There are two children in the family, and the most worrying thing for parents is that the children are not harmonious, and there are often various contradictions and frictions.
When encountering this kind of problem, parents often feel helpless, reprimand this one, and fear that the other will say that they are "eccentric".
So many parents will sigh, can't Dabao and Erbao really get along harmoniously?
First, the younger brother helps the sister to see the duck, and the strong family affection attracts the admiration of netizens
In fact, it is not like this, in Luoyang, Henan, there is a pair of young ladies and brothers who can take care of each other and be considerate of each other, and that kind of strong family affection can be reflected in the details of life, which makes people very moved.
On this day, my sister saw that it was snowing, very happy, quickly went downstairs to use the snowball clip to make a "snow duck", it took more than 40 minutes, made more than 200 "snow ducks", lined up in a neat queue, looking particularly cute.
But my sister didn't appreciate enough, so she had to go to online classes, so she reluctantly went upstairs. At this time, the younger brother was afraid that others would trample the "snow duck", so he offered to help his sister "see the duck".
At that time, the weather was very cold, but my brother had been sitting honestly next to the "duck", with a very serious expression.
The sister did not want her brother to be frozen, and called him several times upstairs, telling him not to look at it and hurry upstairs, but the responsible brother was unwilling to leave, and the sister still had to go to class, and there was no way to take care of him.
As a result, the younger brother actually sat from 3 o'clock in the afternoon to more than 5 o'clock, and in order to protect his sister's "works", he preferred to be frozen, but he had no complaints...
After netizens learned of this matter, they praised this lovely brother, saying that although he was young, he loved his sister, and he had special perseverance and a sense of responsibility, and he would stick to one thing to the end and would not give up halfway.
There are also netizens who praise the sisters and brothers for having a good relationship, and one netizen also said particularly helplessly: "This is someone else's brother, changed my brother, don't say help me see the duck, no foot on a thin piece is good!" ”
Second, children live in harmony, inseparable from the correct guidance of parents
I believe that parents will feel particularly warm when they see such things, and they will also envy the parents of the brothers and sisters, and want to know how they usually educate their children.
Indeed, the pattern of children getting along with each other is largely influenced by their parents. Parents must not only achieve "a bowl of water to be flat", but also give the necessary guidance to the big treasure and the second treasure respectively.
1. Education treasure, pay attention to cultivating a sense of responsibility
For Dabao, from the time when his parents decide to want the second treasure, they should take into account the psychological changes of Dabao, give him enough care, and let him know that the love of his parents will not be reduced because of one more child.
Of course, parents have limited energy, when the second treasure just came to the family, parents need to allocate time and energy to take care of the newborn, the treasure may be slightly ignored, this point should also be explained to the treasure in advance, so that he has a psychological preparation, so that there will not be too much psychological gap, and will not think that "parents do not want me."
In addition, when taking care of and educating the second treasure, parents can invite Dabao to join him, and can assign him some small tasks within his ability, which will not only make the two children closer, but also cultivate Dabao's sense of responsibility and enhance his sense of achievement.
2. Educate the two treasures, pay attention to avoid excessive spoiling
For the second treasure, parents should pay attention not to spoil too much while caring for and pampering, so as not to increase the child's dependence, and at the same time, it will also have a bad impact on the big treasure.
Parents should treat Erbao in an equal way, and can tell him: "You and your brother/sister are the most beloved children of your parents, and your parents love you the same." ”
Usually, parents should give the same attention to the two children, and guide the second treasure to learn some good qualities in the big treasure, but do not compare the two children with each other and say "he is better than you", which will seriously hurt the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, and will also cause the child to be estranged.
Third, if a child has a conflict, parents should handle it with caution
So, in the daily relationship, if there is friction or conflict between two children, how should parents deal with it?
First of all, mom and dad can first maintain the role of "bystander" and let the children solve problems on their own.
Sometimes the child may have some small misunderstandings, small contradictions, after a period of time will forget the back of the mind, the child can play together, so parents do not have to rush to intervene.
The second is to pay attention to fairness, not to criticize a child indiscriminately, or insist on letting the big treasure give way to the second treasure, which will only make the relationship between the children more tense.
Third, if there is a more serious conflict, such as sometimes Dabao deliberately bullying Erbao without any reason, he wants to attract the attention and attention of his parents.
At this time, parents should stop it in time, and reflect on whether they have let Dabao be neglected, if there is, they must correct their behavior, and then apologize to Dabao, and then guide the two children to communicate and improve their way of getting along.
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