It is said that before the birth of a foreign child, some expectant parents will hold a ceremony to disclose the gender of the child.
Not long ago, a short video was on fire on the outside network, and the girl in the video also held a similar ceremony.
But what she unveiled was not the child's gender,
It's the news that he has been sterilized...
The girl who took the video is Abby Ramsay, 24 years old, from California, USA,
She is now an actress and a model.
The video was taken in a park.
A large stone was placed a box with the word "Congratulations" written on the side of the box.
Abby mysteriously opens the box,
Take a document out of it,
Then in flower characters, she was holding a medical document for sterilization,
She has completed sterilization
, the video was taken to announce the news.
Abby underwent two surgeries.
One is bilateral tubal removal
, cutting off the egg's access to the uterus.
The other is called endometrial ablation
, which is the operation to remove a layer of endometrium,
Because during pregnancy, the fertilized egg needs to implant in the endometrium, so removing this layer of endometrium will greatly reduce the chance of pregnancy.
Abby chose to do these two surgeries, not only to achieve the purpose of "sterilization", but also to bring her other benefits -
She has a family history of ovarian cancer, and removing the fallopian tubes helps prevent ovarian cancer;
And her menstruation lasts long, and the discomfort is more serious,
Endometrial ablation, which can reduce menstrual flow and sometimes terminate menstruation, is a relief for her.
Two surgeries cost about $116,000, which is expensive.
But most health insurance covers permanent sterilization, so Abby only needs to pay about $1,000 out of pocket.
Having undergone permanent sterilization at a young age, Abby is so happy that her wish for years has finally been fulfilled.
"I'm 24 years old, I've been sterilized and will never get pregnant and have a baby, I'm so happy."
Making such a seemingly outrageous decision is not easy for Abby.
She came from a devout family and attended a church school when she went to school.
Growing up, they were always given a conservative education, and school teachers encouraged children to start a family in the future.
But growing up, Abby slowly had different ideas.
At the age of 16, she decided not to have children for the rest of her life.
There are many reasons for this, such as her family has a family history of ovarian cancer, and she does not want to pass on this danger to the next generation.
And she also understood the pros and cons of various contraceptives, found that they are very troublesome, and are prone to unsuccessful situations.
She doesn't want children, which makes her need a safe and effective contraceptive method.
"I realized early on that pregnancy was a particularly scary thought for me," Abby said.
"No matter how hard I tried to imagine it, I felt that it wasn't what I wanted in the future."
"I found contraception to be very bad, and I was determined not to get pregnant."
"There are many reasons why I don't want to get pregnant, and the situation is slowly changing from 'I don't want to get pregnant' to 'I can't get pregnant.'"
At the age of 19, Abby decided to choose the most thorough solution – sterilization.
It took her nearly 6 years from making a decision to having surgery.
Abby consulted many doctors and was reluctant to sterilize her.
Even if she told the doctor that the surgery helped prevent ovarian cancer,
But there are still some doctors who say that she is still too young, afraid that she will regret it in the future, or feel that her ideas are unreasonable, and refuse to operate on her.
There were even people who thought she was childish and unwilling to listen to her questions, and Abby often felt like she wasn't being taken seriously.
"Several doctors have said that surgery is not necessary."
"The third doctor I watched was almost implying that I didn't want children because I had a problem, and that I needed treatment to cure my brain so that I could have children one day."
"Sometimes I go home crying, sometimes I want to scream, or I feel numb, empty and depressed."
"My pain, my desires, my goals, my life, all because of a child who doesn't exist, all of them are not valued."
"An imaginary person has more say in my future than I do."
After 6 years of searching, Abby finally met a doctor who understood her last December.
Abby walked into the doctor's office with the case and prepared the words when he was rejected based on previous experience,
But the prepared words did not work, because the female doctor listened to her for five minutes, fully understood her ideas, and gave her the right surgical plan.
"I was so happy I almost burst into tears."
The doctor recommended a suitable surgeon for Abby,
On February 4 this year, Abby finally completed the sterilization operation, which was very successful.
"Although sterilization is a relatively unusual treatment,
But I can solve the problem all at once, never have to worry again, don't have to think of other ways, and don't have to wait until menopause to be reassured.
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"Now that I've had surgery, I'm 100% confident that I made the right choice."
"I feel so relieved that after recovering from surgery, I can really start enjoying life, and there is one less thing to worry about."
After Abby posted the video online, it received the attention of many netizens.
Many netizens expressed understanding and supported her decision.
Congratulations on having your own happiness... It's liberating.
Speaking up for yourself shouldn't be that difficult.
I'm glad someone can listen to you.
It's very simple, you should think about how you want, just do it.
People who don't want children shouldn't have children or be forced to worry about them.
How do you feel??? I had sterilization about a year ago and it was the most correct decision. congratulations!
I'm a mom and would like to say congratulations to you!
Just as I can choose to have children, you can also choose not to have children and should be respected.
Abby replied: Thank you very much.
There are also some who question her practice of sterilization at a young age.
Among them, many people have raised the same question -
What if Abby's significant other wants a baby and she can't get pregnant?
At present, this concern seems unnecessary.
Because Abby's current boyfriend also supported her decision.
Abby and boyfriend Kurt have been together for almost 5 years, and she has already talked to her boyfriend about children and life direction.
The two have reached a consensus on the "pregnancy and childbirth" matter, so the boyfriend also supports her sterilization.
"My boyfriend is amazing and very supportive of my approach."
"He was taking care of me throughout the recovery."
"I always hear people asking, 'What if your significant other wants kids?' 'What if you're in love with someone and he wants kids?' ’”
"But the thing is, I'm not going to be with people who oppose my plans for the future."
Abby has also seen people pointing fingers at her online, but her mentality is better.
"There are always people who talk nonsense about other people's bodies, especially on the Internet."
"Some people say I'll regret it later, and some people look at my appearance and say that I don't continue my genes as a contribution to society."
"I'm a sensitive person, but I don't care about cyberbullying."
Of course, Abby made the choice of "sterilization" according to his own situation.
Her decision can only represent herself, and the reference value to others is very limited,
Moreover, this sterilization procedure is permanent, the result is irreversible, and anyone must be cautious and cautious before making a decision, and many countries have strict laws on this.
In the United States, for example, many states have laws that restrict permanent sterilization.
For example, the person needs to be at least 21 years old before he or she can voluntarily undergo surgery;
Other insurance companies require patients and attending physicians to complete a surgical consent form indicating that both parties understand the risks and outcomes of the surgery.
After a careful decision, there are still some people who regret sterilization, although the proportion is not high,
According to a study by the American Sterilization Association, only 12.7 percent of women regret it within 14 years of sterilization.
One in five people who regret it did so before the age of 30.
Abby has thought very clearly about this,
"It's better to regret not having children than to regret having children."
"In short, if I regret it, I am the only one who suffers..."
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