
Let's first take a look at the purpose of parent-child reading:
Regulate behavior; transmit values and truth;
Enhance parent-child relationships; cultivate his love of reading;
Share reading experiences and solve each other's puzzles;
Let him better read independently.
Every time I finish reading a picture book, I will have an extended discussion with my child to help him internalize his knowledge, and he will repeat it to me in his own language. And I would dress up as his kindergarten kid and ask questions in a childlike tone.
Often the story that is retold is tampered with to pieces by him, and he will add fuel to the story according to his imagination, add a lot of personal life experiences and experiences, and make a big blood-like adaptation of the storyline, almost becoming another story.
But what does it matter, what we have to tap into is the child's creative ability, isn't it?
In addition, I will also role-play and dialogue with him, read the lines in the picture book by role, and he will even combine the emotions of the characters to make a wonderful interpretation.
I have to say that this interaction makes children feel particularly engaged and have fun every time.
Although we parents live with our children every day, we inevitably ignore or even misunderstand their children's behaviors, emotions, and thoughts.
Therefore, picture books that reflect daily life can often be used as material for discussion to deepen understanding between parents and children.
In "Emily Wetting the Bed", the parents told Emily that she also wet the bed when she was a child, and everyone wet the bed, and Emily immediately felt relaxed about the bedwetting.
After reading it, I will talk to my child about wetting the bed when I was a child, or other troubles, and the child will feel: Mom and Dad used to be the same children as me!
After reading "Emily Is Not Happy," I talked about emotions with my children. Everyone is unhappy when they are unhappy, why will the child be unhappy? Why would Mom and Dad be upset?
When you are unhappy, how do you want others to treat you? Are you an emotional manager?
Even if it is a picture book that seems very simple from all aspects, different people may have different interpretations, children may not understand and have doubts, and adults may also have places of neglect and misunderstanding. That's when the discussion comes in handy.
When reading, pay attention to the child's reaction, stop where he frowns or feel confused, and focus on the discussion together.
For example, in the book "Lively Bazaar", my brother took Emily to the market to buy things, and there were seasonings in the market, and there were all kinds of fruits, vegetables, fish, and cheese.
The child may not quite understand what the "bazaar" or "seasoning" is, and may not recognize all the objects in the picture, but the interesting story and beautiful pictures make him have no time to think about them.
After reading the story, you can discuss with the child what is the catch-up and what is the seasoning, and the child's impression must be more profound.
We can gain a lot from reading, which is not to say that the book we are reading at the moment can teach us how much knowledge and truth, but to broaden our horizons, open our minds, let us have more curiosity about a certain theme or field, or give us some enlightenment and epiphany, so as to solve problems in life and life more intelligently.
In the picture book "Goodbye, Falling Leaves", Emily and her brother help their father clean the fallen leaves and then burn them. After reading it, I will ask the child, in life, is there a better way to deal with falling leaves?
After asking this question, use your brain and imagination with your child, and then check the information to learn some related knowledge: leaf disposal, garbage disposal, smog, environmental protection, plant life cycle...
Such discussions and learning are meaningful. As long as the topic can be extended from the story itself. No matter how far away from the book and where it goes, it is a useful discussion.
For example, when reading "Hello, Garbage Sorting", after reading it together, I will discuss with my children which garbage is kitchen waste, which is hazardous garbage, which is recyclable garbage, and which is other garbage. How should we reduce the generation of garbage in our daily lives?
Let the child participate in it, constantly think and act, and the child will have great enthusiasm and enthusiasm.
So that later we walked on the street, in the park, in the community... Whenever he sees various garbage or garbage cans, the baby will have a discussion with the adults about garbage sorting, and the fun is endless.
Children are at a young age or have a low level of reading comprehension; they show doubts and confusion about the content of picture books, which is the most suitable time for extended discussion.
When the child has a certain level of reading ability and comprehension, parents can reduce excessive interpretation, so that the child can give full play to the free imagination and let the child play freely within a certain range.
However, there are some picture books, excessive extension but drown out the main purpose and meaning of the picture book itself, especially extending to the high level or professional level of painting style and style, children will be difficult to digest, and even will have a fear of difficulties.
Reading picture books to children, if you only complete the action of "reading", do not extend the discussion with the child after reading, which is equivalent to only feeding the child, regardless of whether he digests it or not.
Discussing picture books with children does not require superb skills, as long as you realize the value of discussion, are willing to respect and share with children during the discussion, and have a relaxed and open mind, you can have high-quality discussions.
Note that the discussion topic in the book is not to give the child the test questions, the discussion is free and open, if the child is not used to discussion, not used to expressing themselves, then share their feelings and ideas, slowly guide the child to say their own ideas.
Independent thinking ability, learning ability, problem solving ability, expression ability, comprehension ability, communication ability, conversation etiquette, etc., are all things we can gain from extended discussion, and it is also the real purpose of our children to read.
Books have a way, and there is no boundary in the pursuit of knowledge. Give your child a little time, wait for the flowers to bloom, and feel the power of reading together.
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