Qianjiang Evening News Hourly News Reporter Jin Dan Dan Correspondent Xiang Zhe
"What did you see?" At noon on Sunday, Ms. Chen from Hangzhou was preparing lunch and chatting with her sixth-grade daughter.
The newly purchased half-native chicken had just come out of the saucepan, she squeezed a wet ginger in her left hand and put it on the cutting board, her daughter was talking about the book she read yesterday, she faintly heard the five words "Norwegian forest", and she was scared: "What forest?" ”
"Mom, you're confused. "Norwegian Forest" Ah, Haruki Murakami's. The daughter repeated.
"You... How could you read this? Ms. Chen's heart sank, and she felt that the whole person was not good, "Where did you get it?" ”
"Our bookshelf." Don't you like Murakami very much, his novels are all together. I finished my homework yesterday and turned it over, I don't like it, the story is so sad. The daughter did not notice the strange appearance of her mother and began to talk about the characters in the book.
"It's over! She saw a lot of indescribable sexual depictions in the book! Oh, my God! Ms. Chen felt that she had been hit hard, and she deeply blamed herself for not putting away the book. She remembered the shock she had suffered when she first read this book in her sophomore year of high school, and her daughter, who was only in the sixth grade, how to do this!
Did the daughter see it? Or just skip it? To what extent?
She tapped on the side, trying to search for content from her daughter's words, but she looked as usual.
The daughter didn't mention the sexual depictions in the novel at all, and I don't know if she really didn't notice or pretended to be calm. I was in a hurry to die, but I didn't dare to ask questions, and I couldn't ask. We and our daughter's school attach great importance to sex education, but orthodox sex education and the plot description in the novel are still very different. ”
After a trance-like sunday of insomnia, Ms. Chen was anxious and remorseful, and asked qianjiang evening news for help, "What to do?" Will children learn badly like this? How to make up for it? ”
The meticulous mother who loves to read books has "overturned the ship"
Ms. Chen told the Qianjiang Evening News Hourly News reporter that she loves to read books and also loves to buy books for her children. "We attach great importance to her reading, from childhood to adulthood, the books we read to her are carefully selected, and they are definitely in line with her age."
She also has her own views on the reading of the four famous works. "Although the artistic achievements of the four books are very high, my daughter only recommended her to watch the original "Journey to the West" and "Dream of the Red Chamber" in her primary school. The characters in these two novels have a childlike heart and are suitable for children to watch. And the people in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" are full of heart skills, and the people in "Water Margin" are 'fierce', I think the original version is not suitable for primary school students, so I gave my daughter a rewritten version suitable for children and teenagers. ”
Another example is Mo Yan, who is also a writer that Ms. Chen likes. "But most of Mo Yan's novels involve sexual depictions, and I dare not recommend it to my daughter now, until she grows up." I specially bought her a copy of "Mo Yan's Eight Literature Lessons for Children", which was selected from his works, including childhood wild fun, animal stories, reading past events, family affection, etc., which are more in line with children's cognition. ”
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This winter vacation, in addition to the number recommended by the teacher, Ms. Chen also took her daughter to the bookstore several times, because her daughter likes science and history, and the books she picked are basically these.
"Her books are specially placed in her own bookshelf, and she has never been interested in our adult books." Ms. Chen did not expect that she, who has always been meticulous, actually "overturned the ship", and she said bitterly, "We put on our bookshelves are also some famous works." I especially like novels, her dad loves history, moved a few times, and left behind all the finest. We also joked that my daughter read all these books and didn't have to worry about writing articles in the future. Or careless ah, adult books, or different..."
Some parents strictly control the reading list, and some parents disagree
Ms. Chen's distress has been encountered by many parents of primary and junior high schools.
In many famous works, there will be more or less sexual depictions, violent depictions and other passages that make parents anxious.
Ms. Zhang, a parent after the 70s, has a deep understanding.
"When I was a kid, reading was free. Mom and Dad don't care what books I read. When I first watched "La Traviata" and "Lolita", I was shocked. Later, when I went to college and talked about reading when I was a child, my father also felt that many books I read were too early. In Ms. Zhang's view, at least before the child's high school, it is necessary to have more detailed reading instruction.
"Especially novels involving love and love, I think it is not suitable for children to read too early, children's minds are immature, there will be side effects." Ms. Zhang said that after her son was born, she has now been in the upper grades of primary school, and the books she read have been carefully selected, and some good works but books that are not suitable for her son's current reading have been hidden.
Ms. Huang, who is after the 80s, does not think much of this.
"When I was a child, I didn't have much books to read, and in the third and fourth grades, I began to turn over my uncle's bookcase. The summer vacation of the fourth grade read the four masterpieces. Elementary school books read, the deeper impressions are "Family Spring and Autumn", "Anna Karenina", "Song of Youth", and also turned over the romance novels of Qiong Yao, which my aunt was obsessed with at that time. Ms. Huang said, "In the first year, I loved Lu Xun, watched Zhang Ailing, became obsessed with Fitzgerald, and later watched martial arts... When I was a child, I read a lot of books that adults thought were inappropriate at that time, but at that time, I focused on the plot, thought the story was interesting, and did not pay too much attention to the love and love, or the darker parts. After reading it, I have not become bad. ”
Ms. Huang's point of view is that when I was a child, I read enough positive books, and occasionally there was more negative content, and the impact would not be too big, "More optimistic books, I will have judgment, I can naturally distinguish bad books, and I will also stay away." And for elementary and junior high school students, the plot is more important, and children will not look so fine. ”
There are sexual depictions in the novel, whether it is suitable for teenagers to read
The writer Mo Yan was once asked by middle school students whether some sexual depictions in his novels were suitable for middle school students.
Mo Yan explained that because he was an adult when he began to write, he felt that the depiction of love and sex in literary works was a very important content, and it was also a very important aspect of the description and portrayal of human nature. He said that when he wrote, he did not consider that his books would now be read by middle school students and elementary school students.
Mo Yan said that he also learned that there are some films, television, and literary works on the Internet that are far more "explicit" than his own writing, and how to control "such things" so that it will not affect the physical and mental health of primary and secondary school students is a problem that the whole world needs to pay attention to, and some things cannot be controlled by writers alone.
He also gave the most direct advice - don't read it at the moment, you can read some about your mother, write about country landscapes, and read my novels when you grow up and get married.
In the view of Teacher Ding Lin of Hangzhou Tianchang Primary School, some classic literary works are not suitable for teenagers to read too early, and there are books involved at home, and parents can pay attention to them in advance. If you find that your child has read an inappropriate book, don't be too nervous, some classic works will have sexual descriptions and other "inappropriate for children" content, and there will also be a unique side of intention and expression.
"Those points that parents are worried about may not be paid special attention to when children read." But parents must "take the initiative", communicate with the child, can not be ashamed to open their mouths, only by talking to the child, can you know the content of the book that the child is most concerned about, whether the child has confusion and trouble after reading, to understand whether there is a negative impact on the child, it is very important to do guidance.
If the child says that some details in the book are not easy to read or difficult to read, parents should also sincerely tell the child, because this is the adult world, and slowly understand it when they grow up. In addition, parents can also find some positive and sunny books on the same theme to recommend to their children, to understand the different forms of literature and emotion.
"Love is one of the eternal themes of literary works, and children now have many channels to obtain information, and it is not feasible to use the 'blocking' method. And for the beautiful emotions, children are yearning, these are normal. Teacher Ding suggested that for adolescent children, parents should pay more emotional attention.
At the same time, Teacher Ding found that sex education for primary and secondary school students has been popularized and developed, but there are deficiencies in content. "The current sex education mainly involves the understanding of the physiological structure, and other aspects of science is not enough, children are exposed to sexual depictions in literary works, in scientific knowledge is not matched, which also requires teachers and parents to further explore, how to do a more comprehensive and scientific job of sex education."
Shen Yun, a Chinese teacher at Hangzhou Middle School, suggested that reading needs to be selected according to the age of the child. In elementary school, you can start reading storybooks and form your own ideas. In the middle school stage, the transition from "learning to read" to "learning in reading" has achieved a qualitative leap. Different children's reading ability, reading habits, and reading methods are different, so the children's reading materials should be planned, selected, and personalized reading. At the same time, create an atmosphere for families to read together and share with each other.
"Sixth grade children have just entered adolescence, in the reading encountered some content beyond age, parents do not have to panic too much, because the classic works do not take sexual description as the main purpose, sexual description is only for the needs of the plot, in order to shape the characters, etc., parents can communicate frankly with their children through parent-child co-reading, positive guidance, to help children establish healthy and upward values." Teacher Shen also shared a variety of reading methods to improve the ability to read famous works. For example, the excerpt method is used to train children's reading comprehension ability; the annotated reading method is used to improve reading efficiency and language ability; the selective reading method is used to improve reading gains; such as the combination of intensive reading and careful reading, and so on.
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