Marriage is a big deal, because it's important, so of course we should all be cautious about this matter.
When looking for a partner, you must screen well, even if you are with a person, you still have to judge it well.
Different people always seem to have different standards for whether to marry a person or not.
Some people will feel that a person's conditions are not as good as their own, the other party will not be a good choice, and some people will feel that two people are not in one place, and there may be differences in many aspects.
In short, in the matter of marriage, unconsciously, we will always think a lot.
Consider each other's personality, each other's family situation, each other's work, how the other person treats us.
Of course, we have to consider everything, we have to measure it comprehensively, and in the end, whether we want to marry a person or not, we don't really need to think so much, we just need to follow the only standard, that is, ask your heart.
When you are with each other, whether you are comfortable.
Many people, in love, are always very humble and unhappy, but they still have no remorse.
Always think that if you love each other, you should bear everything, no matter how the other party treats you, you should not let go.
However, a lifetime so long, always wronged themselves, it is difficult to live happily after all, more critically, grievances can not be exchanged for each other's care, as well as the other party's attention, but will only be more ignored.
In fact, if we are with a person, we always feel very uncomfortable, whether it is not feeling each other's love or not, whether we always need to bend ourselves or not, whether we are often depressed or not, that person, probably not much of a good choice.
Choosing a person, we should follow our own wishes to see if we love each other, but at the same time, on the basis of liking, we must also see whether the other party is worthwhile, get along with each other, and what kind of state we are in.
All those who feel reluctant, whether they are forced to force themselves or force each other, this relationship is actually not good, and it is difficult to last.
Only in a love, the heart will always feel more pleasant, often can feel a nourishment, and the relationship with the other party does not need to be too deliberate, but also can be well maintained, this relationship, is worth our good persistence.
Even if we don't have to do too much, naturally, the relationship can last.
Are you sure that the other person is that person.
When we meet a person, there will always be a lot of voices around us.
Elders may say that the other party conditions are good, people are more honest, we should hurry to catch each other, friends may say, feel that the other party is a good person, and with each other, will be a good choice.
Of course, there are also people who will say that our choice is not so good, we should think again, we should go to find a better person.
Anyway, there will be some voices of approval, there will also be some voices of opposition, whenever at this time, the voice of others, we can not not listen, but we must not completely follow the advice of others, do not care about ourselves at all.
What others say, we just use it as a reference, and then think about it for ourselves.
Ask yourself if you have thought it through and feel that the other party is the person you want, and after that, no matter who appears, you can be with the other party well, don't look left and right, don't have other thoughts.
You can also bear it calmly regardless of the result, and you can do it without blaming anyone.
As long as we think about it ourselves, then in fact, it can be, life is our own, life can only be our own to go, good or bad, others see is always only the appearance, only what we feel ourselves, that is true.
There is no ready to go forward together.
The more we grow up, the more we will understand that two people getting married is not getting married, and everything will be fine.
Marriage is just the beginning, after marriage, each other will need to run in, will need to face complex family relations, will face the problem of having children, will need to deal with how the family division of labor in the future.
For all this, if we have not thought about how to bear it, feel that we are with each other, in fact, we do not have the confidence to bear all this, but also in the other party's body, we can not see the future at all, then we had better think about it again.
Marriage has never been as simple as we think, even more difficult than we think, many things, we don't have to think too complicated, and then become afraid, but also should not be unprepared, just lonely.
It can be said that there is and only in one person's body, we feel a sense of peace of mind, feel that with each other, no matter what will happen in the future, we have the courage to face, at this time, we should enter the marriage with each other.
Love or marriage, that requires courage, this courage seems to come from themselves, many times it is actually given by the other party.
Bad love will only make us feel uneasy, but good love will really make us feel confident and feel that we are not afraid of anything, as long as we are with each other, we can resist all the ups and downs in the future.
The only criterion for whether to marry a person is not whether the other party has money, not what kind of person the other party is, not how much they love each other, but with each other, whether they are happy, whether they are determined, whether they have confidence.
But whenever we just happen to be very happy, very sure, and really want to go to the future with each other, we just have to get married.
After getting married, face everything together, take on everything, and let life gradually become what you want.
But if we love very hard, very hesitantly, very dimly at the moment, we had better be sober. At this moment, it is not a good feeling, and it will not get better in the future.
A wrong person will never be the right person because of time.
Choosing someone who is not right at all, our future path will really become more difficult.
If we can, we better stop the loss in time, we should have better love and have a better life.
Text/Tan Meng
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