"I don't want to see my child as a girl, but the clothes she wears in the morning and comes back at night like she came back from a mud puddle." My friend Xiaoli complained to us.
Listening to Xiao Li complain about his own children, another friend also echoed: "Yes, our home music is also, the toys that have just been packed for him at home, immediately put in a mess, we educate him, he is still aggrieved and sad." ”
Indeed, at the age of five or six years old, it is the stage of curiosity and strong desire to do things, and parents have to pack up their things every day in addition to taking care of their children, and they are busy every day. So the question is, what should parents do in order not to hurt their children's self-esteem, but also to make their children behave in a disciplined manner?
First, establish an orderly and clean environment
Parents should first lead by example, whether it is a father or a mother, they must return to their positions in time after playing, arrange them neatly, and create a stable and clean environment. Children of this age usually like to emulate others, if the parents are organized and tidy, then in the ear of the child will also develop a good habit of doing things organized and tidy.
If the child is in a dirty and dirty environment for a long time, over time, the child may think that sloppiness and littering are the norm, so that the child will not be able to learn to tidy up. And not only the environment, but even the child's future personality and heart, will have a potential impact on the child's growth.
Second, try to communicate with children and shape a positive and healthy education style
Parents must first of all carry their own educational attitude, first of all, do not label the child, think that the child is a lazy and sloppy character, the same if the child makes a mess at home, parents try not to criticize him first, lest the child have a rebellious psychology, the more the parents do not let him do what he wants to do.
In fact, in daily life, if it is not too much, then parents do not need to be too careful about the small details of their children. But if the child is too lazy, parents must have patience to guide the child.
For example, the implementation of a reward and punishment system: parents can tell their children that if they can clean up the littered toys today, mom and dad will fulfill his little wish. You can also help your child establish the concept of the glory of labor through storytelling, help him make his own plan, and put an end to the idea of tomorrow and tomorrow.
Third, take games and other ways that children like
The reason why children are messing around is because they have no interest in sorting things out, and they also have a dependence psychology, thinking that their mothers will clean up anyway.
So parents can adopt another way, such as through the way of playing games to let children get the joy of tidying up things. "Is it okay for the mother and the baby to clean up the toys together, the little rabbit came out today for a day, it also misses the mother, wants to go home early, let's take it home to see the mother okay?"
Parents can also compete with their children to see who sorts out the fastest? Then give the child encouragement and support, through the way of praise, let them like to tidy things up.
In fact, the most important thing about children's personality and living habits comes from the teaching of their parents. Family education shapes a child's life, so our parents must slowly cultivate their children's sense of independence, correct their children's bad habits, and never condone their excessive behavior.
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