Xie Jin had two silly sons, the third and fourth. The third elder's eyebrows were sparsely dropped, and he was lying on the door hole all day long. Every day as long as Xie Jin went out from the door, he would lie on the door hole and watch, in addition to eating and sleeping, he stood at the door hole to see, his legs were sore, his eyebrows were worn off, he didn't care, as long as the electric bell rang, he would lie down on the door hole to see, recognize who it was, and then decide whether to open the door or not.
What the outside world was like, he didn't know, Xie Jin went outside to do something, he didn't know. In fact, he didn't want to know, because Xie Jin was his world.
Xie Jin
Xie Jin made a movie called "Daystar", and there is such a scene in the movie, which is very intriguing. Once, the little protagonist of the movie, Xie Chenchen, was lost, and his father Xie Changgeng was in a hurry. He ran all over the streets near his home and eventually saw his son in a dumpster who was being bullied by his friends. Seeing this scene, Xie Changgeng rushed up like a madman, drove away the other children, and took out the dirty and smelly morning from the garbage can.
This scene touched many people at that time, and Xie Jin himself also liked it. But everyone didn't know that this touching scene was not generated out of thin air, but Xie Jin's own personal experience.
During that time, Xie Jin and his wife Xu Dawen were very busy, and only the elderly and frail parents were left in the family, with the two grandchildren of the old three and the fourth, who were not healthy in IQ, and the four people were crowded in two huts. At this time, there is no parent to support around, and the third and fourth elders soon become the target of frequent bullying by the neighbor's children.
One day, Xie Jin had time to return home, and when he came back, he saw the third oldest, the fourth oldest being stuffed into the garbage bin, and there were several children singing and dancing happily next to him. Xie Jin immediately chased away the other children and took his son out of the dumpster, and his heart was broken. Sometimes Xie Jin couldn't understand why God wanted to do this to him and his children, and it wasn't enough for the children to continue to suffer from others.
This incident made Xie Jin always grumble, always feeling that he was sorry for these two children, and owed them too much. After his death, his wife, Xu Dawen, recalled: "He said that the most regrettable thing in his life for his two children was to bring them to this life to suffer." ”
So whenever someone mentions "Wrangler", "Furong Town", "Legend of Tianyun Mountain", three films related to Xie Jin's own experience, hooking him to recall the painful past, he mostly laughs, except for the fact that the old three and four were stuffed into the garbage can, and when he mentioned it, he burst into tears, he felt that he owed them in his previous life, and this life came to collect debts, but he was willing, he was willing to give all his love to these two children, even if this love was doting in the eyes of others.
From the child's teeth and teeth to the child's slow growth, he blamed all the causes of the child's disease on himself. However, with the beginning of the 1950s, Xie Jin's "Women's Basketball No. 5" and "Red Women's Army" two masterpieces came out one after another, Xie Jin became famous, and since then the film has continued to be busy.
Moreover, Xie Jin's requirements for the quality of the shots are extremely high, which also lengthens the shooting cycle of each of his films, and he spends more time running outside and less and less time to go home. Xie Jin and his family gradually gathered less and more, and he could not often accompany his son at home, so he felt very guilty, so as long as he had free time, he would willingly serve his sons.
Others always say that children always have to leave their parents when they grow up, just like the young eagles that grow up always have to fly high, but such things do not exist in xie jin's family. His two young sons had broken their wings from the time they were born into this world, and he could only be the mother of the sheep who had been nursing all his life, taking a sip of milk for this child who would never grow up. He was trapped by these two children, but he did not complain to heaven, he just used his broad shoulders to tie these two children to his body, step by step, very steadily.
Xie Jin and his wife Xu Dawen had a total of four children, three sons and one daughter. There is only one brain with normal brains, and that is Xie Yan. Xie Yan's two younger brothers are the third and fourth elders mentioned above, both of whom have seriously unsound IQs, and the older sister's situation is not good.
These children were born at the beginning of the founding of New China, at that time there was no special education school for disabled children, there was no way, Xie Jin had to shut all his troubles in the home, what happened inside the door, how hard it was to take these two children, no one knew, and in addition to taking the children, he still had such a heavy work, how tired, he never told others. He picked up all the suffering on his shoulders and did not say a word!
The child grows up day by day, and the child goes through different stages of life, and it is Xie Jin and his wife who take care of them little by little. When he was a child, the child could not take chopsticks, Xie Jin held the child's hand to eat with the dish, the child would not tie the shoelaces, he specially bought shoes with stickers, the three and four always pasted the shoes wrong, and he did not tire of pasting them back. In order to let them do what they can and develop their intelligence, Xie Jin also specially bought a stone mill, taught the children to grind soybean milk, pushed the stone grinding for a while, the father and the child changed shifts, and sometimes the father and son will also push the stone mill together, this kind of ordinary people look simple and happy, and it is particularly precious here in Xie Jin.
For every boy, shaving is an essential lesson in their growth. But for the old three and four with intellectual disabilities, shaving has become the work of his father Xie Jin, in addition to mastering when his son should shave on time, in order to avoid the scratching of the son by the manual razor, Xie Jin also specially bought an electric razor.
For Xie Jin, these two children were never burdensome, but a gift from Heaven, their pure hearts were like the best potion to heal his life, and he never hesitated to show the two treasures he cherished most to others.
His cooking skills are very good, often invite others to the house to eat, the visiting guests include Hollywood stars, French directors, Japanese producers, and then he will introduce the situation of his family to the guests, introduce his son, if the guest is a foreign friend, he will also ask the interpreter to introduce the situation of his son first, and then call them out. The fourth son, who is most familiar with the display of the Xie family, hears his father shouting at him, he will hold up the good wine prepared by his father to entertain the guests, and appear in front of everyone with a smile. The smile of the fourth elder is completely different from that of ordinary people, but after Xie Jin's introduction, everyone understands the sincerity contained in this smile, and it is this understanding that makes everyone understand why there is always power in Xie Jin's films, a force that can hold you tightly from the intricate emotions, that is a sincere spiritual force, and now they have finally found the source of this power.
Xie Jin also often takes his son out to see the outside world, and he wants the children to know how beautiful the world they live in is. His heart is very delicate, especially in front of his own children, and this kind of care often makes his wife Xu Dawen ashamed of herself. Ms. Zhang Huifang, general manager of Xie Jin Film Company, said that when she went to Quzhou, Zhejiang Province, she took a van, and the road took several hours. Xie Jin, who was sitting in the front row, was about to turn around after a while and ask, "Is the fourth old tired?" "Is the fourth old man okay?" "Does the fourth elder want to sleep for a while?" ......
Every time I looked back, the look, the ice melted.
Xie Jin once said that he is not a fool with an unsound IQ, they also have feelings, he knows that I love him, he does not say, but he uses actions to show that he also loves me. Although the children are not very good at expressing emotions in words, they feel the father's efforts in their hearts. They are also willing to give their love to their fathers.
Unlike the third, the fourth has been tasked with taking a bag and slippers for his father for decades. Every morning, dad went out, he handed him his bag and put away the slippers that dad had changed. When Dad came back that night, he took the bag and put his shoes on the floor. Decades like a day. Maybe the fourth elder didn't know why he put the slippers at the door every day, but he knew that as long as he put the slippers at the door, he would be able to wait until his father came home. Perhaps in his heart, every day Dad came home was the happiest thing.
Every New Year's Day, it is the happiest day for the three and four. They will return to their hometown in Shangyu before the New Year, and the joy of the festival makes the two children jump and jump like children. The fourth elder especially likes to paste the Spring League and the blessing word with his father, and his father is responsible for pasting it, and he is responsible for handing over the Spring League and the paste of the Spring League in the back. When eating Chinese New Year's Eve meal, Xie Jin always stared at the child, and once the child's face showed an unhappy look, he asked with concern.
However, on January 19, 1988, the Chinese New Year's Eve night of the year, Xie Jin did not return home for a long time. Xu Dawen had been shouting at the third and fourth elders to eat, but no matter what her mother called, the two brothers always stayed at the door and were not moved. The third elder was fine, he just sat quietly on the steps he loved most under the eaves, staring straight at the gate. The fourth elder seemed a little excited, and kept shouting at his father, Dad, he had set up the slippers at the door, and his mother put the slippers away, and he took them out again, just when the mother wanted to explain what to him, the phone rang.
He immediately rushed over to pick up the phone and asked, "Is it Daddy, Daddy, when are you coming back?" Xie Jin gently comforted his son and said, "Daddy is not coming back, you have to listen to your mother at home." You're going to work in the factory now, don't wear old shoes from before, Daddy is buying you new sneakers in America. Be obedient, don't be noisy. ”
At this time, Xie Jin could not go home because of the film "The Last Nobleman" in the United States, and he could not accompany his son at night Chinese New Year's Eve, and his heart was full of thoughts and reluctance. In the call with the fourth elder, Xie Jin always seemed to be coaxing a small child. Every time Xie Jin went out, he would carefully select gifts and toys for the fourth elder, but the fourth elder could only play with some toys that had almost no requirements for intelligence. When filming in the United States this time, Xie Jin also took the time to buy a toy to bring back to the fourth elder. In order to find a toy suitable for the old fourth, he looked for a long, long time. Because he knew that his son, the fourth eldest, was a child who would never grow up.
But as the days passed, the child was older and older, Xie Jin suddenly realized that he might leave first, and if he left, what would the third and fourth do. Children can't live independently, but at least they can teach them some basic life knowledge, develop their intelligence, and cultivate them to have some independence, so that even if they are gone one day, the child can live a good life.
Xie Jin began to teach the third and fourth elders to do some simple labor within their ability, and the fourth elder learned to fold the quilt, although the folding was not so neat, but the attitude was very serious. At the same time, the work of setting up the dishes and chopsticks also fell to the fourth elder. Every time it is time to eat, the fourth elder will put the family's dishes and spoons neatly on the table, and then put the chopsticks one by one, wait until Xie Jin is seated, and then pour wine for his father, which makes Xie Jin very happy. Usually at home, the fourth elder also has an important daily work, sorting out the newspaper, Xie Jin has the habit of reading the newspaper every day, and the fourth elder learns to sort out the newspaper for his father. Here is the morning newspaper, here is the evening newspaper, he has sorted them out clearly.
But a child who is too dependent on his father is not always a long-term solution. In order to thoroughly train the fourth elder, Xie Jin found a job for the fourth elder in the factory set up under the community street office. The fourth is very easy to learn, other workers like him and willing to teach, with the help of the workers, the fourth learned to file steel pipes with a file. Xie Jin also asked the nanny aunt to lead the old four to and from work every day, and taught the old four to recognize the way. After a period of time, Xie Jin gave the fourth elder an exam question, and Xie Jin let the fourth elder go to work by himself. When he went to work, the fourth elder himself walked to the factory, everyone thought that he had no problem when he came, and it must be no problem to go home, but it was a long time after work that night, and the fourth did not go home, and everyone realized that the fourth was lost.
At that time, Xie Jin was working overtime in the Shanghai Film Studio, when he heard the news that the fourth elder was lost, he hurried home without saying a word, he and the neighbors inquired, and went to the public security bureau to report the case, but the fourth elder had no news. In desperation, Xie Jin went to the editorial office of the Xinmin Evening News, found the editor-in-chief to explain his intentions, and hoped to publish a search notice in the middle of the Xinmin Evening News.
However, after Xie Jin finished speaking, the editor-in-chief frowned, and the original editor-in-chief thought that the effect of publishing in the middle seam was not necessarily good. Xie Jin is a famous director, and the disappearance of his son is also a piece of news, so it is better to write a social news in a prominent section. In this way, a social news article of "the son is lost and anxious for his parents, xie Jin is eager for readers to help find his beloved son" was published in the "Xinmin Evening News" on June 14, 1989.
Less than an hour after the news was reported, the phone of Xie Jin's family rang non-stop, and many people called to express their condolences and ask about the physical characteristics of the fourth elder in order to help find it. The last kind worker provided a clue, and Xie Jin and his wife followed his clues to Tianlin New Village, and sure enough, they found the fourth elder.
After this incident, in order to prevent similar situations from happening again, Xie Jin stuffed two group photos in his jacket pocket and made a small badge for the fourth elder, which read: My name is the fourth elder, I am Xie Jin's son, where the family lives, how many phones. This recruitment effect was remarkable, and after that, when the fourth elder left again, someone always sent him home.
The days looked like this, but accidents happened one after another in this unfortunate family. In 1991, when Xie Jin was filming the movie "Daystar", he suddenly received news from his family that the third elder was critically ill.
The third has always had a very serious asthma. He once said to a friend: "My son got asthma when he was three or two years old, and for so many years, whenever he was quiet in the middle of the night, he heard a strange sound coming from his throat, and his heart felt uncomfortable." Recently his illness has become worse, I took him to the hospital for treatment, the doctor said that his lungs are similar to the lungs of an eighty-year-old man, and I begged the doctor to save my child no matter what. ”
But this time, the scene that Xie Jin did not want to see finally happened, asthma was finally going to take away his poor child, he immediately put down his work, he was 68 years old, at this age he was white-haired and sent black-haired people, but he still had a strong spirit, and the ninja's inner grief rushed to the hospital.
Looking at the old third who was tormented by the pain in front of him, Xie Jin's tears fell down, and he walked step by step to the front of the third elder. The third elder tried to open his eyes, his eyes were not tormented by illness, but full of joy at seeing his father, he tried to raise his hand, trying to reach his father, but he had no strength, he could only open his mouth and snort. Xie Jin reached in front of his son's eyes and reached out to touch his hair, which was the most intimate and familiar way between father and son.
Xie Jin asked him softly, "Old Third, are you uncomfortable?" ”
The old third opened his mouth and spat out the last few words: "I'm sad." He closed his eyes forever.
The third elder finally hung his breath and wanted to see his father for the last time, and then his father came and gave him the last ride. Xie Jin told others about this matter very calmly, and there was no choking. But the listener couldn't stand it, covered his mouth, and ran to another room. The third elder may not be able to govern well, but His father's love, he is not stupid, he knows His father's love, he wants to see his father for the last time, his father finally came, he has no regrets.
The third elder left, and Xie Jin held a simple funeral for him. His back was still tall and tall, but this suddenly reduced burden not only did not make him feel a sigh of relief, but made him a little more old.
Once at a banquet, Xie Jin, who has always been a good wine, rarely did not covet a cup, he held the wine glass, and muttered in a sad tone: "Before going back to my hometown, if I went out to go home during the day, the third elder would definitely sit on the steps under the eaves and wait for me to come back, but when I went back this year, there was no one on the steps under the eaves." ”
The old third who was always lying on the cat's eye of the house waiting for him, the old third who sat on the steps of his hometown, never appeared again.
The death of the third elder caught Xie Jin by surprise, he locked himself in the room all day, he realized that if one day, he suddenly left, what would the fourth elder do. He had to think about the future of the fourth elder.
In fact, as early as a few years ago, Xie Jin had already made preparations. He built a large mansion in his hometown of Shangyu several years ago and spent 300,000 yuan. At that time, the 300,000 was not a small amount, in order to raise so much money, he saved all his salary over the years, he usually wore the iconic dark green burlap suit, his suit added up to no more than three sets, the clothes he wore were basically sent by friends and fans. He kept all the money in order to guarantee the life of the third and fourth elders.
But now that the third elder was gone, his heart was suddenly empty. For several days, he didn't see the third elder, and the fourth elder also noticed something strange, and he asked his parents curiously, where did his brother go?
Xie Jin just touched his head and told him, your brother, he has gone to play far away, and it will take a long time to come home. And repeatedly told the relatives and friends around him not to explain to the fourth elder what death was. Now he could only give all his love, all his pampering, to the fourth elder.
Xie Jin had a title called The Great King of Moutai . When he went to Japan to participate in a film festival, when he left, a man who claimed to be the king of Moutai came to the Chinese delegation to fight for wine, and Xie Jin'er came out to fight without saying a word. The person who came opened a whole bottle of Maotai and poured the bottle of wine into two large cups on average, and pushed one of the cups in front of Xie Jin, Xie Jin picked up the wine glass, raised his neck and drank the half bottle of Maotai away, the Moutai king next to him saw this scene dumbfounded, helplessly the whole scene was coaxed, he had to drink according to Xie Jin's drinking method, but only half of it, he could not do it. Everyone present applauded Xie Jin when they saw the situation, and the laurel of the Moutai King deservedly fell on director Xie Jin's head.
Xie Jin's wife, Xu Dawen, once said that my old Xie could not operate, and I was afraid that the anesthetic would be useless to him. Xie Jin's nerves, three pounds of yellow wine can not be paralyzed, the hospital anesthetics, I am afraid that he has no way.
For Xie Jin, who loves to drink so much, no friend outside can persuade him, but when he returns home, it is different. At home, the fourth elder will sometimes accompany his father to drink a few drinks, and when a son can drink with his father, it means that the son has grown up. Although the fourth elder did not understand this truth, whenever he accompanied the wine, Xie Jin was always very pleased.
But Xie Jin was relieved to be relieved, how much this wine to drink is not his final say, he has restrictions at home, drink more and drink less all the old four have the final say, the old fourth said that today's father you drank enough, can not drink, Xie Jin will put down the wine glass, immediately do not drink.
Director Xie Da, who can't manage anyone, has to be obedient to the younger son, and it can be seen that Xie Jin is almost doting on the fourth elder, and the fourth elder not only has to manage his father's drinking, he also supervises his father's health.
Xie Jin's home has three large glass bottles containing rice, millet and dates. Usually, when he was at home, at night, the old fourth child ran to the three large bottles, grabbed a large handful from each bottle, and handed it to his mother to boil into a multi-grain porridge.
When the porridge was ready, the fourth elder served him to his father, who worked in front of the book, and then he observed from the side, until he confirmed that his father had drunk the health porridge, and he was willing to leave the study.
The fourth elder became more and more sensible, and Xie Jin was also very relieved, but unfortunate things once again came to this family, this time it was the eldest xie yan in the family. Originally, according to Xie Jin's idea, after a hundred years, he could entrust the fourth elder to the care of his eldest son, Xie Yan. Xie Yan is the only child with normal intellectual development of Xie Jin, and he is also an outstanding film director, the most outstanding son of Xie Jin, and the most powerful helper.
Xie Yan was a great filial piety, he rarely rebelled against his father, and even in order to assist Xie Jin's career in his later years, he once gave up his shooting plan. At home, Xie Yan is also the most responsible big brother and the one who most reassures Xie Jin. Xie Jin once said to Xie Yan in a serious tone, if I am not here in the future, you will take good care of your brother.
This sentence made Xie Yan, who had already loved the fourth elder, more attentive to his brother, but misfortune once again came to the Xie family.
After directing the drama "The Last Night of Jin Daban", Xie Yan found out that he had liver cancer. Xie Yantai knew that his parents' lives were under pressure, and he had been hiding his illness from the old man, and secretly sold all his property in the United States, and wrote a will, hoping to be buried with his brothers. He took care of everything, put on a clean set of clothes, went to the hospital, and never came out.
He begged the people around him not to let his father and mother come to the hospital. He said that his father is too famous to attract the media as soon as he comes, and his current image will make his father and mother sad. He kept saying, "Don't come, don't come, don't let them come..."
Yu Qiuyu's "Xie Jia Men Kong" once described this past as follows:
Until a week before he died, people around him said, now you must let your father and mother come. This time, he didn't speak.
Xie Jin had always thought that his son was hospitalized with a general illness, and he had no idea that the matter was so serious. In front of him, the only son he could talk to was no longer the same.
He stood like a statue that had suddenly dried up, in front of a hospital bed, for a long, long time.
Xie Yan said to him with difficulty, "Dad, I'm causing you trouble!" ”
He said in a trembling voice: "We treat, child, it doesn't matter, we treat..." From this day on, he accompanied his wife to the hospital every day.
Xie Yan, who is single, is already fifty-nine years old, but now he keeps asking every day before the old man arrives: "Why hasn't Dad come yet?" Why hasn't Mom come? Why doesn't Dad come yet? ”
On that day, he was in so much pain that he asked for morphine, but the doctor hesitated, but fortunately there were volunteers from the Tzu Chi Meritorious Society to sing Buddhist songs, and he was calm. Xie Jin and his wife accompanied their son, and they stayed with him almost all night that night. The staff was afraid that the two eighty-year-olds would not be able to hold on, and urged them to go home for a while to rest. However, before the two old men's cars arrived home, Xie Yan died.
Xie Yan was gone, and Xie Jin didn't have time to grieve. Because he did not dare to reveal his sorrow to the fourth elder. More than ten years ago, the third elder left, the fourth finally did not ask any more questions, and now that the eldest brother is gone, he does not know how to say it to the fourth elder.
But he soon stopped thinking about it. A few months later, in the midst of infinite regret, Xie Jin died. That time, he went back to his alma mater, Chunhui Middle School, to do activities, and that night he ate some cold food at the hotel and fell asleep. He slept to his left and never woke up again.
At this moment, in his home in Shanghai, only the fourth elder remains. His wife was admitted to the hospital with heart problems. The fourth elder did not know what death was, the two brothers were gone, Xie Jin said not to tell him, and now Xie Jin himself was gone.
In the past two days, many people from home have come, not only the funeral home, but also many people have sent white flowers. The electric bell kept ringing there, and the only thing that came in when the old man opened the door was white flowers, not Daddy. Where did Dad go, and why didn't he come home yet. The flowers at home blocked Dad's slippers, and the old fourth Nunu mouthed, very unhappy, he bent down, slowly pulled out Dad's slippers, neatly arranged, carefully placed by the door.
Xie Jin left, and I felt that I should make an ending at the end, just like all previous articles, writing what I should learn from Xie Jin. But I thought about it and didn't know what to say. Learn from him, learn what? His artistic life, his father's love is like a mountain. No, really can't, his life has its own particularity, and what can we do except gratitude, I thought about it and let's commemorate it forever with Wu Benxing's "Don't" in my heart.
You went, leaving no address, only a string of smiles, in the setting sun; you went, without talking to anyone, leaving only a pair of eyes, in the dew; you went, without saying where to go, leaving only a row of shadows, in the small river. You're gone, your smile melting into the setting sun, your eyes shaking in the dewdrops, your shadows swaying in the river. Everywhere there is sunset, where there is dew, where there is river water, you go and leave the whole you!