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Many moms say:
Competitions are very helpful for children to keep practicing, to hone their will, and to have a more peaceful gain and loss.
Of course, there are also some doubts in the background, saying that those sports, art classes are not good! Sign up, spend money, and compete, is it necessary to have such a chicken baby? In fact, it is nothing to discuss well, but it is not necessary to have a dry mouth.
If you educate your child, have requirements for your child, hope that he will laugh at success or failure, and be determined, even if he is a chicken baby, he will be scolded by you, then why do you have a child!
Raise a pot of plants, you water and fertilize, and hope it thrives, let alone your children.
Some people say, Oh, how do ordinary people's children still live?
No one is more unusual. The classes attended by our children are basically a bunch of children's classes, and everyone else is taught one-on-one by national coaches. Saying that these are of no use to individuals, education is to teach according to aptitude, but also to do our best. And even if you don't go to any interest class, it really doesn't matter, study well, who says it's not a specialty! Even if you study well, having a good body will benefit you for life.
It is said that children are gold-devouring beasts.
In fact, everyone who came over knows that milk powder and diapers are small money.
What really swallows our money with its mouth wide open is all sorts of interest classes.
Xiao Zhang started the fourth grade, and since he was three years old, I have taken him to more than a dozen interest classes of all sizes.
Instead of finding out where he was leading the way, he was often angry and his blood pressure was raised.
I shared my mental journey with you in my previous article about the interest class:
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Three and a half years old: Art - Painting
Reasons for choosing: the threshold is low, not boring, everyone learns, and the children are not disgusted.
Persistence time: 2 years
Cost: 20,000 (200/session, 1 session a week)
Reason for abandonment: The threshold for painting is low, but it really depends on talent. Some interests just need to be free-range, and they really don't need to spend money, at least not early.
Four and a half years old: subject enlightenment - offline children's English
Reason for choice: After doing a period of English initiation at home, I felt that I should learn systematically, such as using formal teaching materials and learning natural phonics. Recommended by friends.
Persistence time: 1 year
Cost: 20,000 (100/session, 4 sessions a week)
Reasons for abandonment: The school is too far away, pregnant with a second child, inconvenient to pick up and drop off. It is too important for interest classes to be close.
Four and a half years old: Sports - Taekwondo
Reason for choosing: Downstairs at Grandma's house, the taoist hall is very formal, recommended by friends, exercise.
Persistence time: 1.5 years
Cost: 10,000 RMB (100/session, 1/2 session a week)
Reason for giving up: The child has not been too interested, and after a long fever and cold, he never goes again. I was pregnant with my second child, and I didn't bother to send it, so I gave up. I'm sorry to have reached the Green Belt, but the child has no regrets. Giving birth to a second child will delay the boss to a certain extent.
Five years old: Sports - football
Reasons for choice: English teaching in clubs, playing football at an international school near home, group sports.
Persistence time: half a year
Cost: 4000 RMB (150/session, 1 session per week)
Reason for giving up: There are too many smog days, and it is not good to persist. The child basically runs around the field and does not understand the rules at all. There are some projects that work better to start a little later than to be earlier. And the goal should be clear, not too greedy. Do you want to learn to play football or learn English?
Five and a half years old: Subject Enlightenment - Online English
Reason for choice: English learning can not be interrupted, online is relatively flexible and convenient.
Persistence time: very long, the effect of listening and speaking is relatively obvious, the only thing lacking is writing.
Cost: 50,000 (180/session, 2/3 sessions a week)
Reason for abandonment: None.
Six years old: Piano
Reason for choosing: always have to learn the same instrument, there is a piano at home.
Persistence time: 1.5 years.
Cost: 30,000 (400/session, 1 session a week)
Reasons for giving up: Children really don't like it, and practicing every day is hurtful and painful for each other. The purpose of the exercise was unclear at the beginning. And there is no choice to go to the institution, learn the piano at home, the environment is not formal enough, and the child has never confessed his fate. Decide to give up.
Six years old: French sight singing
Reasons for choosing: with piano learning, score recognition, pitch, musicality, music theory knowledge.
Cost: 1700 yuan (Children's Palace)
Reason for abandonment: The child is really not interested, and the sense of music is poor. Artistic, interests and talents are too important.
Six years old: Recitation/moderator
Reason for choosing: I think the child's appearance conditions are OK, the mouth is also clever, and the generous and decent exercise can be good.
Reason for giving up: Because the child does not want to go to The French sight singing, so the father does not even bother to send the recitation class, I feel particularly sorry.
Six years old: Skiing
Reason for choice: After the trial class, I felt like I was flying and felt free, so I liked it.
Persistence time: Still insisting.
Cost: 70,000 (350/snow blanket lesson, once a week; ski resort in Harbin in summer; Chongli in winter (coach fee, fare, hotel, ticket)
Reason for persistence: True love, nothing else.
Six and a half years old: calligraphy
Reason for selection: The child wants to be on.
Persistence time: Still insisting
Cost: 40,000 (200/session, once a week)
Reason for persistence: Before OK, this year insisted very generally, winter and summer vacation practice more, he said now he does not like it.
Seven years old: Swimming
Reason for choice: To keep fit, there is a swimming club downstairs.
Persistence time: Still insisting
Cost: 50,000
Reason for persistence: There has always been progress, and I have been the most tightly supervised. Because swimming can make a boy in good shape, hahaha!
Special note: I recommend that children who learn to swim at the beginning (over 5 years old, at least the coach can understand the movements) choose small classes or one-on-one, because 0 foundation is a large class, and children cannot get a response in time when they are afraid of difficulties and fears, and there may be psychological shadows. Small classes learn faster, calculate money, in fact, it is not too much, because many large classes have not learned, or only learned a swimming posture...
Seven: Lego
Reason for choosing: School after-school interest class, pass the time, the child also expressed his liking.
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Reason for giving up: I said that I didn't like it so much, and various LEGO classes, parents need to seriously compare and investigate, I did not do this homework, and I did not insist.
Seven years old: table tennis
Reason for choice: Exercise vision and reflexes.
Cost: 800 yuan (Children's Palace)
The reason for giving up: in the large class, the child basically chats with the little girl in one class. Any project, don't start because it's cheap.
Seven and a half years old: Golf
Persistence time: Half semester
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Those pits that have been skipped, the stupidity that has been made, the worries that have been made, and now that I think about it, there are many places of regret and regret.
When I planned an after-school class for Jimmy, I was very rational and would not blindly follow.
So he's still a big idler who has just turned four.
Sports should start 1-2 items, in the investigation, the other is not in a hurry.
I know that many mothers are arranging various interest classes for their children, do you want to choose this, do you want to continue that?
After all, I am an old mother with blood and tears. Therefore, today I want to talk to you about the children's interest class.
They are all heartfelt words, and I hope that our energy and financial resources can be spent on the blade.
And frankly, time is more important than money for children.
Interest classes, not the more the better,
Mom should learn to do subtraction
This is a particularly profound feeling after I gave the boss a variety of interest classes, spent at least 200,000 small - the interest class is not expensive.
The child is indeed a money shredder, but the uncool mother is definitely a fighter in the money shredder.
Less and fine, in order to give children enough time to practice.
There is no practice in learning, it is all meat buns to beat dogs.
The more we are afraid of missing out on our children's "talents" and casting a wide net, the more we can't grasp anything.
Because even a gifted child needs 99 points of practice to be effective.
In particular, I would like to say that the interest classes that we have not chosen or insisted on will bury the talent of children?
The answer is: no!
There's a particularly good line in The Shawshank Redemption: Some birds can't be shut down because their wings are too brilliant.
Interest classes, don't start easily,
Stop loss can be stopped in time
Don't start easily, because it is too easy to start, often adults do not think well, children do not cherish, the easiest to give up.
Why can I stop loss in time?
Because if the previous input-output ratio is too low, the effect is not good, and it is not good to predict the future trend, and the abandonment is to avoid more waste.
Interest classes should never be a costless thing.
Money is the cost, so is the time.
Many art interest classes, many children may not have such a high interest, coupled with daily practice, more and more difficult, academic pressure and other reasons, the possibility of giving up halfway is the highest.
For example, Xiao Zhang's piano.
Many people ask me, why don't you force him?
Wouldn't it be okay to force him to practice for half an hour a day?
Okay, practice for half an hour, persuade for an hour, cry for half an hour.
With this time, why not do something that interests him and can produce more results?
Interest classes should never be a competitive thing.
Xiao Zhang gave up the piano, am I sorry?
Regret, but not regret that he gave up, but regret that he did not love.
Because there is no obsession with having children learn musical instruments, for Jimmy, I will give him more opportunities to learn about different instruments, and I will not start easily.
Interest class, you are to cultivate interest,
Or is it to develop strengths? Paths and planning are very different
This is a question that moms have to ask themselves.
People's interests can be very numerous, and they don't need to spend money on each one.
Playing with children, playing with parents, and knowing some rules will all help.
Don't find your child interested in anything, go to the class. Children are pro, and so is money.
This sentence is worth a lot of money, please write it down.
If you want to cultivate your specialty, it is another matter entirely.
That takes a particularly long time, a lot of money, a lot of training, and a particularly good mindset.
And if you want to practice, you also need talent.
Xiao Zhang practiced skiing, completely for interest, and he really liked it. All I can do is take him skiing during the snow season, ask a coach to practice the movements, and have a good time.
Jimmy can also ski, because it is convenient to carry with his brother.
Of course, if he doesn't love it in particular, then forget it.
Interest classes, not to make up for shortcomings, but to promote strengths,
Even if it is not a specialty, it can be good at it
This is also a lesson learned from Xiao Zhang's learning to play the piano.
His sense of music is average, and he is not interested in musical instruments, if your child is like this, can you see if he prefers sports or puzzle classes.
Find what your child likes, is relatively good at, and teaches according to his aptitude.
Xiao Zhang likes to ski and swim, although his talent and amount of exercise, time to pay is difficult to make these two events his specialty, but it is still possible to become his own expertise.
Love - excel at - love more - the interest of a lifetime.
It's more meaningful than me forcing him to learn the piano, take the grade, and then not want to touch the piano for the rest of his life.
Interest classes need to be done according to their ability,
Some classes are not suitable for children from ordinary families
I have friends around me who applied for rugby because they heard from institutions that learning rugby, ice hockey, fencing can help apply for American universities and help climb vines.
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What helps climbing the vine is not the child practicing rugby, but the achievement.
Rugby is foreign, but the current development in China is a bit lame, the venue is not enough, the coach is not enough, the children look cool to play, and the other seems to be nothing. Boulders run away, as if there is no reliable rugby organization.
Equestrianism, ice hockey, golf, fencing, rugby, are all top-notch money crushers. And because many projects need to be competed from all over the country, there must be a person at home. Unless the child shows great talent or has great interest, the average family, if only to catch up with the fashion, does not even understand the basic situation to let the child learn some "niche projects", the cost performance is really not high.
Of course, you can say that these projects exercise the child's will quality, but in fact, any sports project exercises the child's will quality.
I know that some of the things said above are not particularly well heard.
Every family situation is different, and your child's educational path ultimately has to be decided by yourself.
Jimmy is four years old, and apart from eating, I think he has a little bit of a feel for martial arts.
Extracurricular classes are nothing more than these categories: sports, literature and art, art, science and technology, and subject enlightenment.
At present, the ratio I give to Jimmy's interest class is planned according to what I said above:
Sports class 1-2: Currently planned martial arts class + snowboarding, 4 + start
Literature /Art 1: It is excellent to be able to practice street dance
Subject Enlightenment: Currently unplanned, self-chicken
Sports is preferred
The reason is simple.
Weak bodies are easy to become the object of bullying.
No one offends me, I do not offend; if I offend me, I can at least run through him.
In addition to practicing sports, it can also improve self-confidence, sportsmanship is the spirit of repeated defeats, and children who practice sports are physically and psychologically solid.
Literature/art classes are expected
I don't have any artistic expertise myself, and I am still quite envious of people playing and standing up and being able to sing and dance.
Xiao Zhang followed me, I didn't love these since I was a child, and I didn't react to music.
Jimmy is an active young man who often dances as soon as he is happy.
I think a little fat man dancing in the street is very funny, if he likes it, he can practice.
In the future, it can also be used to pick up sisters.
Enlightenment classes are complementary
At this stage of Jimmy, parent-child reading is the most important.
Disciplinary enlightenment does not have to be done.
Even if you do it, there is no need to be particularly utilitarian or set clear goals.
Jimmy's reading and English initiation were carried by me.
He especially likes to memorize poems, I guess because he likes the rhymes of ancient poems.
Jimmy's interest class I will control within 3.
Having written so much about choosing a child's interest class, I hope that you will think of these twelve words before making a decision:
Teach according to the talents, act according to the ability, and make full use of the strengths and avoid the weaknesses.
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