What is the "optimal age difference" between couples?
Seeing this problem, I believe that many people will come up in their minds the saying "female junior, holding the golden brick", indeed, in the traditional concept of the mainland, the public generally believes that women are 3 years older than men, and marriage will be happier.
However, in fact, as long as you pay a little attention to it, you will find that in addition to "female junior, holding gold bricks", the mainland also has "female sophomore, holding gold nugget", "female senior, hugging Ruyi" and other sayings, it seems that as long as women are older than men, no matter how big it is a good thing.
The reason for this result is that in the history of the mainland, marriage was traditionally very early, and the social customs at that time generally believed that wives had the responsibility of taking care of and serving their husbands, so women were slightly older, could take on more family labor, and could take care of their husbands like children after marriage.
So from the perspective of social science, in modern society, how much is the age difference between husband and wife more appropriate?
Physiologically, it is more appropriate for men to be about 7 years older
In modern medicine, from the aspects of conception, difficult birth, the incidence of preterm birth, infant survival rate, development status and other aspects of comprehensive assessment, the best period for women to have children between 23 and 30 years old.
If the woman is pregnant too early and has not fully matured herself, it is not only not conducive to the physical development of the child, but also the woman herself is more likely to encounter danger.
Once a woman is too old to become pregnant, with the aging of egg cells and the decline of egg chromosomes, the fetus will be more likely to suffer from genetic diseases, and the probability of premature birth and difficult delivery will also be greatly increased.
In contrast, the optimal reproductive age for men is 30-35 years old, when the quality of small tadpoles reaches its peak, and the mind is more mature and the life experience is richer.
If the age is too old, the vitality of the small tadpole will decline, the probability of chromosomal abnormalities will increase, women are prone to premature birth and miscarriage after conception, and the probability of congenital malformations of the fetus will also increase.
Therefore, physiologically speaking, combined with the optimal reproductive age data, it is more appropriate for men in couples to be about 7 years older than women, and it is easier to have healthy babies, which is conducive to eugenics.
Psychologically, men are at least 3 years older
Social psychology believes that the psychological age of women is often greater than that of men of the same age, ranging from about 3-7 years old, in other words, men are at least 3 years older than women, and the psychological age between them can be equated.
It is not difficult for us to find in real life that among men and women of the same age, women tend to behave more maturely, and many men will occasionally emerge from time to time with some "childishness" even if they are married and have children, which makes people cry and laugh.
From the perspective of social reality, men are slightly older, more experienced in society, more extensive, more comprehensive in consideration, and in marriage, they are more considerate of the difficulty of lovers.
If the husband and wife are the same age, it may inevitably require the wife to take care of the husband's emotions, so that the wife pays more in the marriage, more insecure, especially when the conflict occurs, it will be more likely to trigger a large marriage crisis.
And more critically, men are slightly older, wealth accumulation is more advantageous, after all, raising children is now a lot of overhead, if the family conditions are slightly cramped, the so-called "poor couple Pepsi lament", couples will inevitably have a harder time, but also easy to cause family conflicts.
Therefore, from a sociological and psychological point of view, men are at least 3 years older than women, in order to be mature and stable enough, have better economic conditions, and are more conducive to marital stability.
Marriage cannot be measured by age alone, the age gap is only a "relative condition"
In fact, there are many factors that affect marital happiness, and there is no absolute "optimal age difference", the age gap is only a "relative condition".
Whether marriage can be happy and harmonious, whether children can be given a healthy and positive growth environment, the key lies in whether the parents themselves are compatible with the three views, and whether there is a common value pursuit.
It is not difficult for us to find in real life that many couples with large age gaps can also educate their children very well, and marriages are also very harmonious.
On the contrary, although some couples meet the physiological or psychological "optimal age difference" and also give birth to a healthy baby, the two "three views are not compatible", often quarrel, and even go to the point of divorce, it is also difficult to create a good growth environment for children, similar to this situation, in the entertainment industry abounds.
So in summary, in order to give birth to a healthy baby and create a better growth environment for children, although it is necessary to consider the age gap between the couple, it is actually not as important as some people think, and the "best age difference" is not an absolute concept.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Whether the marriage relationship is stable or not, whether it can give birth to a healthy baby smoothly, and whether it can create a good growth environment for the child, all have a certain relationship with the "age difference" between husband and wife, but it is not absolute.
To build a happy family and let children grow up healthy and happy, couples should work together, rather than dwelling on the so-called "optimal age difference".
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