We often say that parents are the best teachers for children. If we want our children to become what kind of people, then first of all, as parents, we should set an example, so that children can learn from their parents and gradually cultivate good behavior habits.
Especially when the child is young, he does not know what is right and what is wrong, so he may inadvertently make some wrong behavior.
At this time, parents as guardians should correct in time, so that children can realize that their behavior is wrong, otherwise, the parents' indulgence is the "seed" of the child's bad habits.
In Shanghai, a subway is running at high speed, the carriages are crowded, and it is a special happiness to have a seat. So most people are standing, after all, there are not enough subway seats.
However, in the subway seat, there is a little girl who stands out, because everyone else is sitting quietly in the seat, only she is standing on the seat.
Everyone knows that the seat is used to sit, not to step on, and to step on the seat with shoes like this, so how should the person after that sit?
Moreover, there is no doubt that this kind of behavior is not about quality, and others will even think that such a child has no tutor, does not know how to be polite and respectful.
Under normal circumstances, if parents find that their children have such misconduct, they will stop and correct it in time.
However, what makes people speechless is that the mother of the little girl is by the side, but instead of stopping her daughter's behavior, she is silently playing with her mobile phone there, as if nothing has happened, as if her daughter's behavior is not wrong.
However, the subway is a public place after all, so the subway seat involves the public interest, so it is inevitable that some people will not be accustomed to this misconduct and will choose to take the initiative to accuse.
After seeing this situation, a passerby aunt did not choose to turn a blind eye, but directly issued a voice to accuse, pointing out that this little girl's behavior was impolite and inappropriate.
However, the aunt's accusation did not make the little girl's mother accept it calmly, on the contrary, the little girl's mother also believed that the aunt should not blame her child, she thought that she had stood up and given up a seat to the aunt, then the aunt should not gossip anymore.
However, the aunt is very clear that this is not a matter of giving up the seat, as a parent, so indulgent to let his daughter stand on the subway seat, this is a typical education problem, and it is a failed education.
So the aunt directly said angrily:
"If you don't educate, I'll educate!"
Auntie's response is sonorous and powerful, full of confidence, because she knows very well that this behavior of the little girl is not right, if it is not stopped and corrected in time, then in the future the little girl will default to her own behavior is not wrong, then it will be more intense to do some improper behavior, then it will be really too late.
However, the sad thing is that from the little girl's mother's "straight" reply, you can feel that she does not realize her mistake, nor does she realize that her daughter's behavior is wrong, which is the biggest sadness.
Imagine how a child could possibly learn the right thing if the parents' own behaviors and thoughts were wrong.
We all know that parents are the best teachers for children, and if they are such parents, then the cultivation of children is doomed to failure.
Many times, children's bad habits begin with the connivance and disregard of parents. There are some small mistakes that parents think it doesn't matter, saying "she's still just a child", so they ignore it.
With the passage of time, when the child develops more and more bad habits and acts become more and more outrageous, it is really difficult for parents to correct it at this time, because the child will think that he is right, he will think that you did not care before, and now suddenly manage, why?
Therefore, the ancients had a saying that summed it up very well: Don't do it with evil and small, and don't do it with good and small. Nip your child's bad habits in the bud, so that you can cultivate children who are both good at both production and learning.
And the child's words and deeds reflect the parents' personality to a certain extent, if the child is not polite and has no cultivation, then others will also use this to evaluate the child's parents.
What do you think about this?