Grandpa Chen opened a breakfast restaurant downstairs, mainly selling bun fritters, soy milk and so on. Ms. Zhang is a regular customer of the small shop and brings her son to buy breakfast every morning.
On this day, Ms. Zhang brought the child to buy buns as usual, Grandpa Chen accidentally found the meat filling in the child's button bun, felt strange and stopped to observe, and finally he found:
The child separated the filling and skin of the bun, ate only the meat filling, and threw away the skin, and the mother on the side did not stop it.
Grandpa Chen is not a nosy person, but seeing that the child is so doted on, considering his future development, he said: "You can't be so accustomed to children."
Who knows that After hearing it, Ms. Zhang not only did not appreciate it, but also said with a straight face: "The bun was bought by me with money, and my son can eat it as much as he wants, and what does it have to do with you.
Grandpa Chen was silent after listening, silently watching the mother and son walk away, and could not help but worry about the future of the child.
This kind of "poisonous bun" is not uncommon in daily life, enough to ruin a child's life. Invisible doting is too terrible, not only will make the child's personality become very arrogant, but also let them lose their filial piety to the elders, and the parents will stop.
In addition to these, coddling will also bring these negative effects to children, do you dare to continue after watching it?
1. Distort its ideas and become selfish
Raising children is not enough for them to grow up safely and healthily, and parents should also help their children establish correct concepts. Simple coddling, although it will make the child surrounded by love, will also distort its concepts.
The child will think that what his parents do for him is taken for granted, that the whole world should revolve around him, center on him, and then become selfish, arrogant and unreasonable, and this selfish idea is the mortal enemy on the road to success.
2. Loss of ability to handle things independently
Many parents love their children beyond the normal scope, and plan their lives, studies, and future paths. This behavior will not only deprive the child of the opportunity to choose, but also make him lose the ability to act independently.
Children are accustomed to their parents doing everything from an early age, which will produce inertia, and their sense of autonomy will become worse, and they will not be able to deal with problems in the future, and will only seek help from others.
Everyone has their own path to go, and parents should not interfere in their children's lives. Blind coddling and arranging everything for it will only make the child sink into the swamp and cannot extricate himself.
You know, the vitality of wildflowers is far stronger than the flowers in the greenhouse, and the flowers cannot thrive in the greenhouse, only by experiencing the wind and sun and bathing in enough sunlight can the most beautiful bones bloom.
Of course, the phenomenon of doting on children is not an isolated case, it is a common problem in the whole society.
I hope that parents can understand the harm as soon as possible, let go as soon as possible, educate their children with a balanced mentality, grasp the scale of love, and do not let their overflowing love become a sword that hurts children.