"How old are you and married?"
"Girls over 30 can't do anything."
"They're all so old and don't have children?"
"Just let's find a lighter job for girls."
Have you ever been caught up in the anxiety of your stature, appearance, and age; have you ever been caught in the vortex of family and marriage and can't breathe; have you ever experienced "concern" or questioning from the outside world and your loved ones?
Although the pressure on women in society cannot be completely eliminated, it is still impossible to resist the awakening of more and more women's strength in self-growth - they are no longer willing to be bound by so-called traditional ideas; they no longer pay attention to how many dogmatic evaluations come from the outside world; their physical hair, age and personal life are no longer easily defined by others.
Before they become daughters, wives, and mothers, they become themselves.
Today is International Women's Day, which celebrates the bravery, tenacity and independence of women around the world, and praises women's gentleness, delicacy and sensitivity. This special holiday is the embodiment of women's courage to fight for their rights and become independent and great individuals, and this is the original intention of International Women's Day on March 8: "to celebrate the important contributions and great achievements of women in the economic, political and social fields." "Maybe we are not a successful woman in some sense, but it is good to be able to go forward on the road of our own lives!"
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Look at them and stop getting lost
How do you live your life? How to continue to overcome the thorns in the face of various pressures? It's the women's football team that's back on top of Asia, it's the women scientists who make significant progress... When we feel weak, look at how those brilliant women find themselves in the noise.
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In the midst of professional pressure, they found love
When the stars of humanity shine, countless women continue to exude their brilliance, they have broken all the shackles, emerged with infinite vitality, imagination and creativity, and truly became the heroine of life.
There are many women who can bring us strength and feeling, they have different personalities but they all have a firm heart. Let's take a look at how some of them find purpose and achieve themselves in their careers!
Wang Yaping
cosmonaut
With the successful completion of Shenzhou 13, Wang Yaping, China's first female astronaut to carry out the capsule activities, is well known to more people. "First", "space", "woman", these three words together is too cool, when she walks in space, billions of women are also following her gaze to look out the window, borrowing her strength to get rid of their confusion and bravely chase dreams.
Wang Yaping said: "Dreams are like stars in the universe - it seems out of reach, but as long as you work hard, one day you can touch it." We must have the courage to dream, the courage to chase dreams, and be diligent in realizing dreams. Because of love, so persistent; because of love, so persistent. ”
--Xinhua News Agency
Zhang Weili
UFC Champion
Zhang Weili is a Chinese professional mixed martial artist and the first UFC world champion in Asia. Like many women, her dream journey has been questioned. Sister O remembers that in an interview, the reporter asked: "I have seen you say that many people have misunderstandings about you (girl fighting)?" Afraid of being hit by you? Zhang Weili replied with a look of incredulity: "We beat others to give money, do you give money, you still want to be beaten, you think too much." ”
- "Extraordinary China: Breaking the Cocoon"
When women have combat effectiveness, people with ghost fetuses begin to question, Zhang Weili's fists are thrown against prejudice, telling everyone, I don't care what you think, I only care about what I want to do.
Gong Lijiao
Olympic champion
The first time I watched Gong Lijiao's game, Sister O couldn't help but work hard with her, and her infectious power on the field was too strong. Gong Lijiao's championship titles are numerous, and under these brilliances, she is a fighter who has spent 21 years chasing her dreams.
When some journalists tried to set limits on her with stereotypes, she had long since ignored the shackles. "A4 waist", "comic legs", "white and thin" are not the only criteria for beauty, and it is time to put an end to those prejudices about age, body, marriage and childbearing. Women's beauty is never single, as long as we run in love, as long as we can please ourselves, we are beautiful.
#02
In the pressure of love, they chose to be sober
PUA, domestic violence, and many more worse things have made many women start to examine what love and marriage have brought us. Sister O remembers that in high school "Hu", the early scumbags of mankind let us see the tragedy after the girl who was intoxicated with love was deceived.
At that time, the Chinese teacher told us that the most important thing for a girl in love is to be sober, and the most terrible thing is to lose herself by words. As women who already have a world say, as long as you stay sober, no one in love can deceive you.
Yu Xiuhua
Hubei Literature Award-winning poet
Some time ago, Yu Xiuhua went out of the circle for her bold speech in the relationship between the sexes, but what many people may not know is that Yu Xiuhua was forced to marry a homeless man due to cerebral palsy caused by birth and lack of oxygen at birth, and this marriage that was not her wish prompted her to create poems about love and the closed village that could not be escaped.
The love in Yu Xiuhua's eyes is pure and intense, and she never shy away from talking about desire, which is regarded by some people as a "dirty stain", but Sister O believes that she can clearly understand her own needs and boldly confide in her heart, which is a huge encouragement for modern women in itself.
Yu Feihong
Actor, director
In the highly discussed "First Burning Incense", the role of "aunt" played by Yu Feihong is full of charms, which once again arouses everyone's discussion of her appearance, and her good state is not only properly maintained skin, but also stems from her calm and relaxed. In the interview, Yu Feihong said: "Of course, love is not a necessity, but something that is icing on the cake, like a shackle to yourself or to another person, too unfair." ”
- "People"
This is a sobering agent for many women who are still struggling for love, whether they pursue love or not, whether they choose marriage and childbearing, they should be loyal to themselves, simply refuse in front of dislike, and accept it calmly in front of like.
#03
In the face of social pressure, they seek themselves
The erosion of gossip on a person is terrible, when society questions you, do you still have the courage to insist? Their answer is "of course", and if society questions, they will subvert the world.
Ruth Bud Kingsberg Five
justice
Ginsburg, the resounding name, from the daughter of a working-class family to the second female justice in the history of the U.S. Supreme Court, has spent her life fighting for equality and justice, and has worked to reduce oppression and prejudice.
When the whole society is questioned because of her feminine identity, she is more and more aware of what she wants, and in the confrontation with the world, she says: "Be a lady", don't let negative emotions such as unnecessary anger occupy your mind. It's also good to be "independent," she explains, which is great if you can meet Prince Charming and spend the rest of your life together, but you have to learn to live independently.
- "Justice Ginsburg"
Gu Ailing
Winter Olympic champion
The Winter Olympics will make Gu Ailing's name like "Shuangwen Big Heroine" known to more people, xueba, high value, world champion... The life of this 18-year-old girl is really wonderful. However, behind the gold medal and glory are broken collarbone, torn ligaments in the right hand, crushing fractures of the hand bones... Behind her confident gold picking is a huge effort.
While many people are happy for Gu Ailing, they can't help but compare themselves with her: at the same or even younger age, she has achieved such a high level of achievement, and what am I doing? Sister O thought that the significance of Gu Ailing's appearance is not to make us inferior, but to make us constantly realize that the power of women is infinite, as she said: "Challenge yourself and do your best, not to win others." ”
Ye Shuhua
astronomer
Ye Shuhua's titles are too many and too many, academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, internationally renowned astronomer, China's first female observatory director, "the mother of Beijing time"... Watching her speak at the "She" Forum, the world's top scientists, Sister O seemed to see a kind and determined grandmother, encouraging the younger generations to "break through the ceiling".
She said: "Dear women, be brave, everything we want is in action, and hope is ahead. "When we have faith and define ourselves, even at the age of 95, we can burst with vitality and fearlessly strive, no matter how society judges us?
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Take a look at these and get rid of the confusion
How do people get away with setbacks at work or in life? Sister O, an old emo person, found that books, documentaries, and movies can bring new strength and comfort to "us in mourning".
These books inspire us
Reading is not for eloquence and refutation, nor for credulity and blind obedience, but for thinking and weighing. In the face of social difficulties, the words and proverbs in the books will keep us awake and fearless of difficulties.
Become Beauvoir
Kate Kirk
Patrick
The book translated by Mr. Liu Haiping is a new authoritative biography of Beauvoir based on newly exposed Beauvoir letters, early diaries and other materials in recent years. After reading the book, Sister O realized that Beauvoir was not the one who was attached to Sartre, but a brave woman who was full of enthusiasm and dared to fight back.
In this book, what impressed Sister O the most was that "when Beauvoir was a student, she thought in her diary about how much self she had to keep and how much she had to give up." "As women and members of society, we are always told to learn to sacrifice ourselves, but when the self is completely sacrificed, where do we go? We are who we are because of our unique thoughts and actions, so staying awake is the most important lesson.
The Neapolitan Tetralogy
Elena Ferrante
The Neapolitan Tetralogy consists of four complete and coherent novels, the first" my genius girlfriend, the second "The Story of a New Name", the third "Left, Left", and the fourth "Missing Child", which tells the story of two girls "falling in love and killing each other" across half a century of friendship and competition.
Domestic violence, regional discrimination, gender inequality, economic pressure and other problems exist in the life of the protagonist in the book, who continues to grow and awaken on the bumpy road of life. This huge work has also been adapted to the screen, and the overlap of words and pictures may make everyone feel the great significance of self-pursuit.
These movies give us solace
In addition to books, movies can also give us endless fantasies and comfort, watching the women in the movies live in different ways, we seem to accompany her on a journey, in the process we draw inspiration and gain strength.
《September》
R.J. Kotler
The film chronicles anna Wintour, editor-in-chief of VOGUE magazine in the United States, and her staff in preparing the magazine's September 2007 issue, giving us a glimpse of how the "Fashion Witch" works.
Through Anna Wintour's rigor and strength, and the romantic innocence of her partner Grace Corddington, the director shows us the real fashion world that makes people want to be unique. After watching this movie, whenever she sees news about Anna Wintour, Sister O will bring more admiration to understand.
golden age
Xu Anhua
At that time, I went to see "Golden Age" because I thought its poster was too stunning, and the heroine stood in the ink with some hesitation but very determined. After watching it, I found that this movie portrayed Xiao Hong, a maverick woman, who escaped the war and went into exile all the way, and her lamentable and heart-wrenching love.
Sister O knew for the first time that Xiao Hong was through Lu Xun, and from "The Legend of Hulan River" to "The Golden Age", she could deeply feel her desire for freedom, even in the dark war era when women wanted to be free and had to suffer many hardships, she still did not give up writing and maintaining herself. Perhaps Xiao Hong is not a pleasing writer, but her freedom and strength are enough to make people admire.
These documentaries give us strength
Documentary, unlike the film, is that it can record more details in the life of a specific person or a certain period of time in his life, such as coherent photography, and every frame of the picture is real and shocking. Are you curious about certain moments in the lives of those brilliant women? Take a look at these documentaries and you may find the answer.
"Woman"
Jan Artie
S-Bertrand
The documentary's filming team traveled to 50 countries and recorded self-evaluations by 2,000 women. Different women expressed the experience of love, age, appearance and other aspects of joy, or sadness, anger, or helplessness. Just looking at their smiles or tears Sister O already felt a huge silent power.
When the women in the documentary stared at the camera, Sister O seemed to cross the screen and sit in front of them, looking at them, I saw the joys and sorrows of their lives. Their plain words were matched by rich expressions, and I could not help but burst into tears. If you like a self-described video, don't miss it!
"The Shaky World"
Fan Jian
This documentary tells the story of Yu Xiuhua's divorce from her loveless husband after she became famous in order to break free from the shackles and regain her freedom. In Yu Xiuhua's experience, Sister O can always feel a slightly decadent beauty, but this struggle and fading decadence can bring comfort and strength to people.
Yu Xiuhua said in the documentary: "Anyone who is imitated as another person is a failure, Dickinson is unique, and I Yu Xiuhua is also unique." "It's easy for people to follow other successful people when they're confused, but in fact, no matter how hard we try, we can't replicate our outstanding women, we can only become outstanding selves." Therefore, keeping ourselves and staying awake is something we will always insist on.
——Documentary : "The Shaky Human World"
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Write at the end
Women pursue careers, pursue love, and pursue self-discipline and longevity, but as zhang Guimei girls' school motto says: "I was born a mountain rather than a stream, and I want to look down on the mediocre ravine at the top of the peaks." I was born a man and not a weed, and I stand on the shoulders of great men and despise lowly cowards! "Therefore, we must believe together that we can eventually become whoever we want to be and spend our lives in the way we like."
The picture part comes from the network, IC photo
Responsible editor / Fang Quezi
Written by Typography / Zhang Hanxin