There's a line in the book Half-Life— "No matter how bad your conditions are, there's always someone who loves you." No matter how good your conditions are, there will always be someone who doesn't love you. ”
Love is a probabilistic thing, maybe the person we choose does not love us, maybe the person we choose is not a good person.
In short, good or bad, always after contact will know.
For us, it must be the best to hope that we can find a good man, otherwise, all we can experience is sadness and helplessness.
So, how do we judge whether a man is the good person we are looking for?
Psychological research has shown that the 3 details in the mobile phone expose the unreliability of men, don't understand.
There are not many learning software in the other person's mobile phone
In short, a self-disciplined man, his character must not be bad.
It's like one person studying and exercising step by step every day, while the other person spends his years in addition to playing games.
Which of these two men, you say, is more reliable?
Many times, we feel anxious, we feel that reality is not worthy of our own talents and ideals, we do not meet talents, but the essence of some "nostalgia does not meet" is precisely because of the vanity and laziness of some people.
They only want to enjoy the present, lack foresight, do not know how to think about the future;
They covet pleasure, accept mediocrity, and can only stand still all their lives, refusing to work hard, but they have always complained about social injustice and others can't see their talents.
Such a man will only emit negative energy, not only is he not excellent, but he is likely to drag others along with mediocrity.
Those self-disciplined men are different, they know how to arrange their lives, they know how to keep moving forward.
The master designer Yohji Yamamoto once famously said: "I believe in the law of ten thousand hours, and I have never believed in the inspiration of pie falling from the sky and the achievement of sitting and waiting." I want to be a free and disciplined person, living earnestly with the determination to achieve it. ”
Self-disciplined men, no matter at any time, are worth our deep friendship.
See if the balance of the other party's use of Huabei is directly proportional to the salary
Now, the "Moonlight Clan" is no longer a scarce group, but replaced by some "Huabei Clan".
Huabei reflects an advanced consumption model, it does not matter if there is no money at the moment, it can satisfy the current desire through a way of predicting the future of money, and then return it next month.
Its starting point is good, sometimes we like a thing, but if we don't buy it in time, we will lose it, so we can solve the urgent need in such a way.
However, more and more people are bound by desire, and for them, Huabei has become a bottomless existence.
Plato once said, "What determines a person's mood is not the environment, but the state of mind." With peace of mind and peace of mind, people are naturally happy. ”
If the flower is not proportional to the salary, then it will be an advanced consumption.
There is a delayed gratification in psychology, which refers to a person's ability to endure the desires of the present moment and then exchange restraint for a better life in the future.
People who delay gratification may also use flowers, but they will never let their desires bind themselves, and when they spend money, they will also carefully consider whether there is a need to buy some things.
If not, then the money can be saved, or saved, or done with other meaningful things.
Compared with the former, such a man will have a clear plan for his future and is someone worth relying on.
See how the other party and the opposite sex in WeChat chat
True love has always been single-minded, and true love also has a field, and its field is very narrow, so small that it can only accommodate two people to survive.
If a person falls in love with several people at the same time, then such feelings cannot be called love, it is just an emotional game.
That is to say, whether it is friendship or love, a person must have a sense of boundaries when getting along with the opposite sex.
Some men "just happen" not to understand this truth, if you open their mobile phones, you will find that there are countless friends of the opposite sex in their address book, and the daily fixed chat is also countless, and the content of the chat is also incomprehensible and ambiguous.
Of course, the relationship between friends of the opposite sex here is not a one-size-fits-all attitude, but it needs to be understood that being ambiguous with one person is a special affection, and being ambiguous with many people is indiscriminate.
A man with abusive feelings has one of the most obvious shortcomings lies in the sense of responsibility and boundary awareness, they subconsciously feel that there is nothing wrong with being ambiguous with friends of the opposite sex, and even think that the girlfriend is a fuss because of the anger of friends of the opposite sex, which is unreasonable.
Such men do not have a sense of responsibility, and with them, women can only feel the insecurity of gain and loss. Therefore, such a man is unreliable and not worthy of our lifelong trust.