Cough, as a teacher, my Spring Festival occupational disease has been committed again. Recently, I saw cute nieces and nephews who I hadn't seen for a long time, but their behavior was not very cute: the 4-year-old nephew did not take off his shoes and stepped directly on my sofa; the 6-year-old niece shouted and shook the table when she ate, and the stacks of plates were crumbling...
As an aunt, I love them very much and can give them "freedom". But as a teacher, my heart is like a cat scratching! I really want to rush over and educate them, because I want my nieces and nephews to be polite and be a quality, etiquette-aware child. In fact, most of these habits are because usually parents do not pay attention to, thinking of this, I feel it is necessary to write an article for parents to provide reference, I hope that parents must tell their children about the Spring Festival New Year etiquette in advance after reading this article, parents who have never paid attention to this aspect can take this as an opportunity to educate the details of children's etiquette, so that children can be a child who knows etiquette and understands etiquette.
Why pay attention to etiquette? To a large extent, China is a gang of etiquette, an ancient civilization, and it is said that etiquette is big or small. As a country of etiquette with a history of five thousand years of civilization, we should use civilized behavior and reasonable etiquette to treat people/guests. To a lesser extent, civilized etiquette is not only the embodiment of personal quality and upbringing, but also the embodiment of personal morality and social morality, and it is also related to whether a person is popular and whether he can be respected by others.
Why should children also pay attention to etiquette during the Spring Festival? Spring Festival is our traditional festival, Spring Festival is a festival with a strong sense of ceremony, Spring Festival is a festival full of joy, relatives and friends get together, and children's upbringing can be best reflected in the gathering. Allowing children to pay attention to etiquette on this occasion reflects the respect for elders and the importance of traditional festivals. Imperceptibly, children will naturally pay attention to these etiquette details in daily situations, which is also a lifelong benefit for children.
Question 1: What can mom and dad do about the details of etiquette?
Parents can educate in advance or on-site.
Plan A: The night before going to a relative's house, parents can tell the children about tomorrow's itinerary, tell the child what to do in each link, what to pay attention to, and talk about it in as much detail as possible. For example, to say hello when entering the door, parents can teach their children to greet them with gestures in advance: holding their fists, seeing friends and relatives smiling and greeting. Then teach the children to say auspicious words and greetings such as "Happy New Year", "More than enough years", and "Peace in the years". You can simulate the situation again, do not take it as a task, just treat it as a game, so that the child's psychology does not produce any fear and pressure. Afraid that the child will forget, you can agree on some small actions or a reminder in advance, just like the signal, as soon as the child sees the signal, he will understand what you mean by the reminder. (Give verbal praise the next day in time for the details your child has done, and when you praise, relatives will naturally praise him, so that positive, timely spiritual encouragement feedback will make the child remember these etiquette details more deeply.) ）
Plan B: If you don't have time to rehearse, then point out the child's good work in time to praise, point out what he did not do well enough, and tell him the right thing to do. (If you have been ignoring these etiquette details and not pointing out in time what the child is doing wrong, the child has no consciousness to correct something, then the child naturally does not understand etiquette, so the timely guidance of parents is very important.) Don't be afraid of trouble, the education of children is a process. When informing him of the correct approach, there is also a special way, do not directly criticize and reprimand him in front of relatives, children also have self-esteem and need to give "face".
You can do: 1. Point out that he can't do this/it's wrong to do it, and why it's not good to do it. 2. Tell him what to do and why he should do it 3. Do you agree with me and whether you are willing to correct it. These steps are actually hoping that the child can understand the reason for doing this from the bottom of his heart, agree with our practices, and take the initiative to correct them. (Instead of me forcing him to have to correct it.) ）
For example: in the face of the behavior of stepping on the sofa without taking off the shoes, the mother can guide the child like this: 1. Baby, you can't do this ~ We wear shoes to avoid dirty feet and not hurt. The soles of the shoes will be dirty when you step on the ground, if you step directly on the sofa, won't the sofa be dirty? 2. If you want to go to the sofa to play, you can also, but you have to think of a way, how to not let the shoes stain the sofa? Well, yes, you can take off your shoes and go to them, which is much better than you would have stepped on them directly. But Mom still doesn't recommend you to do this, baby, you see how other aunts do it, you observe very carefully, Oh, everyone is stepping on the ground, you can also do this! It is also impolite to take off your shoes in public. 3. Baby, do you think Mom is right? So do you want to be a good kid who knows how to be polite? Baby awesome!
Question 2: What etiquette details should children pay attention to? (chronological order)
Morning: To a relative's house
Knock softly on the door;
Hello;
Take off your shoes and arrange them neatly;
Send prepared small gifts to brothers and sisters;
Eat snacks, candy can not be littered, and can not directly put their favorite candy into their own pockets. If you think it's delicious, you can praise the candy prepared by others for being delicious!
Watch tv volume can not be too large, pay attention to can not directly choose their favorite channels, to first seek the consent of others;
Do not casually enter the bedroom of other people's homes;
You can't mess with other people's things, and you can't directly force other people's knick-knacks to come over;
You can't step on someone else's couch with your feet.
Noon: Eat
Eat to have table manners, for children, do not sit down directly to eat vegetables, be sure to wait for everyone to arrive;
If you can't clip the dish, you can ask the elders next to you to help yourself, but be sure to use the word please;
You can't put a certain dish you like all the way into your own bowl;
Do not shake the table at the dining table;
Don't flip around on the plate;
Don't leave the table too quickly;
Put down the bowl after eating and politely say, "Please use it slowly."
For the "wine table culture", of course, children can slowly contact and understand, but many parents adopt the indoctrination and oppression style, "You come to give your uncle and aunt a toast!" The child was having fun and was inexplicably called over, inexplicably called "toast", and had to say a few words of blessing, which I was very disgusted by. You should at least let your child know what is the purpose of pouring wine, why should I pour wine? In this way, the child will not feel forced, and over time, the coercion will produce disgust.
You can tell your child that during the New Year's Festival, everyone will get together, chat at the dinner table, and will send blessings to each other with wine, and pour wine to others to represent their respect and gratitude to others. So you can also use this opportunity to send your blessings to everyone. Would you like to go?
Afternoon: Free play, receive red envelopes
Where to go during free play, greet parents in advance, and if the family buys something for the children, be sure to say thank you!
Share your own toys and snacks with children;
When receiving the red packet, take it with both hands, and be sure to say thank you and say that you will study hard!
You can't open the red envelope directly in person, you can give it to your parents for safekeeping;
Say goodbye to your elders when you go home.
In this lively and festive Spring Festival, the children are one year older, have parents already taught their children the Spring Festival etiquette? The history of civilization is 5,000 years. In the "Analects", it is said that "if you do not learn etiquette, you cannot stand", the Chinese nation is known as the "state of etiquette", and during the Spring Festival, family reunions, visits to relatives and friends are a good time for children to learn civilized etiquette and old rules.
Children's upbringing is formed bit by bit, parents should start from now on, seize the opportunity of the Spring Festival, teach children the rules that should be observed, and help them become properly behaved and polite children. I hope that in the new year, the children can all go to the next level in terms of etiquette!