Recently, many mothers have complained in our parenting group: "The daughter of the family has recently loved stinky beauty, likes to secretly wear my lipstick, blush, and often wears my high heels to walk around." It's really a little devil, and I love stinky beauty so much at such a young age, what's the matter? ”
This may be that the child has entered the aesthetic sensitivity period! "Love stinks beauty" is actually a stage of life that every child will go through.
Ms. Xu from Zhoukou, Henan Province, had the same experience. Her 2-year-old daughter may have recently been particularly beautiful after watching Ms. Xu's makeup, and she was also fascinated by makeup. I like to take my mother's makeup and apply it to my face.
Two days ago, Ms. Xu was busy with housework, but she didn't know that her daughter, who was supposed to be watching cartoons alone in the room, had already taken her concealer and painted her face all over her face, which could be called a face change in place.
Ms. Xu said that she had not used the whole jar of concealer, and she had been used up by her daughter, who asked her if she was beautiful after applying it. At that time, Ms. Xu washed her daughter's face for two hours without washing it, or went to the barbershop the next day and washed it again.
This made Ms. Xu feel angry and funny, but she knew that her daughter was also out of curiosity and loved to stink, which was a very normal thing for the child, and scolding the child might make things worse, so she simply said two words to her daughter. But unexpectedly, the next day, my daughter applied a tube of hand cream to her face...
It can only be said that loving beauty is human nature, especially for children who have reached the age of "loving beauty", if this nature is blindly prohibited or curbed, it is not only ineffective, but may even be counterproductive. But does this nature need to be guided? Where are the degrees?
After the age of 3, the child will enter a period of aesthetic sensitivity
Children after the age of 3 gradually began to pursue perfection and liked to explore beauty. Careful parents will also find that their children have become "picky", clothes must be chosen by themselves, shoes if they like their own color, even the pattern on the socks is not right... If it is not for the child's appetite, it will not be worn.
In fact, this is the child in their own way to express the understanding of beauty, indicating that the child has entered the aesthetic sensitivity period, began to form their own aesthetics, the surrounding things have their own standards and requirements, parents must give the right guidance, for the child to create the right conditions to explore, understand the surrounding world.
With the help of children's "love of beauty", cultivate aesthetic ability
In fact, parents do not have to worry about what to do with the child's "love smelly beauty", good aesthetics for the child's future personal charm, temperament and so on have great significance, rather than suppressing, it is better to use the child's "smelly beauty" to enhance the child's aesthetic ability. What we should consider more is how to reasonably guide children to understand beauty!
1, do not reject the child's "stinky beauty"
Children love "stinky beauty" is actually the beginning of the child's aesthetics, parents should give appropriate understanding, respect and tolerance to the child's love of beauty behavior, understand the reason why children love "smelly beauty", and look at the process with a normal heart. No suppression, no ridicule, as long as it is not a matter of principle, parents should try to respect the child's wishes and ideas, within a moderate range, allow the child to explore freely.
2. Exploration is allowed, but not across the line
In the process of exploring beauty, as long as it is a normal process, parents do not have to intervene too much, such as children's daily dressing, parents can let go of the children's own collocation, so that children gradually grope out their own style.
However, parents should pay attention to guiding their children to learn to identify what is real beauty in their daily lives, especially they should be wary of some bad information and videos on the Internet. Often see some videos on the Internet, young children wear heavy makeup, the action is twisted, once the child has this situation, parents must intervene in time to guide the child to correctly understand the beauty.
Of course, if it is found that children only focus on dressing, parents may also guide their children to pay more attention to other aspects, such as singing, sports, reading, etc., shifting the focus to the development of their own abilities, gradually leading to healthier beauty, migrating and expanding the field of beauty for children.
3. Guide children to pay attention to the inner and expand the field of beauty
Parents can usually use some picture books or games to skillfully guide their children to pursue beauty, so that they form a good aesthetic, and let the children know that in fact, the pursuit of beauty can also be diverse, not only refers to the face, but also includes a beautiful head, heart and soul.
For example, parents should not always say" when praising their children: "You are so beautiful" and "You are really handsome". You should also guide the child's inner qualities, such as: "You helped your mother throw away the garbage today, really capable!" "You saw your aunt today and said hello, it's really polite"...
Although external beauty is good, it is our top priority to cultivate both inside and outside.
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