A mother's sorrow: It took me 8 years to finally raise my son
Behind every child who does not understand gratitude, there is a pair of overprotective parents
If you want to teach good children, don't let your children not know the hardships of life
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A netizen once inadvertently took such a video
A mother walked the road carrying a high piece of cargo
In front of her, the five- or six-year-old son also laboriously carried three large bags, which also looked very difficult
So this mother, she stretched out her hand, wanted to help her son reduce a little weight, she struggled to hold the goods on the child's body, silently walking behind
Unexpectedly, the child was also very sensible, and after perceiving his mother's movements, he accelerated his pace and quickly distanced himself from his mother
Considerate your mom in this way
This video is very short, but it has touched countless netizens
The understanding and love of mother and son for each other makes people both sad and envious
Many people predicted: "This child will not be wrong in the future"
Some of them are also children, but some people still exploit their parents with peace of mind until adulthood
I believe that many people have heard a story of "mom went to pass the dish"
The owner of the story is an adult, but not only does he not honor his parents, but he also owes a lot of debts because of gambling
In order to help him pay off his debts, his elderly parents could only go out to work, and his mother ran to the hotel to be a helper, and as soon as she got her salary, she quickly called her son, and said apologetically: "Mother is old, useless."
A child of a few years old still knows how to help his mother reduce the burden, while an adult man has to be supported by his parents
Why is the gap so large?
I would like to say that the reason why children understand things, or become "white-eyed wolves", is inseparable from the education of their parents
If you want not to teach the "white-eyed wolf", parents must be vigilant against these 3 behaviors
01
They suffer and suffer, and the child only knows how to enjoy
I once watched a variety show called "The Boy Who Opened His Heart", and there was a scene that impressed me
He Yike, an 8-year-old boy, told the staff
"At home, my parents hurt me a lot, and they always arranged everything for me
In the morning, my father came in to feed me, then got dressed, ate, washed, and carried my school bag
I am now 8 years old, I can't drink yogurt myself, my father sometimes wants to teach me some life skills, but every time my mother says that I am still young, I don't need to learn, and nature will grow up."
It is the pampering and excessive care of the parents that makes this child completely lose the opportunity to exercise himself
In such a family, if the parents do not change the concept of education in time, everything will be handled instead of the child
Then the child is likely to grow up to be a giant baby, a white-eyed wolf
The protagonist of the animated short film "Giant Baby" is still unable to rely on himself even though he has reached adulthood
He stayed in the room all day, hungry and thirsty and needed something, so he shouted "Mom"
Dress your mother to wear, eat to your mother to feed, no matter what you do, you have to rely on your mother
Unfortunately, his dad died in an accident
Having lost their financial resources, the mother and son suddenly became difficult to live, while the son was still the same as before, only knowing how to take
One day he wanted his mom to buy him a pair of VR glasses, and this time his mom was upset
After thinking about it, the mother still decided to satisfy her son, so she took out her kidney and helped her son change into glasses
After that, the mother also died, and the son with glasses did not find out at all, and he had a lot of fun
It wasn't until he was hungry, when he called out "Mommy" again, that he realized that Mom was gone
Then the son burrowed into his mother's belly, because he would not be able to live without his mother
The French Enlightenment scholar Rousseau wrote a sentence in his magnum opus Emile
"Do you understand what can be done to make your child miserable? , and that's what he wants."
If a child wants anything from an early age, he will become more and more selfish in the long run
Desires are getting bigger and bigger, and one day, you will no longer be able to satisfy him
At that time, not only do you feel pain, but so do your children
Why do many parents work so hard that they are not grateful?
In fact, the reason is very simple, people who always sit back and enjoy their success cannot appreciate the heartache and pain behind all this
As a parent, do not suffer yourself, and let your children enjoy their success
Sometimes, it's not a bad thing to let them understand the hardships of life early
02
Always keep your child under your wing
Star teacher Li Yongle once shared one of his own experiences
The air conditioner in his home was broken in the summer, and he couldn't turn it on no matter how to press it
Finally, once he personally asked the maintenance master to carry out the repair
As a result, the master told him that the air conditioner was no problem, but the remote control battery was out of power
Such a simple thing, but it is difficult for himself to study at Peking University as an undergraduate and a high-quality student at Tsinghua University as a graduate student
No one believes it, but this is something they have really encountered in their own lives
In fact, the reason why he is like this is precisely because from childhood to adulthood, his parents are accustomed to arranging everything for him, and even after adulthood, his mother will help him cook, clean up clothes and room, so he has always had knowledge and no common sense
Even every time I go out to eat, I don't know what to order
When parents habitually take care of their children under their wings
Invisibly depriving the child of the opportunity to be independent, but also cutting off his link with normal life
Over time, the child becomes an island
Not long ago, there was a news on the Internet, a young man with a good family background and education
But he entered other people's homes several times to commit theft
After being arrested, the young man told the police that he did this because his parents spoiled him from an early age
There is always something to give, but as they get older, their parents' abilities can no longer satisfy their inner desires
And he was accustomed to taking, and he did not want to suffer on his own, so in order to satisfy his desires, he embarked on the road of sin
When the boy's father found out, he also regretted it very much, saying that he should not be too kind to the child
Indeed, raising a child is simple, that is, satisfying him endlessly
Parents love their children for a long time, as parents, do not always protect their children under their wings
Do what he should do instead of him, and that will only harm the child
Let them unconsciously become accomplished nothing, and in the future they will suffer the blank eyes of others
03
The best love a parent can give to his child is to teach him to be self-motivated and hardworking
Remember that takeaway guy named Wang Wei?
He was admitted to a prestigious school twice, but because he was addicted to games, he hung up the subject many times and was dissuaded by the school
In June this year, he once again scored a good score of 635 points, and the moment he saw the results, Wang Wei was very calm
After four years of going around and around, why did Wang Wei, who should have graduated from college, quit school again and again?
It is understood that Wang Wei's family is not very rich, but from childhood to adulthood, his father who wants to be strong always refuses to wronged him
Although the family is not good, as long as he needs to buy something, his father always supports him without saying a word
Wang Wei confessed that although he understood that it was not easy for his parents to earn money, he could not control himself every time
It wasn't until he dropped out of school for the second time that his father finally cried on the phone
Only then did he suddenly realize how shameful his behavior was, and after dropping out of school, he had worked as a teacher and a porter
Traveled to many cities and delivered a lot of takeaways
After going through everything, he truly understood his parents, learned to be considerate of them, and also realized the importance of knowledge
So he saved tuition fees while studying hard, and he had the third college entrance examination this year
In fact, the poorer the family, the more reluctant the parents are to grievance their children
Wang Wei's story is not only his personal story, but also hides the shadow of thousands of poor families
In these families, parents place all their hopes on their children
They always think that their children are good at reading, and they can't be wronged by their children no matter how bitter they are
In the end, the child becomes more and more selfish, more and more lazy, and does not understand the parents at all
In fact, let the child suffer a little more, nothing
Only by understanding the hardships of life can we understand the goodness of reading
Only by experiencing the difficulties of life can we understand the difficulties of parents
Good parents should understand that they will eventually grow old one day
Children's futures are for them to create and teach them to be motivated and hardworking
It's the best love for them