The new semester is coming, please tell your child:
Reading is hard, but that's the only way for ordinary children to see the world.
Author | Coke Mom
During the Chinese New Year, I took my children back to my hometown.
When I walked with my relatives, I found that the bedroom door of my cousin's house was closed, and the background music of the game came from time to time.
My son asked me with some doubt:
"Who's in it?"
The cousin listened, sighed helplessly, stroked her son's head, and said:
"It's your big brother, leave him alone, let's eat."
Later, during the conversation, I learned:
It turned out that the cousin's son was originally a master's degree from Nankai University, and he did not take classes during the school period, but often went to the Internet café all night.
When it came time to hand in the graduation thesis, it was even more delayed.
Eventually, he was dropped out of school.
Everyone listened to it and sighed.
On the way home, the child's father sighed:
"My cousin and cousin took so much effort to cultivate a high-achieving student, and he was so sorry for his parents."
And I searched the Internet and found:
It is not an isolated case that a cousin and nephew have worked so hard to enter a prestigious school, and a few years later, they have been dismissed because of laziness.
Last year alone, Nankai University, Xiamen University, Wuhan University and other "double first-class" universities have cumulatively dismissed more than 700 master's and doctoral students.
In January this year, the well-known "double first-class" polytechnic Nanjing University of Information Science and Technology also issued a retirement announcement:
27 master's students who have not yet obtained a degree after the maximum period of study, and 9 doctoral students are withdrawn.
Looking at the data, and then looking at my son sitting at his desk and playing with his phone, I was really worried:
Those children who mix their days every day are sorry not the parents who take care of them with hard work, nor the teachers who work hard to prepare lessons for them.
What they really failed was actually their own for the next twenty years.
In the best years, you are not responsible for yourself, and every step of your life after that, you have to pay for it.
When you stop to rest
Don't forget that others are still running
When I first had winter vacation, my son had vowed that English had always been his weakness, and this holiday, he must get up at 7 o'clock every day to read early.
I listened to him and felt relieved.
But in fact, he only got up at 7 o'clock three days before the holiday, and in the days that followed, he got up later and later every day.
When I told my son to get up that day, he was even more impatient with the quilt on his head, and his mouth was still shouting:
"English, English, English, what is the use of learning English all day long?"
I hate my mom the most, and I hate learning the most! ”
I was both sad and helpless.
Now he has a responsible teacher at school and parents who care about him at home;
What is needed can be achieved with an open mouth, but choose comfort at the age when it is most important to fight.
Has he ever thought that everything he hated so much could not be asked of by many children?
Looking at my son's back, I couldn't help but think of two photos I had seen before:
He must not have imagined what kind of life the children of his age were going through in the poor mountainous areas:
Thin clothes, leaky classrooms, textbooks for two or three people...
These children take on the pressure of life early, but their eyes still flash with a desire for knowledge.
Take another look at this photo:
This was filmed in Afghanistan.
These children have no classrooms, no desks, no chairs, no textbooks, and can only sit on a rag and listen to the teacher impart knowledge.
Even if it is not far from them, it is a battlefield filled with gun smoke.
But in their hearts, being able to read and attend classes is already a very happy thing.
Because no one knows better than they do:
Reading is hard.
But compared with the suffering of life, it is a person who bears the lightest suffering in this life.
Hungry children are still working hard for their dreams, and the cries in the distance have never stopped.
And the child you?
With the best teachers, the most comfortable learning environment, the parents who care about you the most, why don't you work hard, why do you scoff at all this?
Sleep in the best location
It is the biggest disappointment to youth
Some time ago, I saw something that made people very angry:
One teacher taught sixth-grade science, and when he graded the final exam paper, he saw a lot of answers that broke him:
Some students keep repeating "Teacher SB" on the horizontal line;
Some students wrote "I am your father" in the blank space of the test paper;
Some students, unaware of the answer, critique the question at length:
"Speechless, I have to write a reason for everything, doesn't that mean the same thing you mean when you ask me why I wash my hair with water?"
I ask you, did you eat yesterday?
You say you ate, and I don't have to ask you why you ate, what is the reason, the brain is not good, who is not angry about this kind of question. ”
The teacher said helplessly:
I am not angry with the students, but I am sad that these children have delayed themselves.
My girlfriend, who is also a primary school teacher, told me that there are several such "thorns" in her class: the export of dirt at a young age;
Fight with classmates at every turn, and even dare to confront the teacher in person;
Often play games, a few subjects in one exam do not add up to 100 points...
Not only that, these children are also proud of their behavior, thinking that those students who study seriously are "dog legs" and "dead reading".
As everyone knows, if you make a mistake in one fell swoop, you will lose every game.
Youth is not a golden age, it is a watershed that separates the hard and the depraved.
And those who sleep at the best age think that it is comfort, rest, and blessing;
But in fact, what it gives you is boredom, it is burnout, it is depression, and it is a long and heavy pain in the future.
As there's an old saying:
If you are not diligent, the old will be hard; if you can serve the hardships, the old will be comfortable.
This is the so-called "law of conservation of suffering": there are always numbers of sufferings that a person will have to endure in this lifetime.
It does not arise for no reason, nor does it disappear out of thin air, but only moves from one stage to another, or from one form to another.
If you enjoy the blessings you shouldn't enjoy today, then tomorrow you will have to eat the suffering that you don't need to eat.
Don't waste your life at the best age.
The most terrible thing in life is that you are satisfied with the status quo and secretly forgive yourself.
All the undeserved splendor in life
After all, it needs to be repaid with pain
A poll was launched on the Internet, and 30 million netizens selected the "Top Ten Regrets in Life".
Among them, the top ones are:
I did not cherish the young admission to a good university, so that I did nothing in this life.
Remember the little brother Wang Wei who scored 623 points in the college entrance examination, but is still calmly delivering takeaways?
When the media rushed to report on his inspirational deeds, he said:
"I'm a negative textbook."
Everyone knows that this is not the first time Wang Wei has taken the college entrance examination.
In 2013, he was admitted to China Agricultural University majoring in food engineering and science with a score of 60 points beyond the first line of Hubei Province.
But because he was not interested in his major, Wang Wei became obsessed with games during college.
It wasn't until he was about to graduate from his senior year that he realized that he had hung up too many subjects and had to face dropping out.
After leaving school, he traveled in Beijing, Guangzhou, Xiangyang and other places, worked as a teacher in a tutoring agency, worked as a worker carrying goods, and joined the army of riders to deliver takeaways...
After being beaten all over his body by life, Wang Wei finally understood:
"Academic qualifications are too important for the disciples of the Cold Gate."
I have to say that Wang Wei is lucky.
Although compared with his peers, he has spent many years;
But for himself, he finally woke up and lost his way back in the gifts of the years and the lessons of life.
In life, more "Wang Wei" thinks that they have escaped the hardships and hardships of the present, but they have encountered more ferocious obstacles on the road ahead:
When I was in junior high school, there was a beautiful female classmate in the class.
Even the wide school uniform looks particularly youthful and beautiful when worn on her.
Unexpectedly, in the third year of junior high school, she felt that staying up late every day and brushing up on questions was too hard, and she wanted to go to Beijing to become a star, and her teachers and family could not persuade anything.
However, without a diploma, she repeatedly ran into a wall.
Stars did not become, can only go around to do odd jobs, waiters, as shopping guides.
Time passed in a hurry, and she could only find a man who also dropped out of school to work and marry casually.
When I saw her again, the girl's innocence was gone, leaving only a shell that had been tortured by life to the point of no end.
So, you see, there's never been a regret pill in the world.
What you can do is to take advantage of the fact that you still have time to study hard, even if you can't guarantee that your life will be rich and monstrous, at least it can protect you from stumbling a little.
Growing up only once, time can't be repeated, don't leave yourself with a lifetime of regrets.
When you've crossed the storm
You are no longer the same person you were
Writer Lu Yao said:
"Everyone has a period of awakening, but the awakening determines the fate of the individual sooner or later."
12 years ago, there was a child who shouted in front of the camera:
"The college entrance examination form is very severe, you get one more point, you can overwhelm a thousand people in the province, or even more."
So we feel that every minute is very important, because every minute represents one or two points, or even more. ”
He is Li Song, the class leader of the 399th class of the hengshui middle school college entrance examination.
Get up at 5:30 a.m. every day to run exercises, an hour of early self-study, and fight against the clock to cook problems...
At that time, many people criticized Hengzhong as a purgatory on earth and ridiculed Li Song as a problem-making machine.
However, when he reappeared in front of the media camera, he was already a diplomat at the Permanent Mission of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of the People's Republic of China to the United Nations.
At birth, he did not have a golden key.
But he has used more than ten years of hard work to create a golden life for himself.
For ordinary people, effort is a handful of Chinese medicine, although bitter but curative;
And ease is like a poisonous preserve, sweet but deadly.
I once read a passage like this:
"The road of life, if divided simply, can be divided into two categories: wide doors and narrow doors.
Wide doors are simple modes, while narrow doors are hardcore modes.
One is that it is easy to enter, but the road is getting more and more forced and obscure;
One is that it is difficult to enter, but the road becomes more and more spacious and bright.
Most people will choose the former, but really smart people will choose the latter. ”
As a child of ordinary people, we must understand:
The campus is not a paradise without competition, and there are shura fields everywhere outside the school.
Ordinary people like you and me are doomed to have no innate talent, and they have no life to do things.
But at least, you can choose what kind of self you are and what kind of life you live:
It is like a brilliant firework, short and scattered, or like a still water flowing deeply, trickling endlessly.
Finally, I would like to tell the children now:
The sun arch is endless, and the merit is not donated to the sea.
Today, every slackness and every effort of yours will become a foreshadowing for future life:
You are lazy, and it will become a stumbling block that does not know where to come out;
If you fight hard, it will become a critical moment to rescue your road and bridge.
Don't give up, don't mess around, in the near future, you will definitely be grateful for facing the difficulties today!