Speaking of De Beauvoir and Sartre, perhaps even more enjoyable than their philosophical ideas is the famous "open relationship" between them.
In this regard, many people will think that although this is an open relationship, Beauvoir is a "victim" who sacrifices her happiness to fulfill Sartre's affair. In the film "Lovers of the Flower God Café" set against the background of their relationship, it is also the focus of Sartre's free flow and Beauvoir's jealousy and pain.
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Movie poster for Lovers of The Flower God Cafe
But is this really the case? Is this open relationship really just a compromise for Beauvoir?
Some time ago, I read Beauvoir's biography "Becoming Beauvoir" and found that this was not the case. The book quotes many of Beauvoir's unpublished diary letters, trying to pull her out of Sartre's shadow and present a true image of Beauvoir and her relationship with Sartre—in fact, for Beauvoir, Sartre was not so important.
If the reader can accept that not all women want to "have a heart and a white head and not be separated" and that not all original ideas come from male philosophers, then perhaps we can reinterpret the story of Beauvoir and Sartre.
- "Becoming Beauvoir"
Here's a look at the book to share the real relationship between them and the inspiration they can get from it (PS: to avoid being too long, it will be split into several articles).
In order to better understand Beauvoir, it is best to start with her growth.
Beauvoir was born in Paris to a conservative, wealthy family. She has loved to read since she was a child, and by reading famous books extensively, she has made up for her lack of sex education and inspired her to think about the role of women in the family.
For example, the heroine of Little Women is reluctant to do housework because it gives her no time to do what she wants, which makes Beauvoir think:
Why are there still so many women who need to do housework and men who don't?
If love means a lot of sacrifice for women and men don't, is that sacrifice worth it?
What do women have to do to live up to neither themselves nor others?
As early as 1926, at the age of 18, she asked herself in her diary how much self she had to keep as a woman and how much she had to give up.
Later, she came to the conclusion that what she wanted was a "relationship of love and friendship," "a love that would accompany me for the rest of my life, not swallow my whole life." She believes that love should not be the whole of love, but should only be the icing on the cake of life.
It can be seen that since the beginning of the girlhood, Beauvoir has tried to get rid of the existing traditional gender roles and explore a new type of equal gender relationship.
Beauvoir had already had a love affair with another man before he met Sartre.
She has a cousin of a green plum bamboo horse, named. From an early age, she was fascinated by Jacques's self-confidence. In his relationship with him, Beauvoir felt that she could attract not only the body, but also the mind and mind to men. For a long time afterwards, she herself was going to marry him, and even after meeting Sartre, she still had a crush on Jacques.
Later, in the spring and summer of 1929, she met a male student of the ParisIan High School. At that time, Mahé was already married, and at a seminar, she saw Maher speak on stage, was fascinated by his appearance, and later Beauvoir took the initiative to get to know Maher, and soon they fell in love. Maher also gave Beauvoir a nickname that followed her all her life: beavers.
Before Beauvoir met Sartre, Maher had already occupied an important position in Beauvoir's heart. In her opinion, Maher not only has a "pleasing face", but also encourages her to explore herself, and she is full of joy during this time.
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