Hello everyone, I'm a big brother! Today we will talk about some of the "love" of parents. Many parents like to put the love for their children on their lips, which often says to their children, because they love you, this is how they treat you, but for children there is a kind of love, called the love of parents, and there is also a kind of pain, but also the love of parents!
Big Brother is not saying that the love of parents is not sincere or great, but there is some love that makes the child breathless.
Strict and even demanding
Often parents are arrogant, their dreams that they have not been able to achieve, they are pinned on their children, and they require their children to be perfect at all times, and even if the children work hard, they are not as good as "other people's children".
This kind of strict and even harsh parents who are strict and even demanding of their children makes their personality more inferior and cowardly.
Scolding and punishing
Many parents have an unusually hot temper, scolding and raising their hands when they open their mouths, believing in filial piety under the stick, and small trees that are not repaired or straight. Maybe the fear of physical pain will make the child "obedient", but the psychological "fear"! In this way, the child's personality is mostly violent impulsive or flattering personality-servile.
Packaged substitution
Love is the transition of coddling, children have no worries about food and clothing, and all parents do it themselves, so that most of these children are lazy and have poor self-care ability.
Words are not believed
Children are born with unconditional trust in their parents, but if parents always say nothing and say that they can't do it, then the child will also form a problem of lying and dishonesty.
Don't understand respect
Children who have not been respected can hardly truly learn to respect. It is difficult to understand the positions and feelings of others, it is difficult to understand the emotions and thoughts of others, and it will slowly become unable to appreciate others.
Label
Characterize the child's behavior, think that the child is "stupid", "lazy" and "stupid", and degrade the child to "useless". Such children are extremely lacking in self-confidence and self-esteem.
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