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As people get older, they are always more and more afraid of death. Therefore, when giving birthdays to those who are older, people often wish them blessings such as the East Sea and the South Mountain, hoping that they can live longer.
But sometimes living too long is not a blessing, and the truth of living too late is also applicable to life.
Although we do not know what the nature of life is now, it is certain that limited life is more meaningful.
If life can be extended indefinitely, then people will not have expectations for the future, and there will be no motivation to seize the time to realize their dreams.
Finite life gives people reasons to develop themselves, while death destroys all one's existence. Because of this, continuity has a meaning of inheritance, and the sense of oppression that death brings to people also makes practical sense of what we do. Therefore, for the elderly, living too long may not be a good thing.
Because what we do makes sense because we have the power to act from the heart, and the old man has lived too long and has lost this ability, they are just a shell that cannot control themselves.
As time goes by, when an old man is only able to lie dying in bed, relying on the hospital and his family to keep fit.
They can no longer make any movements, and they will feel like a shell inside, without any real sense of living experience.
This is obviously a fatal blow, and some people will even voluntarily give up their lives because of it. Perhaps many people cannot experience this feeling, in fact, psychologists have done similar experiments.
They let the two girls lie in a small space like a coffin, although there were breathing devices in it, and the girl could ask for it when she couldn't hold on.
Psychologists predicted that the two girls could stay inside for an hour, but in just about 10 minutes, both girls began to call for help.
In fact, psychologists have prepared enough food and water for them, and even delicious fruits and snacks can meet any of their life needs.
20 minutes for a person, not even need to eat anything, but just such a 10 minute wait has made the two girls so panicked.
It turns out that human survival not only needs necessary items such as food and water, but also a certain amount of information feedback.
Only with feedback can a person have the greatest sense of experience, and if any action a person does not get a response, he will fall into an eternal state of unknown, feeling the horror similar to death.
And those who have lost their ability to act are very much in line with this state, because they are incapacitated, even if they have suicidal thoughts, they may not be able to complete this behavior.
At the same time, in the eyes of the elderly, they themselves are also a drag on their relatives.
Although the old man's body has been old for a long time, his mind is still sober, and they will also have their own personality concepts, and they are not willing to live without backbone humiliation.
At the same time, people living in the world are often affected by the relationship of interests, if there is no benefit to be obtained, most people are not willing to sacrifice themselves for a long time.
Human indifference is very normal, only when people and people establish a good exchange relationship, the two sides can like each other, harmonious and long-term coexistence. Even a related child will not be willing to take care of an elderly person who will only drag down the family and have no ability to move for a long time.
Family members take care of such an old man, in addition to the real emotional needs of their own, there are also some people who are unwilling to take the initiative to end his life because they are constrained by morality.
But the elderly will feel that they are disliked everywhere in life, and they often have incontinence or make all kinds of embarrassing sounds.
Even if the family does not clearly point out that they resent this behavior, the elderly will have too much psychological burden on themselves, thinking repeatedly, and the subtle expression changes of others, afraid that they will not do a good job. In this way, the old man will not feel that he is living with dignity, but will be sent to the fence and humiliated to the extreme.
This vicious interaction will not make the elderly feel that their lives are valuable, but will make them lose their last dignity.
Of course, in any case, with the development of science and technology, human life expectancy will inevitably be extended, and the quality of life will become higher and higher. Perhaps in the near future, we can achieve the unity of vitality and action.
Only in this way can we continue to do what we want to do in old age and make life more meaningful and valuable.
We also hope that we can respect the wishes of the elderly and let them decide for themselves whether to continue to live. Enjoying every day of creating value is something that the elderly and young people need to do, and only in this way can the true liberation of humanity be realized.
I hope that one day in the future, society can also do this, to achieve a true sense of human liberation. Why do people say that it is not necessarily a blessing for the elderly to live too long? This is because the true meaning of life lies precisely in its finiteness.
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205