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When people reach middle age, not only are their careers vulnerable to impact, but their marriages are also prone to crises.
For example, the other half has two hearts.
And the situation is often like this: women find that their husbands have a trajectory, in addition to anger is naturally unwilling. As a result, the object of the derailment is uglier than himself, not to mention, but also older than himself. At this moment, the belief she was holding on to suddenly collapsed: the other party was uglier than me and older than me, what did my husband really like about her?
It is also because of this that the cheating party will cause strong self-denial.
Then again, people go up and the water flows down. Why did the other party make such a "downhill" move?
That's when it comes to human nature.
◆ What is missing is "supplemented"
If a man is in the family, there are always shortcomings and dissatisfaction with his wife, either he is always suppressed and unconfident, or his wife lacks care and consideration for him, or he is rarely praised and understood... Then, when a person suddenly appears in front of his eyes and can bring him the confidence or thoughtfulness or understanding that is rare in family life, the man will fall unconsciously.
At this time, he still cares whether the other party is more beautiful than his wife, young or not. What he wants is the trait that the wife of the other party just lacks.
Take the TV series "The First Half of My Life" as an example, Luo Zijun always prevented her husband from having an affair with the young assistant in the company, and as a result, she did not expect that her husband liked an elderly divorced girl Ling Ling.
There's human nature involved.
Luo Zijun is an executive, although he is paid a high salary, but the work pressure is very high. At this time, he needs to understand and be considerate, but his wife is always suspicious of him, and he spends a lot of money and does not want to make progress.
But colleague Ling Ling is different. He is also empathetic, especially able to help him at work. He may have felt the warmth of a long absence, and his heart was shaken.
Another reason for men to cheat is rather pathetic.
◆ Save the midlife crisis with new feelings
When people reach middle age, the ambitions of the past are gone, and life becomes dull and tired in repetition. At this time, it is very necessary to "stimulate" yourself with a new thing, to find the feeling of youth, and to make yourself feel very really alive.
This novelty can be a new hobby or a person.
However, marriage should not only be based on love, but also entering marriage means responsibility.
What is responsibility? One of the notes in the encyclopedia is: what a person has to do, or something that a person has to take on.
This responsibility is not only for family life, but also for children, for the other half around them.
Only by being able to resist the temptation and find their original intention can they truly assume responsibility.
Of course, such a premise is that the husband and wife communicate smoothly, care for each other and warm each other. After all, the family as a safe haven mainly refers to the psychological comfort brought to oneself by the partner in the family.
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