Psychologist Dr. Angelu once said:
"If you're not used to something, change it.
If you can't change it, change your own attitude. ”
The reason why people are miserable is that when they encounter things that they are not accustomed to, they can neither change others nor change themselves.
In particular, there is such a person who knows that he cannot change the other party, but he always wants the other party to take the initiative to make changes.
Then, some small emotions such as disappointment and complaints are constantly bred, which gradually lead to negative emotions and become more and more unhappy.
In fact, whether you are happy or not in life can really be decided by yourself.
1: Complaining is the source of suffering
Many things, since they have already happened, if you regret it and calculate it again, to put it bluntly, it will only increase sadness and sorrow, and there will be no other benefits.
We will always choose to complain in times of pain, complain about this, complain about that, and then think about how much we have played in this process of venting negative energy.
But the truth is that the process of complaining is deepening the pain, but also deepening the painful memories, and then imprinting on the heart, and can never forget.
So, in the process, complaining will escalate into some kind of resentment, and may even turn into a hatred.
In just a few decades of life, if you are entangled, complaining, and suffering for one or two things that can neither be changed nor made up, then your life is too unjust.
Franklin said:
"Constant complaining is the worst reward for the comfortable life we enjoy."
Therefore, in time to put down the complaints, even if the first time can not do, but also to constantly remind themselves, even in the second day, the third day to forget those troubles, can not make up for the things, timely adjustment of the mentality, is a kind of kindness to themselves.
Complaining is the root of suffering, and to complain constantly is to develop a habit of suffering.
On the contrary, it is the right way to be vigilant against the harm of complaining, to examine yourself in a timely manner, to analyze the causes of things objectively and rationally, to truly solve the problem, and to stop complaining.
2: Instead of complaining, act
In fact, we have to admit the fact that when a person starts to like to complain incessantly, he becomes lazy.
Because when a person is really busy with work and busy with life, they have no time and no energy to complain about the people and things around them.
The root of people's inferiority lies in the fact that they can't help but hope that the other party can make some reactions according to the direction and way they want.
If the other party deviates slightly from the direction of the self-set track, then the heart is dissatisfied, and then it breeds unhappiness, and then it is necessary to chew the root of the tongue, talk and complain behind the scenes.
If everyone takes out even one percent of their energy to think about how to improve family relationships, friendships, etc., they will not let their minds show signs of deviation and derailment.
This is like when a person plays a game, if he pays more attention to teamwork spirit, knows how to tolerate and encourage each other, rather than blindly complaining and isolating, the winning rate will be much higher.
Lord Jeffrey once said:
"Complaining and complaining is a symptom of the soulless, the mentally inferior."
It can also be said that when a person has no soul and his intelligence becomes lower and lower, he will begin to complain about life, and even become hostile.
On the contrary, if a person continues to take practical actions in reality to enhance his own talent, improve his vision, and strengthen the pattern.
Then, these people's attention will only focus on those things that are more worth pursuing and owning, and naturally they will not complain about those things that do not care about themselves at all, or things that have no meaning and value to themselves.
Take action, use action to dispel complaints, use change to overcome complaints, and you will find that life will become more and more fulfilling and better.
3: Stop complaining and achieve a lifetime
The famous "Fistinger" theory says this:
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, while the other 90% is in your own hands."
In particular, it can be seen that what really determines the nature of the ending is not some kind of "hurt and challenge" that the outside world has made to themselves, but most of them are determined by their own mentality.
Therefore, when a person begins to complain because of external reasons, becomes inferior and blames himself, it is easy to stagnate.
It can be seen that when a person habitually blames other people or other conditions for failure, and forgets to adjust his mentality in time.
Then, even if you know that you can change things with your own adjustments and efforts, it becomes impossible.
Because I have given up this possibility, and the trajectory of life has also moved to a more difficult situation because of my own choices.
On the contrary, change your mind in time and adjust your mentality in time, as psychologist Peel said:
"Change your mind, you can change the world."
When you are able to face all kinds of troubles and difficulties, you can maintain an open mind and a cheerful attitude.
Then, when you can control your emotions and manage your mood, then the beauty of life is already in your hands.
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