In the impression of many people, many people may not be at ease with the elderly to raise their children, first, the education level of the elderly is mostly not as good as that of young people, and second, the elderly will spoil the children too much and spoil the children.
There are many schools that have this rule, and parents will not allow grandparents to come.
Modern research shows that the children grandmas educate are more gifted
A Russian psychologist did a survey in which she conducted a study at a private school in Moscow and sampled 30 students to test their creativity, and the results surprised her.
The conclusion is that children raised by their grandmothers are very creative, about 40% higher than ordinary children, and their way of thinking is more distinctive than that of their peers, and they will come up with many solutions.
These are the characteristics of genius.
Another test illustrates the problem as well
In order to find out whether it is true or false, some experts went to a middle school on the outskirts of the city to investigate.
The test was conducted on 180 third- and fourth-graders.
And this time, there is no doubt that the children who were raised by their grandmothers were 28% more creative than their peers.
Grandma's indulgence gives the child creativity
Compared with parents, grandma's love for children is more reflected in connivance, grandma prefers to let them do what they think is right by the child's nature, and will often praise the child's intelligence, which will give the child a lot of confidence, will be very assertive, but will also be willful.
And parents will be relatively strict, they will be high requirements for their children, but also will think that they are correct ideas to teach children, this method belongs to the low-risk education method, that is, will not indulge children, but there are certain drawbacks, that is, it is easy to let children have no opinion.
Grandma taught the children to have lower intelligence
These children, while powerful in creativity, are slightly less intelligent, and in terms of intelligence, the children educated by grandma are 10% lower than the children taught by their parents.
They are slightly more difficult to learn and are not easily adapted to the learning program developed by the school.
It turns out that the parents' way of educating helps the child to increase intelligence.
They are strict and supervise them, so that the growth of children's thinking ability can play a catalytic role, because the children taught by parents will think a lot of things, and their thinking is more rigorous.
The children educated by grandma are more active in their thinking, and the style of doing things will be arbitrary, to put it bluntly, it is from the nature of the brain.
Excessive coddling can harm the child
The lethality of coddling is enormous, it will make children accustomed to enjoyment and dependence, and curb children's creative and open thinking; suppress children's independence and autonomy; restrict children's determination and ability to act responsibly; especially stifle children's ability to bear risks and setbacks.
Just like plants, it is not good to grow without experiencing wind and rain.
If the family with better conditions is overly spoiled, the consequences will be more serious, and the child will have an illusion of "good blood" from an early age, and it is easier to see no one, no courtesy, and no motivation to work hard.
Money can ruin children
There is such a story.
This wealthy family has a child, the parents are out and about for years to earn money, and the children are cared for by a nanny. His parents often gave him a lot of pocket money to make their childhood happier.
However, the eldest son does not like to read after the age of 18, can not find a sense of achievement in learning, just look for materials, spend every day drinking, girlfriends change for a few days, and make a lot of people in society.
When parents want to discipline their son, he learns to ask for money and smash the door without giving it. Until that day he sneaked out, ran to the street to stop the car, and smashed the bricks one by one...
Eventually, the child was sent to a mental hospital.