In rural areas, the first and first month of each year are the peak periods of blind date, and the blind date process is simple and direct and the pace is particularly fast. After the first two days of blind date, if the conditions of the two parties are equal, look at the right eye, immediately open a gift list, followed by the engagement, from the blind date to the engagement to become two people often only three or four days time.
The so-called opening gift list, is to agree on the bride price, engagement jewelry, wine banquet, dowry, etc., now our side of the bride price can be described as a rising ship, a price a year, last year's bride price 280,008 is quite high, this year this number has almost been at the bottom, what 328,360,000 8 dowry has abounded, so that many single young men sighed: they and their mother-in-law are separated by these hundreds of thousands of dowries.
I thought that such a thing as blind date is more common in only the countryside, and those high-quality, highly educated handsome men and women in the city should find their other half through love like in the TV series. But the fact is that there are many white-collar workers in the upper city, and there are many civil servants who look for objects through blind dates.
A few days ago, a report that "a male teacher from a college in Shandong is keen on blind dates, 124 blind dates in 8 years, and also lists folders for blind date girls" has attracted the attention and hot discussion of netizens. Li Hua (pseudonym), 36 years old this year, is a teacher at a university in Shandong, and his resume can be said to be very eye-catching, he studied in 985 colleges and universities with an undergraduate degree, and his master's degree was studied at an internationally renowned overseas university.
After graduation, Li Hua returned to China to work in a college in Shandong, and his studies and career can be said to be smooth sailing, his work is stable, his income is also considerable, and he has bought a house and a car. It is reasonable to say that such conditions should be better than finding a partner, but Li Hua is 36 years old this year, but she has not yet married and started a family, which really makes her family break her heart for her marriage.
As early as 2014, someone actually introduced a girlfriend to Li Hua, but for various reasons, the last two people could not be together. Since then, Li Hua has begun his long road of blind date. In the past 8 years, he has been dating 124 girls. Perhaps out of the professional habit of doing things honestly and methodically, perhaps because he wants to leave himself some memories and experience of blind dates, or perhaps to avoid future blind dates and crashes, Li Hua has made a separate folder for each girl who has been close to him, which records the date of meeting the girl, the girl's conditions, looks, who the introducer is and other details.
Many people with blind date experience will feel that blind dates are actually more embarrassing, because they don't know where to start, can't find the topic for a while, and so on. Li Hua was the same at the beginning, a little embarrassed, but the so-called "practice makes skill", the number of blind dates is more, he also slowly got used to it, and even summed up some blind date "strategy". For example, the blind date time is best at ten o'clock in the morning or three o'clock in the afternoon, because this time point can be attacked and retreated" and if the two sides are more satisfied with the contact, they can chat more and eat together at the meal point; if there is no eye edge, two sentences can directly leave, and you can save money for dinner.
It is a bit strange that there are so many blind dates, but none of them have been successful, but what is the reason? Li Hua's personal conditions are of course no problem, looks ok, high education, has a stable job, a good income, a house and a car, such conditions can be said to be beyond the vast majority of blind dates. However, Li Hua has been strictly required by his parents since he was a child, and his life and study from childhood to adulthood are in accordance with the road map formulated by his parents, and he has no choice of his own, resulting in a lack of independent choice ability when he grows up, and he is very dependent on his parents, which is what we usually call "Ma Bao Male".
It is precisely because of their own good conditions, so at the beginning of the parents of Li Hua's blind date and very high requirements, so that " high, low is not", seeing that the best age for blind date is missed, the age is getting older, and the object is more and more difficult to match.
A female friend once said to me that blind dates are not looking for three: teachers do not look for, accountants do not look, lawyers do not look. She believes that male teachers are too delicate and indecisive, and that male teachers generally cannot bear hardships and can only sit in the office. Accountants, on the other hand, work in calculations, and lawyers are well-versed in the law, and if they are not careful, they may put you in. Although this is only her personal opinion, it actually represents the professional prejudice of many people. Therefore, male teachers do not have any advantages when choosing a mate.
Of course, blind dates can not be too demanding, after all, where are the perfect people? If you always look at this mountain and look at that mountain high, the more blind dates, the easier it is to pick up the eyes, and in the end you may not even know what kind of one you are looking for.