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In the new semester and new hope, parents always prepare all the required school supplies for their children in advance, and the children are also full of hope and look forward to sharing their interesting things during the Spring Festival with teachers and classmates.
However, when the parents were still immersed in the joy of the "divine beast" finally returning to the cage, some parents got the news that made them angry.
Yesterday at five o'clock in the afternoon, a netizen poured out his anger in today's headlines -
"Where do first-grade children have so many eyes?" In the first week of school, my daughter came home every day to tell me that the leader of their group would not only throw books on the ground when they handed out books, but also often deduct her points.
The daughter said that when the other party sent other people's books, they were sent to others. When she was sent her books, they were thrown on the ground. I asked my daughter if she had offended the group leader, and she said no, and said that she often sent things to the group leader, and she also said that the things were not sent by her daughter.
I was very angry and wanted to go to the teacher to theorize, but my daughter stopped me. She said, Mom, you go to the teacher, the teacher will only believe her, will not believe me, because she is the leader of the group, the teacher must believe her, after she is angry again to find me stubble and will deduct my points.
Hearing this, I was really about to explode. ”
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Also as a mother, I especially understand this mother's heartache. The class is actually a small society, all the children come from different families, receive different family education, some are well-behaved and obedient, and some come with their own arbitrariness.
Especially in the lower grades, children often seem overwhelmed when dealing with this aspect. I've previously brushed up on a video of "Xie Na talking about the importance of parent-teacher communication."
"Once, my daughter came back and said I couldn't cry because if I cried, I would be thrown in the trash. I said how could I say such a thing? I went directly to the teacher, and then when I talked about it, it turned out that I missed us because I came to school, and then I cried, cried and cried and ate again, and she threw up. The teacher took her to the trash can and said, if you spit it out, you have to spit it out here. But as soon as a child says these two things, there is no intermediate process, and parents will be worried. ”
We can't guarantee that all children in the lower grades can fully express the whole process of a certain thing, and parents who only know only half-understanding will often become nervous.
Moreover, many children are more conscious of shirking responsibility and self-protection. That is, if you make a mistake yourself, you can mention it lightly, or even hide it from saying it, but if the other party makes a mistake, the child is prone to exaggerate the facts or repeatedly emphasize it in front of the parents.
Therefore, Xi Xi's mother believes that after learning that our children have been bullied, our first reaction should not be to be ashamed and angry, but to understand the truth of the matter in many ways. For example, the teacher helps to understand the whole process; learns the truth of the matter from the other classmate; like the students around him to understand the course of things, and so on.
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I still remember that last year, there was a parent who knew that his child was initially bullied and weak, but in the end, his family became an unstable object.
According to the mother, her son was bullied by a senior student for a long time, until his parents found out after his face was hit with purple. After questioning, the child said that his pocket money was robbed by the other party in his daily life, and he was threatened to be beaten worse if he dared to tell the teacher and parents.
The next morning, the mother took her son to the school gate to block the bully and stopped him. The bully not only did not admit it, but also looked very arrogant, which made the mother angry. She encouraged her son to fight back with tit-for-tat, but his son was too cowardly to do it, so he was so angry that he let his mother hit the other party herself.
Later, the other parents did not spare the trouble at the school, asking them to apologize and compensate for the mental damage.
When a child is bullied, appropriate parental intervention can help the child stay away from bullying. However, if parents act impulsively, things will only get more complicated in the end.
Rationally dealing with bullying is a truth that every parent should keep in mind. First of all, we should reflect to the teacher at the first time and ask the teacher to help understand the truth and deal with things. Secondly, we must control our hands and feet, and do not impulsively fight back under the heartfelt emotions of our beloved son. And the contradiction of small fights, parents do not need to intervene, you can completely guide the child to deal with it by themselves.
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In the face of campus bullying, we actually need to work together. First of all, schools and teachers need to be responsible and take bullying seriously. Second, the guardians and families of the bully need to pay attention to it and carry out positive guidance and correction. Moreover, it is necessary to be treated rationally by the bully's family, and the incident cannot be escalated again.