Now, with the continuous development of social civilization, the concept of family education is also constantly innovating. Many traditional family education concepts have been abandoned step by step because they cover a lot of feudal concepts, and nowadays, the mainstream thinking of family education is almost all around the word "respect", requiring parents to treat their children as equals, not to scold, to give children more reason. In this mode of education, children are indeed respected, but the authority of parents is weakened, and many children almost ignore their parents at home. Recently, there was a boy in Changzhou who was at home on vacation, clashed with his mother, and actually wrestled together, and what was even more infuriating was that his father could calmly wrap dumplings on the side.
It happened in a family in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, because it was during the Spring Festival, the school had already taken a holiday, and the children began a pleasant winter vacation life. The "conflict" between the mother and the child originated from a glass of water, when the mother and son were sitting on the sofa watching TV, and the mother probably felt thirsty after watching it for a while, so she let the child pour a glass of water. Unexpectedly, the child was also very absorbed in watching TV, unwilling to watch it, and very simply refused the mother's request. The mother was a little unhappy, so she said, "Go quickly, or the old lady will cut you!" "If it were a family from before, and the mother said so, the child would obediently pour water even if he had complaints in his heart." However, the modern educational concept instills in the growing up children is not like this.
The boy did not care about his mother's "threat" at all, and replied indifferently: "If you don't go, don't go, if you want to cut me, you will come!" The child's disrespectful attitude ignited the mother's anger at once, and he punched the child in the back. If I had been punched by my mother when I was a child, I would have obeyed honestly. The boy did not, and he stared back at his mother angrily, and one hand still tightly grasped his mother's wrist, with a look of excitement and guilt. The mother was even more angry, and such a lawless child must teach a lesson, so she got up and beat the child.
Since the boy dared to stare at his mother and grabbed his mother's hand to beat people, naturally he would not let his mother beat him, and directly fought back, and a mother and son twisted from the sofa into a ball, and then rolled down to the ground together. The mother is obviously more experienced in the struggle, she straddles the child, one hand controls the child's arm, the other hand covers the child's hair, and the pain makes the boy lose his resistance. At this time, everyone saw through the video lens that it was at the table behind the sofa, and dad was also there, and he was calmly wrapping dumplings. Netizens jokingly said that this father has been in the battlefield for a long time and is accustomed to seeing big scenes.
Jokes are jokes, and when we finish laughing, we must also rationally analyze the real reasons behind the event. Look at the boy's head is mostly just a junior high school student, his mother let him pour a cup of water, but it is not okay, his mother beat him, he actually dared to fight back. What kind of child would dare to do this? Children in the past did not dare, and now they are all families who advocate respect for their children, which will cultivate such children who have no elders. In family education, we should respect the wishes of children and understand more about children's ideas, but the most basic order of elders and children in the family should also make children clear, which is the ethical common sense in the traditional culture of the mainland. Otherwise, when the child is a child, he will dare to fight against his parents if he is a little unhappy at home, and his parents may be able to let him. When you grow up and go to society, if you pick a child at every turn, it will definitely be the child who suffers losses.
There is also a sad scene, despite the mother and the child's struggle, in the end it seems that the mother has the upper hand. However, from beginning to end, Dad has been calmly wrapping dumplings next to him, if it were not for the camera deliberately switching to Dad, no one would know that Dad was next to him. This makes people feel a little sad for the mother, the son dares to fight with the mother, the father is actually indifferent. What does this mean? The child is the best at observing the color, he dares to work against the mother, obviously clear that the father will "not squeak", which also shows that in ordinary life, the father may not respect the mother, the child has a way to learn, and dare to do it with the mother.
We often say that the best homeschooling is "teaching by example." The relationship between parents is also crucial to the child's development, and the best education a father can have for his child is to respect the child's mother.