The child does not seriously study and is dragged into the sea by his mother
On April 15, citizens of Liaoning City reported to the police that a mother and daughter wanted to jump into the sea to save their lives. The police arrived at the scene and found a young woman pulling a girl of about 10 years old into the sea. Four police officers took the man in the water and pulled the mother and daughter back to the shore. According to the police, the woman did not study seriously during her daughter's online classes, and she did not want to take her to the sea to "scare" the child for a while.
In the comment area, in addition to condemning the mother's irrational behavior, netizens also had many expressions of great understanding of the mother's mood, and shared their own stories of taking the baby, "It is really difficult to empathize with the tutoring of the child's homework without personal experience, you don't know how much I want to beat him" "The child is sometimes really disobedient, and there is no way to take her" "Yes, they don't know how difficult it is for parents to make money to support their families, and they don't know how to cherish it at all!" ”
It is true that children are wrong, and the parents' mood can also be understood, but when the child's education has developed to this extent, when there is no way to help, some parents have ever thought that perhaps, from the very beginning, we are wrong, we treat children too much "pulling seedlings and growing"! Many children have lost the right to rest on Saturdays and Sundays, and can only be forced to go to some cram schools and interest classes, and the more they crave freedom, the more parents will "confiscate" this freedom. And this kind of forced discipline is likely to be the root cause of many children's dislike of classes, because there are too many classes to make people breathless.
There are also many parents who are committed to fulfilling their long-cherished wish of "hoping for children to become dragons and women to become phoenixes". Feeling that they have no hope in this life, they put all their hopes on their children, hoping that they can have a career, and some even hope that their children can become "other selves" and complete their unfulfilled wishes instead of themselves. I did not get into a first-class university, then my child must be admitted, I did not learn to draw, then my child must be trained to become a brilliant painter, in this way, the child slowly became the parents' "tool man".
Isn't it okay to "pluck seedlings to promote growth", and not "hope to become a dragon"? Many parents said that sometimes we are reluctant to do this, but other people's children are like this, we do not keep up with the pace, is not to let their own children "lose on the starting line"? The child is small at this time and does not understand, and will understand later that the parents' approach is to be good to themselves.
All children need is the companionship and care of their families, but what parents care about is their children's success.
Parents put all the focus on "grades", but have ever cared about the psychological problems of children, and your lofty expectations have invisibly caused too much pressure on children. Excessive educational behavior can even cause psychological shadows in children, and parents think that "just scare and frighten him", but the child may have taken it seriously. Many studies have shown that children's mental health is more likely to improve grades.
So don't use adult values to deprive children of childhood, deprive them of "freedom", children are not the tools of your life against the wind. Gibran said, "Your children are not your children; they are the children of life's desire for itself; they come into this world through you, but they do not come because of you; they are by your side but they do not belong to you." So please respect the children's independent and sound personality, education is not blindly going their own way, sometimes more communication with children, will be more effective than "violence".
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