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Author | Serious auntie
Recently, the topic of "super beauty model buys British sperm to give birth to triplets with a monthly flower of 100,000" has rushed to the hot search.
Because the topic itself is very controversial, netizens are about to quarrel.
It is indeed too rare for single women to "buy sperm and have children".
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Let's first look at the report of the surging news.
Title: A Single Woman Decides to Have a Baby in a Test Tube.
It was about a 33-year-old woman named Li Xueke.
She is originally from Shandong and now lives in Hangzhou.
At the age of three, her parents divorced.
Then Dad remarried and had a younger brother.
Only her mother raised Li Xueke alone.
Li Xueke and his mother when he was young
Children without umbrellas can only run hard, so Li Xueke worked very hard when he was a child.
At the age of four, he learned to dance, and in the sixth grade, he began to participate in modeling competitions in other cities.
Because there is no money in the family, Li Xueke went by himself, so that he can save a person's travel expenses.
At the age of 17, Li Xueke went to Shanghai alone because he was not admitted to the university of his choice.
Doing modeling work, a monthly salary of twenty thousand yuan.
In 2006, Li Xueke also participated in the Miss World Tourism Contest and won the national runner-up.
It can be said that it is very inspiring, but two years later, due to the impact of the earthquake, many exhibitions were cancelled.
Li Xueke, who had lost her job, had to return to her hometown and run a dance training class.
In order to support her daughter's career, the mother also sold the only property in the family.
2013 was a year of transformation in Li Xueke's life.
In the words of the surging news: That year, Li Xueke began to do micro-business, and after that, she partnered with others to do business and realized the freedom of wealth.
How "free" it is, the news did not say, look at the title, it should be very free.
From Baidu Encyclopedia (age is inaccurate here)
Because it was also in that year that she began to consider going abroad to buy sperm and have children.
Li Xueke said that after he was 20 years old, he talked about several boyfriends, but "every time he thought he would marry and have children with each other, but every time he was disappointed." ”
Considering that her parents have been married for many years and eventually ended in divorce, it makes her even more afraid of marriage.
But on the other hand, she longs to have a family, wants a child of her own.
So finally decided to try IVF!
"I don't want to step into the life of a housewife yet, but I desperately want to be a mother!"
At the age of 30, I can't find the right person to marry, so I find a way to have children alone. ”
So, at the age of 29, Li Xueke began to look for sperm donors.
"The life I want can't be given to others, I can only give it to myself, I have this ability, no one cares about me." 」
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According to news reports, at first Li Xueke wanted to find it in China.
However, single women are not allowed to do IVF in China, and they must have a marriage license, and two couples can do it.
So then she went to Thailand to do IVF.
Of course, Thai law also stipulates that only those who have a marriage license can go to the hospital for IVF.
However, Li Xueke is looking for an intermediary, which should be circumvented.
I don't know, I was looking for an agent, I only took my ID card and passport, they took me to the Thai hospital to do the formalities.
Eventually, the sperm donor Li Found was from the UK.
It is said that he is a British university teacher, 184cm tall, likes sports, and does not smoke.
I was worried that if I chose to have a Chinese baby, they would think that I had made someone else's little three and secretly gave birth to an illegitimate child.
So I decided to choose a foreigner's sperm.
Another reason is that I especially like mixed-race babies and think they look good.
Subsequently, Li Xueke began his own "man-making" plan.
For example, ovulation injections were given to one's belly every day for 8 days, totaling about 15 injections.
Then, go to the hospital to retrieve the eggs, and then combine with the sperm in the test tube and move back to the uterus.
On the first time, she transferred two fertilized eggs without implantation.
The second time, she transplanted three fertilized eggs to survive.
After that, in order to protect the fetus, a total of more than 140 injections of progesterone were given.
Fortunately, the final caesarean section went well, and three mixed-race babies were born smoothly.
Two men and one woman, one 3 pounds 6 two, one 3 pounds 7 two, one 3 pounds 2 two.
It is worth mentioning that in order not to worry the mother, Li Xueke has been hiding from the mother before the birth of the child.
But some of these experiences have been recorded on her personal platform.
As a mother, if I can't face this, how to make my child face it.
So, I decided to go public.
From her dynamics, it can be seen that she is very fond of her three babies, spending more than 100,000 a month.
Every update is shared almost every day for yourself and your baby.
Moreover, Li Xueke also said that the money needed for children to grow up to adulthood has been saved enough, and it has been returned to three children, one person and one façade room.
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It seems that she is indeed very happy, but it really takes a lot of courage.
After all, "three children", "micro-business", "single women", "IVF", "foreign", a series of labels are posted.
This headline, Wang Feng can't grab.
Therefore, after Li Xueke was on the hot search, the number of readers exceeded 100,000 in one day.
Flipping through the comment area, it is also very noisy.
Supporters believe that many women have given a lot in marriage, but have received very little, and Li Xueke has become the envy of women.
Capable women can give their children enough love, emotional and material security, without the need for men at all.
There is no need to be aggrieved by the bride price anymore.
Another person cited the experience of another unmarried mother, Ye Haiyang.
It is reported that Ye Haiyang also began to start a business after graduating from college, doing cosmeceuticals, and gradually she also thought:
With their own strength, you can live a good life, and why enter the marriage and exchange for a chicken feather?
So in 2017, at the age of 29, she spent 500,000 yuan to "borrow sperm to have a child" in the United States and gave birth to a 5-country mixed-race daughter.
Not long ago, she went to Russia to retrieve eggs, implant embryos, and once again became pregnant with her second child through test tubes.
She said she wanted to give her daughter a companion so she wouldn't be alone.
Opponents argue that only a biological father is not a true consummation.
It is also contrary to the ethical traditions of antiquity.
Moreover, mixed blood does not mean that genes are good.
In addition, again, the Code of Assisted Reproductive Technologies for HumanIty, as revised in 2003, states:
The implementation of human assisted reproductive technologies for couples and single women who do not comply with the provisions of national population and family planning regulations and regulations is prohibited.
Assisted reproductive technologies such as egg freezing can only be exercised by married couples and are not enjoyed by single women.
Although it was done in Thailand, this kind of unmarried borrowing sperm as a mother is still debatable.
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More importantly, some people pointed out that Li Xueke's third child was suspected of being a surrogate.
It is the birth of a generation two.
Because from the photos, the child's head circumference is not the same.
Anyway, if it is to buy someone else's womb and give birth to a child for yourself, this is surrogacy, and it will definitely be severely cracked down.
If you just buy sperm and give birth to your own child, this is not called surrogacy.
In addition to these two voices, though, there is another one.
Many people think of it as a marketing process without compromise.
The first is the identity of Li Xueke himself.
She said that she started modeling school in 2008, and according to the calculation of 33 years old this year, she was only 20 years old at that time.
Then he said that he earned the first pot of gold as a micro-business, and he also had 20,000 direct agents.
Weibo is also a daily call for women to strengthen themselves.
This is easy to think of Zhang Ting.
So, is it advertising your company under the guise of independent women?
Some people on the Internet also say that advertising to surrogacy agencies is not excluded.
Because in a group of so-called Fans of Li Xueke, there are many people consulting how to do IVF.
Looking at this posture, doing purchasing, engaging in micro-business, surrogacy agencies, buying sperm and giving birth, it is a bit of a crazy temptation on the edge of the law.
And it is easy to mislead the public, doing micro-business can make money, borrowing sperm to give birth to children can make children have high appearance and good genes.
It's too dangerous.
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Of course, at present, it is not clear whether Li Xueke is IVF or illegal surrogacy.
Whether it is a legal operation or a diversion for micro-businesses cannot be conclusive.
Based on the effective information that can be grasped at present, it can only be said that Li Xueke, an unmarried mother, has taken a road that few people have taken.
That's all.
Other questions within the law can only wait for the law to be answered.
As for personal factors outside the law, it was felt that there was no need to discuss them.
After all, worldly cause and effect can only be a single reincarnation, not a universal result.
For example, if because of "Li Xueke's personal thoughts", the probability of "Li Xueke having a baby in a test tube" is 90%;
The probability that Li Xueke's test tube birth "causes "others to learn" is 60%;
The probability that others will "lead to a so-called group awakening" after learning is 80%;
Then the connection between "Li Xueke's personal ideas" and "popular thoughts" is only 43.2%.
Does this less than 50% link serve as evidence of advocacy or as an exhortation to refute it?
Or is it a slogan that incites confrontation between men and women?
No, everyone doesn't think about personal health, energy, and financial situation.
After all, a few months ago, platforms such as Douyin, NetEase, and Tencent reported on it once.
It was also a quarrel at that time.
Taking a step back, in the previous interview, whether it is Li Xueke's daily self-statement or media writing, he has mentioned such a sentence:
I don't think there's any need to get married, you can live with me, and go on like this, there's no need to pick up that piece of paper.
Even if you are married and your feelings are broken, you will still divorce, so why do you have to do that piece of paper?
For children, it also means:
I also don't interfere with the love and marriage of my children, they get married if they want to, they don't get married if they don't want to get married, as long as they live their own lives.
It can be seen that Li Xueke gave birth to three children out of wedlock, and this matter itself is more like a simple expression of women paying more and more attention to their feelings and needs.
And, if her experience is real and legitimate, then she starts her own business, dares to work hard, and takes control of her own destiny.
By today's standards, which one is not wonderful and which one is not the style of a new woman.
Therefore, under the framework of the law, perhaps the most important thing to see is not an "unmarried mother", but an unmarried mother, a rational consideration of getting rid of identity and reshaping her destiny.
There is a sentence that Li Xueke said is quite right.
Family is not a retreat, marriage is not a retreat, only your own ability is the greatest confidence, and only independence can make the soul stand tall.
And for us, as the saying goes:
We can toss and turn in love and marriage, and don't forget to learn to grow ourselves.
Abide by the law and be yourself.
That's enough.
Light up [like] + [watch], in life, every choice is very important, I hope we can all be careful.
Images and sources:
"30-year-old beautiful model gave birth to mixed triplets in test tubes: spending 100,000 a month, saving enough money to raise children into adults", The Paper, 2022.01.25
"Single Mom and Her IVF Triplets", The Paper, 2022.01.25
"30-year-old single female Internet celebrity "borrow sperm to give birth", give birth to mixed triplets, can you raise children without a man? ,Moms Network Parenting, 2021.12.13
Big V Fury? Super beauty model buy British sperm to give birth to triplets moonflow 100,000 controversy! , Mordor, 2022.01.26
"I, unmarried, gave birth to three mixed-race babies alone at the age of 30", since PAI, 2021.11.24
Author: ZhengJing'er, Source: Zhengjing Auntie (ID: zjshener) columnist, a pen, two cats, the heart is hotter than the text.
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