New to meet a girl, these bad things must not be done

Brother Chen has always told everyone that you must grasp the stage of meeting girls just now, and the longer you drag on, the more you will become friends.

Otherwise, the little heart of the girl will not beat, the little face will not be red, and it will not be cold to you.

However, some old brothers are eager to make quick gains and pursue quick battles and quick decisions, but they have lost their good fate.

You think, you're willing to approach someone in the first place, surely because it's easy and stress-free to get along with him, right? No one likes to feel stressed.

But in the process of getting along with girls, many behaviors that you don't realize will invisibly cause pressure on others, so people will start to avoid you.

So today I will talk to you about what behaviors will invisibly cause pressure on girls to stay away from you in the initial stage?

Before starting, it is recommended that you first take a wave of "I can do it", and we cheer each other up

#1 High frequency implies that you are single

Let's start with something you can feel, like a friend who tells you that his phone has been stolen, and at first you will definitely sympathize with him and think that this thief is really hateful.

But the next day, the third day, from the first half of the year to the second half of the year, he saw you and was still talking about this matter, will you still sympathize with him? I can only feel that I am so annoyed with this person, please don't sell miserably.

Oh, the reason is such a truth, that feeling is actually the same, if the boy in front of me said that he was single once, I will only feel, Oh, it turns out that you are a fresh and unworldly single dog.

But if the guy keeps saying in front of me that he's single, like:

"Hey, I really envy Xiao Chen, said well together single to the end, suddenly have a girlfriend"

"I tell you, you really don't hurt me, I've been single for too long, who can withstand this kind of blow"

"Are you doing it personally?" I don't even have a girlfriend, so don't talk about it."

To be honest, these words, in girls, this can be directly translated as, implicitly: I want to find a girlfriend; exaggerated: I lack a woman.

Even, girls will think that you don't really like her, you just met her when you wanted to get off the list.

The core issue you need to address most urgently is wanting a girlfriend, not wanting to be with her.

So the key to the problem is to make her feel that you want to be with her, if it is not her, then you are not in love, it is okay.

#2 The way the brush without nutrients exists

In fact, there is no problem in brushing the sense of existence at the initial stage, after all, the exposure effect also says that we will prefer things that we are familiar with.

But some little brothers, can't stand nothing to talk about, and finally became, Tang Monk chanting the same sense of brush existence, not to eat, or to wear.

You have to talk about something interesting, who wants to listen to the chanting, right?

Some brothers are going to ask, what is interesting, then I will ask you first, what do you think is interesting to talk about when chatting? Come on the barrage and walk in a wave and I'll see.

Then these are what you are interested in, if someone talks to you about this, you are sure to be willing to talk to him, right, well, the girl also has ah, just talk.

Don't be afraid that she is interested in you do not understand at all, do not need you to understand, otherwise if you understand everything, you say you can worry about not having a girlfriend? You still use it here to watch The Morning Brother video, trying to make a three-in-one-click connection.

I have said before, talk about the other party's interest in things, not you say, but you listen to it, throw out the topic, let her pick up, on the line, as long as it is met with what you like to talk about, are you still worried that she can't go on?

She's spitting up on you, talking cool, can she not feel good about you?

In the simplest, even if it is to scold others together. This is all communication, so whether you eat or wear it can only be regarded as a greeting.

#3 Coax your friends around you

To share with you a personal experience of mine, when I was a shy little girl, it is said that there was a boy who liked me.

One day when I walked through the playground, a group of boys saw me and coaxed: Oh, this is not who.

Anyway, on the yin and yang weird, I was really red in the face at that time.

This is very much like the little brother and the girl he likes get along with, not long after they met, there were people around them.

In fact, as mentioned earlier, as long as you have a good feeling for this girl, she will basically feel it.

This feeling is actually very subtle, a bit like a little secret between the two of you, but if this secret is picked out by outsiders, I will feel very embarrassed and embarrassed.

I don't feel proud and proud, so to coax this is completely counterproductive.

#4 Lack of confidence

You think, let's say there's a new game, you play it, you think, well, it's fun.

But a few days later, the developer of the game stood up and said, everyone don't play, my game is purely rip-off, too stupid, people who like to play are xx.

For another example, you like a novel, and as a result, within a few days the author stood up and said, I actually don't want to publish this novel, but the yin and yang are wrongly published, and no one should like it, only xx will like it.

Tell me how you feel?

When we face the girls we like, it is inevitable that we are not confident, and it is normal to feel that we are not handsome enough, that we are not strong enough, that our emotional intelligence is not high enough, and so on.

But ah, don't let your unconfidence grow wantonly, once it is over, it is not called modesty.

You're dealing with a girl you like, and your goal is to make her feel like you're good and make her feel worth it to be with you. You always say something that is not confident and demeaning to yourself, which will only make the girl doubt her decision.

Well, there are so many demining lines today, if you have all been hit, don't feel embarrassed, who has not eaten a long and wise today is not it?