Seven years ago, the two-child policy has been fully opened, with the emergence of problems such as population aging, now the country has opened up the three-child policy, but there are not many people who have the willingness to have three children, netizens have called out: "Can't afford it." After all, this is no longer the era of "as long as you don't die of hunger, you will live in death".
Especially when people reach middle age, few ordinary people are willing to take the risk of having a second or third child. However, 12 years ago, a 60-year-old mother gave birth to twins, becoming the oldest mother in the country at that time, and for a time it caused a sensation on the whole network, both blessing and singing. But it is quite poignant to talk about why she gave birth to the twins.
This mother was named Sheng Mou, she was born in a military family, was a post-50s generation, received a good education from childhood, went all the way to college, became one of the few college students at that time, and worked in the hospital after graduation. Later, through the introduction of people to meet the husband of the door, the two Qinse and Ming, deep feelings.
In response to the state's policy of late marriage and late childbearing and less eugenics at that time, Sheng mou gave birth to an eldest daughter at the age of 30, plus both of them received higher education and worked in the unit, there was no intention of having a second child, and only carefully raised this small cotton jacket.
Sheng mou works in the hospital, although busy, but he is very concerned about the child's education. At that time, the conditions at home were good, so Sheng Mou cultivated interests and hobbies for his daughter from a young age, although he was not as exaggerated as he was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, but he was slightly involved.
In the end, the daughter was most interested in the piano, and Mr. and Mrs. Sheng bought the piano at a high price to cultivate her talents. Sheng's daughter did not live up to her parents' expectations, has always been well-behaved and sensible, successfully admitted to the university, and has her own job and family after graduation.
At the same time, Sheng and her husband are also slowly retiring, waiting to enjoy the joy of teasing their grandchildren. Sheng mou also discussed the problem of life and death with her daughter, with the rise of age, she and her wife in order not to burden the children in the future, have long prepared the "coffin book", after death do not want a beautiful funeral, simply on the line.
Who knew that it was not them who went to Huangquan first, but their daughter and son-in-law. The day before the Spring Festival in 2009, she and her daughter still took out the previous photos at home to lament the passage of time, personally sent her daughter to the car in the afternoon, told them to pay attention to safety, and looked forward to the reunion of the third year of the junior high school.
Who knew that what was waiting for was the death of the daughter and son-in-law, it turned out that after returning home that day, Sheng's daughter and son-in-law were tired because of the long-distance drive, forgot to turn off the gas and fell asleep, and finally both of them died of gas poisoning. White-haired people send black-haired people, Sheng Mou can't bear such heartache, can't sleep every night, and often takes his daughter's photo in a daze.
Her daughter's death took away her vitality and plunged her life into a dark loneliness. She looked at the photos of her daughter from childhood to adulthood, from toddler to pavilion, recalling the bits and pieces of their getting along, once desperate to suicide, fortunately, her husband and relatives found out in time to avoid the tragedy.
In order not to let her touch the scene, her husband took her out on a tour to relax, but after returning, facing the empty room, Sheng would still cry bitterly, which was a mother's love and thoughts for her child.
In order to find a hope for herself to live, she decided to have another child. But she is 59 years old, her physical functions are gradually deteriorating, she has no fertility, and can only use artificial assisted reproductive technology, that is, IVF.
But one who objected was the husband, and he was equally heartbroken to lose his daughter, he did not want to lose his wife again, and he was in danger of life when he gave birth at an advanced age. But Sheng Mou was desperate and must be done, and in the end he could only compromise and accompany her everywhere to seek medical treatment.
After repeated refusals, Sheng finally persuaded the doctor of a hospital to help her do IVF. But there was only one chance, and if she failed, she was not allowed to try again, because she was too old to bear the pain of IVF conception.
Fortunately, the test tube was successful, and through a series of pills and injections, she finally became pregnant with twins. During pregnancy, she was more difficult than the average pregnant woman, and complications such as high blood pressure, hepatic ascites, low protein blood, and spikes in uric acid had always accompanied her, making her fidgety every day, and her family was always worried.
In the end, Sheng gave birth to two daughters early, the two children were born with some congenital deficiencies because of premature birth, and they have been seriously ill and sick continuously, and the test tube plus the money for the child's treatment has exhausted the savings of Sheng and his wife. The blessing is incomparable, the misfortune is not alone, Sheng's husband is also because of the care of Sheng and his two children, exhausted, fell ill, suffered from hemiplegia.
The moment he saw the two little angels, Sheng was indeed happy, excited, and like the joy of being reborn. But then came a huge economic pressure, in order to maintain his life, Sheng had to start to find ways to make money.
A hundred days after the birth of the child, she began to fly around the country to give parenting lectures. Pregnancy and childbirth have consumed half her life, and she has to work day and night to earn money. When her peers have limited pensions, she does not dare to get sick, does not dare to grow old, and when she is busiest, she travels to more than 20 cities a month, more than 200 days a year outside, and the family can only be cared for by her husband and nanny, and she also loses time with her daughters.
It wasn't until the year before, after saving $7 million in education for her children, that she dared to stop and make up for the lost companionship. But the child is more than ten years old, and more often than not, she is relatively speechless, and they are separated by a huge age difference, and there is a gap between the times and ideas.
Can the birth of the twins really dilute the pain of losing their eldest daughter? Sheng's answer is no, the birth of the child did give her hope, but the eldest daughter is also irreplaceable, she will still be sad to see the photo of the eldest daughter, but now her focus is on the two young daughters, she is also afraid that she will grow up too quickly and too late to take care of them.
In fact, no matter how old you are to have a child, the most important thing is to think twice and be responsible for yourself and your child. Article 1058 of the Civil Code stipulates that both husband and wife have equal rights to the upbringing, education and protection of minor children, and jointly undertake the obligation to raise, educate and protect minor children. Not having children is the greatest sorrow.
(Involving privacy, the names in this case are pseudonyms, and some of the pictures are from the Internet, which only matches the narrative.) Warm reminder: respect the original, please do not plagiarize and reprint Oh. ）